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Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 22168 posts
6th Jul '13

Their faces broke my heart! It's not abuse but its definitely a jerk move.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
6th Jul '13

if some photographer did that to my kid for the sake of so called 'art' Id punch them in the head and take a photograph of it. Seriously what asshole parents let this happen to their kids?

JΔ$ Georgia 76460 posts
status 6th Jul '13

Looking at those pics actually made me sad but I am a weak sauce when it comes to crying children. Knowing that they were really upset over something made it worse. That was mean as hell.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27497 posts
status 6th Jul '13

I thought it was an interesting idea in the fact that life isn't fair, but in the sense that you might have something in front of you and in an instant it can be snatched away. Life fucking sucks. However... we shouldn't be giving lessons like that to our children. We need to show children that life isn't always fair, but do it in an appropriate manner. It is mean to say "Here baby, here is a lollipop LIFE SUCKS KID! IM TAKING IT AWAY! BUCK UP! Well, wait, you are a baby, here ya go, you can have it back!"



I find the idea for maybe older kids in a better manner, better executed, would be perhaps something I'd want to look into. But this was kind of mean, however ABUSIVE? Those comments made me giggle. It was a tad mean, but nothing I really would give that much of a second glance to. It did seem interesting to me and I wanted some thoughts of ya'll :)

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11735 posts
6th Jul '13

i think it is mean and would never participate.



is it abusive.... not if it is this one time.



however repeatedly confusing a child using whatever object to make them cry on purpose ya i would say that is.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49343 posts
7th Jul '13

If my kid acted like that just because something was taken away, even if it had been given to them, they could sure bet they wouldn't be getting it back. My 1 year old doesn't even act like that when he gets something taken away.

JΔ$ Georgia 76460 posts
status 7th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" If my kid acted like that just because something was taken away, even if it had been given to them, they ... [snip!] ... could sure bet they wouldn't be getting it back. My 1 year old doesn't even act like that when he gets something taken away. "</blockquote>



Yeah because children aren't suppose to cry. As someone who has a very sensitive and emotional daughter, what you said is insanely stupid. Don't compare your kid to other children. Your child isn't near perfect. I don't know of any small child who wouldn't cry if something was given to them then taken away for NO reason seconds later. I actually think its weird that your kid wouldn't "act like that" but meh.

3sACrowd 3 kids; Alaska 3391 posts
7th Jul '13
Quoting Jas ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" If my kid acted like that just ... [snip!] ... to them then taken away for NO reason seconds later. I actually think its weird that your kid wouldn't "act like that" but meh."

I agree...My kids would be pretty hysterical over this.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75033 posts
status 7th Jul '13
Quoting Jas ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" If my kid acted like that just ... [snip!] ... to them then taken away for NO reason seconds later. I actually think its weird that your kid wouldn't "act like that" but meh."

:!:

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49343 posts
7th Jul '13
Quoting Jas ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" If my kid acted like that just ... [snip!] ... to them then taken away for NO reason seconds later. I actually think its weird that your kid wouldn't "act like that" but meh."


I didn't compare my kid to anyone else's in a manner of expectations of how others should behave. I simply said that wouldn't be acceptable behavior in our family to have a tantrum over something being taken away, let alone a lollipop. And no, he doesn't throw a fit and cry and get hysterical when we take something from him. I couldn't care less what other people's kids do, I just said mine sure wouldn't be getting something if they threw a fit over it. Everyone has different expectations in their family of the children, and we don't accept fits over things, especially candy.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75033 posts
status 7th Jul '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I didn't compare my kid to anyone else's in a manner of expectations of how others should behave. I ... [snip!] ... Everyone has different expectations in their family of the children, and we don't accept fits over things, especially candy."

That's just weird imo. I mean, it's not about candy. It's someone bigger than the child enforcing their will on them and the child being helpless to stop it. It might be just candy to an adult but that's because adults have more valuable things. I could see a similar reaction coming from an adult who just had their purse or phone snatched from someone bigger and stronger than them. They would feel violated and victimized.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49343 posts
7th Jul '13
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. , Richmond, VA, United States 75033 posts
status 7th Jul '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Yeah, I guess I could see it from that point of view. I was looking at it from the point of view that ... [snip!] ... can't have that" even if someone else had just given it to them, I'd expect them to accept that and not have a tantrum over it."

Ah, gotcha. That actually happened to me earlier. :lol:

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49343 posts
7th Jul '13
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. , Richmond, VA, United States 75033 posts
status 7th Jul '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Yeah, people are notorious for that crap. "Oh here honey have this!" "Uhh.. NO!" lol"

Right? lol.