am I over thinking this????? Shannon +4 Due February 16; 52 kids; Beaumont, Alberta 7711 posts
6th Jul '13

Im at hospice my mil is about to pass away I feel like dh family doesnt want me here but yet dh wants me here so I feel awkward and I feel panicked. Am I just over thinking this???? I also feel bad they have to see me pregnant since mil really wanted to meet this baby but she won't and I feel like everyone is thinking that... this is so tough ive never dealt with a death im just trying to be there for dh :'(

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
6th Jul '13

You need to be there for your husband if he wants you there. His family can suck it. You're married

*M3* 2 kids; Florida 11720 posts
6th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" You need to be there for your husband if he wants you there. His family can suck it. You're married"</blockquote>

My feelings :)

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
6th Jul '13

You're his wife. If you weren't there people would wonder. I assure you no one is thinking about you.

Subtle As A Hurricane 2 kids; Texas 4126 posts
6th Jul '13

The best thing you can do is just be there for your MIL and your husband. Death sucks. I have yet to find anything to help make it better besides just being there and being supportive.

Vicki McDonald Due September 28 (boy); 3 kids; Belleville, Ontario 927 posts
6th Jul '13

Be there. Definitely be there. it is possible that the feeling that you are getting from his family is just that they are wishing that she could have met your babe and it really has nothing with not wanting you there but wishing that the timing was different. They also may just be dealing with their own grief and don't know how to include you in that. Regardless, DH needs you, and I'm certain that your MIL would want you there, even if for no other reason than to know that her son has someone to comfort him. In this situation, they are really the only 2 that matter.