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- I believe his story. -- Votes: 0
- He is lying. -- Votes: 76
This may get long, but please help me... Please don't quote.
My husband used to have an addiction to pills - about 5 years ago. We've been together for 4, but he was still dealing with some withdrawal. He started working in the pharmacy while going to school 2 years ago and sometimes I caught him with pills in his pockets, but he would NEVER own up to them. He quit working in the pharmacy in March 2013 because he graduated and got a job doing what he wants. Anyway, I have RA and have asked for pain medication two times since I've been diagnosed. They give me Tramadol. The first time they gave it to me I caught him taking one, so I figured I'd count them just to see (he was acting REALLY weird)...he had taken FIVE of them in two hours. I was so upset, and he saw that I was. Despite the pain, I threw them out because I didn't want him doing that again. Yesterday, I asked for a refill because my pain has never been so bad....I planned on keeping it hidden from him, but I ended up getting really sick off of it (took half a pill and felt fine, so took the other half - I'm supposed to take 2)... that was obviously too much for me. He was freaking out that I was throwing up so badly so I told him I had taken Tramadol. I had it hidden behind all the other pills... in the middle of the night he told me he was going downstairs "quick".. a couple hours later he was throwing up blood. I just KNEW that he took my Tramadol. I counted them and there were 3 unaccounted for.
Now, this morning he texts me and says he was getting his meds out with his breakfast and accidentally dumped some of my Tramadol out....and then flushed it since he "stepped on it"... I told him I counted them in the middle of the night, long before breakfast and there were 3 gone.... he keeps saying he didn't take them last night. He "dropped" some, but that's it.... I'm like 99.9% sure he's lying and it's upsetting to me that he wont' tell me the truth. There's another one missing this morning after I woke up. I have them hidden now, but I feel as if I'm going to have to throw them out again which sucks because this pain is unbearable..... what should I do..he's clearly lying... and has most likely taken 4 pills.. :?
Please don't quote.
He's lying. :(
He is clearly in need of some sort of help. You shouldn't have to suffer with pain and not be able to keep pills in the house because he can't keep his hands off them. I'd honestly tell him to get help or get out but that's just me.
I say he's lying. The one thing that confused me was how did he dump your medicine out? Didn't it have a child proof cap on it?
I hate to be so blunt but that's a f**king awful lie. Oh whoops I "accidentally" opened a pill bottle and dropped some?!?!
I don't believe him. Sorry. :( Addiction is a tricky beast, and that's not to say he's an awful person or anything, but he's lying.
Just keep them hidden. When he's home keep however many you think you will need in your pocket or something so he doesn't see you go to wherever they are hidden.
Quoting Jillybug's Mommy:" Just keep them hidden. When he's home keep however many you think you will need in your pocket or something so he doesn't see you go to wherever they are hidden."
OP-- if you need them, and he cannot be trusted, can you get a combo safe so that they are still accessible by you (and not in a pocket...) and not to him?
<blockquote><b>Quoting Melanie Nicole:</b>" He is clearly in need of some sort of help. You shouldn't have to suffer with pain and not be able to ... [snip!] ... pills in the house because he can't keep his hands off them. I'd honestly tell him to get help or get out but that's just me. "</blockquote>
I agree he needs help!!!!!!
Quoting Jerilyn:" I say he's lying. The one thing that confused me was how did he dump your medicine out? Didn't it have a child proof cap on it?"
No, because my hands are so swollen and painful that the lid just sits on top because I can't open a child proof cap :?
<blockquote><b>Quoting Kait.:</b>" No, because my hands are so swollen and painful that the lid just sits on top because I can't open a child proof cap :?"</blockquote>
Oh.... But if they were hidden in the back there's really no reason he should have been back there.
I want to say that, but I'm scared. We have three kids (two together and he has a 5 year old he has custody of)..I'm so afraid he'd be alone with them. Which he is a good dad, but I can't trust him not to take pills or smoke cigarettes around them if I'm not around. Ugh...
That makes me sad for you. He is obviously lying..
Fix this now before it spirals out of control.
He's lying :( DH has dealt with pill addiction, as well. I've sworn to myself that if he ever relapses again, I'm taking the kids and moving out until he gets help. He's been clean for 2 years now, and I can ALWAYS tell when he's taken pills. Is moving an option? Or kicking him out? I don't want to say to leave him, but you definitely need to make it clear how serious you are and that you can't continue to be with him if he's unwilling to get the professional help he clearly needs. I'm sorry you're dealing with this, trust me, I know exactly how it feels. :(