PCOS and a wish upon a shooting star Natalia Madej Due October 14; Ontario 1 posts9th Jul
I was diagnosed with PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) at 18, 2 years ago. It was so severe, I wasn't menstruating for up to 8 months at a time and had many discomforts and side effects associated with having unstable hormones. When my doctor told me I would never easily have children, especially without treatments that could cost me thousands of dollars, I broke down. Knowing your womanhood was ripped out by a disorder that is completely out of your control was devastating; I would never have what other woman call the "biggest joy in one's life". For the first few months I was a wreck and bitter, especially when I would see a pregnant woman, a mother and her child or a family walking together. My doctor started me on estrogen pills to kick start my menstrual cycle because of the high chances of getting uterine cancer by not shedding your uterine walls. I started taking them and everything slowly started going back to "normal" I would get my period once every couple of months, which was better than nothing, but still wasn't able to conceive with a boyfriend. I finally pulled my head out of my a*s and just decided at 19 I wasn't going to keep crying about it, I was going to work on my career as a Travel Agent, become financially stable, fall in love, get married and pay for the treatments. I started working at a travel agency and worked so hard, I forgot about everything that transpired in the last year. I worked so hard that I didn't even have time to go out for a drink or two on the weekends, so when I said yes to a friend inviting me to go to a bar with his other friends, it was a life changing event...literally. I met his one friend who was really smart, extremely attractive and interested in who I was, so we became good friends and after a couple of months our friendship grew to something more. We later moved in together, and we were very happy together. THIS is where the story takes a twist, I was definitely not healthy, I smoked, I drank, and worked myself to the bone, there was no way my body could of recovered from that alone without luck not to mention recover from my PCOS. Then there was one night in Mexic. I had the opportunity to go away to Mexico to inspect the resorts with my work, so I took it even though it meant I wouldn't see my man for a week (we were and still are "clingy" to each other). I remember one night at the end of the work trip clear as day, where after a co-workers dinner hosted by the Blue Diamond Suites in the Mayan Riviera, most of the travel agents went out for a smoke under the stars on a balcony just off of the dining room area. I had a few smokes, and stayed the longest out of anyone on the balcony. I was looking up in the sky staring at the stars wishing my man was there with me when I noticed a shooting star. I've never seen one before then and I was so amazed by it, I almost forgot to make a wish, so I quickly closed my eyes and made a quick silly wish that any girl would have made. I wished that my man and I would stay together forever....and the embarrassing stuff like "I want to get married with him and have babies with him". When I came back from my trip everything was great, I was doing fantastic at my work with my sales, unfortunately I had some nasty co-workers that decided to spread rumours against me because of how young and successful I was (a couple of the co-workers that went on the trip with me) and they worked in a team to get me fired, it worked. I was devastated and just to make things worst my man got fired a week before me for all the wrong reasons, just a horrible beginning to the year. One thing I remember is, I came back from the trip in December, celebrated new years eve with my boyfriend and I remember us stating that its going to be a different year this year...something big is going to happen, of course right after we get fired so we thought that's what we predicted. A month went by and I started feeling funny, my period wasn't coming again for a while, so I stressed it was my PCOS acting up again, as a random act I bought a pregnancy test, knowing in my head it would be negative but at least I could rule it out before I go back to my doctor. What happened wasn't what I expected...I took one...it was positive, I didn't believe it, so I took another 2...and all 3 were positive. So in panic me and my boyfriend went to the doctors and it was all true, we were pregnant, even my doctor was shocked while he congratulated us. For the first little while it was a mad dash to find good jobs, an apartment and get prepared in what seemed like a short time for such a big life change (especially when I never thought I would have children). We ended up getting good jobs, finding an apartment and he proposed to me. Everything seemed so perfect just like my dreams when I was a little girl, you fall in love with your best friend, get engaged, have a baby and I sat and thought,
Garfield636 TTC since Apr 2013; 16 kids; Utica, Michigan 599 posts9th Jul
Amazing :) congratulations!
Mrs. Feliz. Due April 20; 1 child; New Jersey 7736 posts9th Jul
Beautiful story, congratulations to the both of you. Your story was very touching. :)
Sammiewhammy Due November 15; 4 kids; Tracy, CA, United States 231 posts9th Jul
That is such a beautiful and inspiring story. Thanks for sharing that. Congratulations!!! I'm so happy for you and you deserve all of your blessings! :)
ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21900 posts9th Jul
What a sweet story, congrats to you mama! I'd just like to tell you you're not alone. I was diagnosed with PCOS at 19. I was told the same thing, I'd probably never have kids, at least not on my own. I was completely devastated and I said the same thing you did. That I felt like my womanhood have been completely ripped away from me. I've completely defied the odds and am now pregnant with my THIRD girl. All 3 of them natural pregnancies. I know I have been very blessed.