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Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 8147 posts
8th Jul '13
Quoting Severus Snape:" :!: This. If there were feelings and exclusivity involved, it would be a relationship. Sex is just sex. ... [snip!] ... relationship. Sex is just sex. Not easy for everyone to separate it though. Some people have a harder time with it than others."


:!:



If you two are supposed to be just friends with benefits, and you are having feelings, then you need to tell him. Otherwise, if he doesn't feel the same then it isn't going to end well for you. The longer you wait, the worse off you will be.



Let him know how you are feeling. If he doesn't reciprocate then you should stop sleeping together. You never know, though, he may feel the same.

*~Bubba Love~* Due December 12 (girl); 17 kids; North Charleston, South Carolina 1728 posts
8th Jul '13

Sounds like you're trying to read too much into things hes saying..guys are simple, they mean what they say...BUT I have been married to my FWB for 3 years now and counting soooo...weirder things have happened

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
8th Jul '13
Quoting Mother of Dragons:" at the start though im the one that said i wasnt ready for a relationship and he said he just wanted to go with the flow"


Did he tell you he liked you?

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
8th Jul '13
Quoting A❤T=P&W:" and :?:"


I'm not that grammatically correct when I am tired?

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
8th Jul '13
Quoting Severus Snape:" :!: This. If there were feelings and exclusivity involved, it would be a relationship. Sex is just sex. ... [snip!] ... relationship. Sex is just sex. Not easy for everyone to separate it though. Some people have a harder time with it than others."


I feel like I have to reword my sentence. It was exclusively for sex but we had an understanding that if either one was starting to develop feelings then we would let the other know immediately and go from there.



If you like someone, you tell them, I feel that that is extremely important specially if it's a fwb, these whole playing games of "I think he likes me" and having those "conversations" that need deciphering is a no-go for me. I like to be direct and straight to the point.

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
8th Jul '13
Quoting A❤T=P&W:" Did he tell you he liked you?"


b4 we slept together he heavily insinuated it

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
8th Jul '13
Quoting Mother of Dragons:" at the start though im the one that said i wasnt ready for a relationship and he said he just wanted to go with the flow"


Sounds like you need to have a sit down and talk with him then. If you have feelings then a FWB relationship will not work. If his feelings are still there then maybe you can move up in the relationship. If not, then it's time to cut the cord and move on.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18109 posts
status 8th Jul '13

I got from that...



She is having a conversation with her FWB.



He tells her that she should tell people that she likes her feelings.
She said she could never do that because they might not feel the same.
He states he has only ever told two girls that he liked them. Then, he asked why she likes sleeping with him.



--- OP, if you like him, tell him. If you don't, this whole FWB thing will probably end bad when he does find a girlfriend.

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
8th Jul '13
Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:" I feel like I have to reword my sentence. It was exclusively for sex but we had an understanding that ... [snip!] ... me" and having those "conversations" that need deciphering is a no-go for me. I like to be direct and straight to the point."


well i have texted him basically saying that i liked him but he acts like he wants me to say it face to face for some reason and im too much of a coward lmao

user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
8th Jul '13

I can't believe this is a serious conversation. If you dig someone, grow the hell up and tell them like an adult. Same if you want to know if they dig you. God this seriously sounds like junior hs bullshit. :/

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
8th Jul '13
Quoting Mother of Dragons:" b4 we slept together he heavily insinuated it"


write him a letter
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user banned 1 child; :), :), United States 5380 posts
8th Jul '13

Uhh... that was really hard to follow.



You should probably just talk to him, where both of you are being straight forward.

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 8147 posts
8th Jul '13
Quoting Mother of Dragons:" b4 we slept together he heavily insinuated it"


But he didn't come out and say it. Us women tend to read into what is said a lot more than men.



None of us can really give you any advice, other than you need to talk to him about it. After you talk to him, you may have a better understanding of what he is thinking. Sounds to me you are pretty into him and do not want it to be just friends with benefits.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
8th Jul '13
Quoting Mother of Dragons:" well i have texted him basically saying that i liked him but he acts like he wants me to say it face to face for some reason and im too much of a coward lmao"


If you're brave enough to party naked with him, you have to find the bravery to have this convo. It'll tear you up inside until you get it out.

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
8th Jul '13
Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" I got from that... She is having a conversation with her FWB. He tells her that she should tell people ... [snip!] ... --- OP, if you like him, tell him. If you don't, this whole FWB thing will probably end bad when he does find a girlfriend. "


well honestly i thought it would be a one time thing. i would hold no resentment if he did not have any feelings. and he could but our lives are kind of complicated right now so im not looking for hey lets move in and get married right now just possibly dating if he was game. he was there for me and helped me through a very very rough time and I will always be appreciative of that.