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Ex-best friend *poll* user banned
10th Jul '13

So lots has happened between me and ex-best. Nothing really happened up until the month before my wedding. She was supposed to be my matron of honor. Just like I was her maid of honor. I was at the birth of her first born and she was the first visitor at the hospital when I had my first LO. I was the first to know she got pregnant at 16. She was the first person I called when my brother died. Shit, she was in the hospital with me and my sisters when my mom died and she was the last person my mom said anything to in her last coherent state before she died. Well, the month before my wedding I see her post a thing on social media saying, I booked my trip to Cali!! And I post You booked your flight for when I'm getting married! And she was private messaged me, sorry I won't be there to stand up with you and take pictures. My flight is not refundable. And my husband was like that's fucked up. You were planning this for a year and she bailed. He thinks she should have eaten the cost of her flights since she didn't thinkit though. Or maybe she did? I dunno. But I mentioned I'm getting together with her to my grandma and I hear her suck in her breathe and say you are stronger than me. You have a good back bone. So now I'm thinking WTF? Am I supposed to just delete her out of my life forever? We haven't even seen each other in 2 years. She hasn't seen the house I bought. I haven't seen the house she bought. I'm totally thinking I should just cancel and be like welp, sorry. Other things came up. Not because I don't wanna see her but because my husband and my grandma think I shouldn't. Ugh! WWYD?

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
10th Jul '13
Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:" So lots has happened between me and ex-best. Nothing really happened up until the month before my wedding. ... [snip!] ... Other things came up. Not because I don't wanna see her but because my husband and my grandma think I shouldn't. Ugh! WWYD?"

I'd honestly get over it. Id' weigh if I was more sad to have her out of my life than I am mad she wasn't there for my wedding & chances are, since I move on...I'd be more sad than mad 2 yrs later.



WTH was she going to Cali for anyway?

user banned 2 kids; Moses Lake, Washington 13508 posts
10th Jul '13

If you want to see her, see her. It's your call.

KillerMombie 3 kids; Belle Chasse, Louisiana 28282 posts
10th Jul '13

So she's decided to go to California instead of being there for your wedding, even though she is the matron of honor? I read that right?

The Pretender 2 kids; Brazil 1215 posts
10th Jul '13

Do what YOU wanna do. If you're a strong enough woman and friend to forgive something that big, then by all means, see her. Who cares what your hubs and granny think.

user banned Due April 2; Georgia 7200 posts
10th Jul '13

If it were me, and my supposed best friend, and she palnned a trip, when she knew durn well I was getting married in that time frame, and she was supposed to be in the wedding, I'd probably drop her like a bad habit. That would've proven to me how much she actually valued our friendship. She better have had a damn good reason for the trip. BUT, if you want to see her, then do it.

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
10th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting justanothamotha:</b>" I'd honestly get over it. Id' weigh if I was more sad to have her out of my life than I am mad she wasn't ... [snip!] ... my wedding & chances are, since I move on...I'd be more sad than mad 2 yrs later. WTH was she going to Cali for anyway?"</blockquote>



I was never mad. I was a little hurt. But everyone else thought it was this huge deal. She was going through a divorce right around the same time and I understood. Figured she couldn't/ didn't want to go to or be in a wedding.



That was the only thing that happened between us. And we went from seeing each other fairly often 1-2 times a month between working and kids it was hard to get together to after the wedding- never. I saw her once a year after that and now it's been 2 years.



We were best friends from 3rd grade until we were 22. IDK what happened. The wedding thing seems to be the main WTH is going on type deal. But like I said, I wasn't mad. She left and then we never got together. Reverting to her only texting. And now, here we are.

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
10th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting KillerMombie:</b>" So she's decided to go to California instead of being there for your wedding, even though she is the matron of honor? I read that right?"</blockquote>



Yes. And to answer^^ to have fun. She saw her cousin and chilled. That's all.

mrs.bedell 2 kids; Grand Forks, North Dakota 747 posts
10th Jul '13

I mean I am more forgiving than my DH'S I respect what he says but I am also my own person and can decide who is in my life or not

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
10th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Twin's Mommy:</b>" If it were me, and my supposed best friend, and she palnned a trip, when she knew durn well I was getting ... [snip!] ... valued our friendship. She better have had a damn good reason for the trip. BUT, if you want to see her, then do it."</blockquote>



That's how my hubby feels. But it's hard to do that. She was my best friend, even before I got my first period. We spent a month on my grandpas farm. Her house was my home. Her mom was like a second mom. We went through talking about our first kiss. Just everything. And I literally have seen her maybe 6 times in the past 5 years. So weird. Our kids are getting big. It makes me sad more than anything, really.

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
10th Jul '13

And, I don't even know why. If I did something? Or WTF happened. Everything was fine and then it wasn't. But we never got in a fight. She just ditched out.

user banned 2 kids; Moses Lake, Washington 13508 posts
10th Jul '13

People grow apart. It happens.

user banned Due April 2; Georgia 7200 posts
10th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Twin's Mommy:</b>" If it were me, and my supposed best friend, ... [snip!] ... seen her maybe 6 times in the past 5 years. So weird. Our kids are getting big. It makes me sad more than anything, really."</blockquote>



I know how you feel, something happened between my best friend and I as well. But she was supposed to be your BEST FRIEND and your wedding is supposed to be one od the best days of your life, and she just dipped out. Didn't even tell you why to your face, just that crap she told you over FB.

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
10th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Twin's Mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... best days of your life, and she just dipped out. Didn't even tell you why to your face, just that crap she told you over FB."</blockquote>



Back in the day of Myspace lmfao!!!



Yeah, maybe it's better to just move forward. IDK how it will even go since we never talk. So awkward!

user banned Due April 2; Georgia 7200 posts
10th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Twin's Mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♫ ... [snip!] ... day of Myspace lmfao!!! Yeah, maybe it's better to just move forward. IDK how it will even go since we never talk. So awkward!"</blockquote>



Oh snap! That was a long time ago then. It's been since 2005 since I've talked to my ex best friend. We'd been best friends since pre-k. Now we see each other in a grocery store & pretend we don't even see each other.