I would have left. I smoke, but I NEVER do it around DD. I always go outside with a "smoking hoodie/shirt and wash my hands before picking her up again. And I certainly wouldn't smoke in front of other people's kids. Even before I had DD, when a friend would come over with her kid I would always go outside to smoke, even though they were at my house. I had no problem doing that, at all. And if I'm smoking outside and someone walks past me with a child I'll be my cigarette out so I don't accidentally blow smoke in their direction.
<blockquote><b>Quoting S ♥ J ♥ L:</b>" in other people's houses? like, without even asking just pulling it out and lighting up? I hope that's ... [snip!] ... in when you smoke around her every time? and she has severe asthma, like a one year old on a nebulizer having asthma attacks. "</blockquote>
She takes her kid to my future FIL's house a lot, he's her dads friend, and smokes in there with her kid. I won't take LO over there now. I'm like dude you don't even smoke, why would you let that bitch smoke in your house :x . And she's always posting videos on vine of her and a friend smoking in the car with their two year olds. I'm like wow, so classy.
Quoting Cakes.:" I would have left. I smoke, but I NEVER do it around DD. I always go outside with a "smoking hoodie/shirt ... [snip!] ... outside and someone walks past me with a child I'll be my cigarette out so I don't accidentally blow smoke in their direction."
That is exactly what I use to do. I'm sooo happy I am finally beating this nasty addiction, and I'm proud I came as far as I have after smoking for 7 years before even getting pregnant. I don't want to smoke because I don't ever want DS to think it is acceptable or okay because "mommy and daddy do it." Even though he is only 14 months, from day one that I picked up when he was about 2 months old, I never will smoke in his sight, even if I am outside and he sees me through the window. I feel so ashamed and I never want him to see me doing it.
Quoting S ♥ J ♥ L:" That is exactly what I use to do. I'm sooo happy I am finally beating this nasty addiction, and I'm ... [snip!] ... his sight, even if I am outside and he sees me through the window. I feel so ashamed and I never want him to see me doing it. "
That's awesome that you're quitting! It's definitely a tough addiction to beat. I've cut down, A LOT, I'm hoping I can quit completely soon. Like you said, I don't ever want DD to think that it's ok just because her dad and I do it.
I also would have left. I don't allow smoking in my home or my car. We don't smoke but we have friends that do. I don't want it around my DD at all. Sucks the lady didn't get it. Her kids are the ones suffering most. One because they are constantly exposed and two, because most of thier friends had to leave early because its so bad. Hope she gets it through her head.
<blockquote><b>Quoting S ♥ J ♥ L:</b>" wow. That just infuriates me. I wish I could just stop all the smoking around little kiddos, everywhere, all the time, forever. lol"</blockquote>
Me too. And good for you for quitting! I quit a little over two years ago when I started dating SO. I was the same way though, never let DS see me do it. He had no clue until right before I quit because he saw me out the window.