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Will she ever be potty trained? lol ~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~ 17 kids; Connecticut 15826 posts
10th Jul '13

Hi everyone!



My daughter is 4 and still isn't potty trained....she just refuses to do it. I don't know what to do :/ She was recently diagnosed with mild- cerebral palsy, and I was told she might have a smaller bladder as well. Her cp is so mild that it only causes her to be a little clumsy - so by looking at her, you'd never ever guess she has something going on.



Because she has a hard time going up and down the stairs fast enough to use the potty, I got her a Princess Throne potty, and I was really hoping that would encourage her.



Nope. Nothing. I keep trying to get her to sit on it, and she keeps running away saying "Maybe later Mommy, maybe later" lol Or she will cry and beg for a diaper "MOMMY! I need a diaper!" she seems afraid to sit on her little potty.



I don't know what to do...I feel like she's going to be in diapers until college at this point....HELP ME!!!! lol



I've tried everything....cool underwear, treats, M&Ms, books, reading to her while she's on the toilet to get her to sit longer, timers- etc....nothing is working! The good news is that her doctor wasn't concerned at her checkup when i told her she still wasn't trained, she said to just keep working on it and she will be trained eventually. She's so uncomfortable in her diapers- the tabs are constantly popping off, and she's always upset, having to fix them. I try to explain to her that she's too big for them and that's why they won't stay on right- but she insists on wearing them. :(



She's starting Pre-K in September....and she's still not trained....all the kids she's been around at 2 and 3 are already trained...it just makes me feel like a failure that my 4 year old still won't use the toilet no matter what I do....

FarminMomma Due January 31; 1 child; Huntington, West Virginia 672 posts
10th Jul '13

I just took the diapers away and dd eventually figured out it wasn't fun to be wet and have to change.

You and me + 4 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4113 posts
10th Jul '13

Have you tried pull ups instead? Sorry i really cant provide any help.

~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~ 17 kids; Connecticut 15826 posts
10th Jul '13
Quoting FarminMomma:" I just took the diapers away and dd eventually figured out it wasn't fun to be wet and have to change."


I did the same thing for a month, and it did no good. She would go through 25 pairs of underwear in ONE DAY, and since I don't have a washer or dryer, I was busy washing underwear in the sink for weeks straight...This is so difficult :(

~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~ 17 kids; Connecticut 15826 posts
10th Jul '13
Quoting You and me + 3:" Have you tried pull ups instead? Sorry i really cant provide any help."


Her doctor told me pullups were useless since they were basically diapers. But I've been trying to train her since she was 2, and have had zero luck. At 2 I tried pullups, and she just went in them the same as she did with diapers....Ugh.

FarminMomma Due January 31; 1 child; Huntington, West Virginia 672 posts
10th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~:</b>" I did the same thing for a month, and it did no good. She would go through 25 pairs of underwear in ... [snip!] ... since I don't have a washer or dryer, I was busy washing underwear in the sink for weeks straight...This is so difficult :( "</blockquote>



Ouch, sorry momma. Looks like she'll be doing it when she's ready.

Gone 17 kids; Miami, FL, United States 15414 posts
10th Jul '13

Does she seem influenced by peers? My son had just turned 3 when he moved up from just a daycare toddler class to a preschool. I had been trying to potty train him for like 2 months, and failing miserably, before that. Within a few days of being in preschool and seeing his peers he was potty trained and has been very independent with going since then.

~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~ 17 kids; Connecticut 15826 posts
10th Jul '13
Quoting Anthony's Mommy ♥:" Does she seem influenced by peers? My son had just turned 3 when he moved up from just a daycare toddler ... [snip!] ... a few days of being in preschool and seeing his peers he was potty trained and has been very independent with going since then."


That's great that being around other kids helped your son. Unfortunately, she isn't ever around other children unless we're at the park or something (I don't have a car, I'm working on getting my license so we can get out more) and she isn't in daycare or anything like that. She was in a weekly playgroup, and all the kids were trained...even the 2 year olds! They were all using the potty and she had zero interest. She didn't care that she was the only kid in a diaper...she just doesn't mind sitting in pee/poop, and I don't understand why. I've never put ridiculous pressure on her, I've never yelled at her about it- so I don't understand why she's so resistant...maybe I should just let it go and try training in a few months...maybe she'll learn before she starts kindergarten...I certainly hope so. At least Pre-K will help her potty train, so that's good.

Two Princesses 2 kids; San Pedro, CA, United States 7196 posts
10th Jul '13

Have you tried looking into a potty training specialist? there might be a trained professional who can give you some guidance. My 2 1/2 year old isn't too eager to ppotty train either, but has used her olittle potty a few times so I remain hopeful.

~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~ 17 kids; Connecticut 15826 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting Two Princesses:" Have you tried looking into a potty training specialist? there might be a trained professional who can ... [snip!] ... My 2 1/2 year old isn't too eager to ppotty train either, but has used her olittle potty a few times so I remain hopeful."


I haven't, but I really don't have enough money to pay for one....I wish I did though :(

~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~ 17 kids; Connecticut 15826 posts
11th Jul '13

I don't know what to do,....DD was fine wearing underwear all day, and hasn't gone to the bathroom either in her pants or on the potty once today....she started to pee, but freaked out and cried and begged for a diaper- I wouldn't give her one. She totally stopped peeing- barely wet the underwear at all- I had her sit on her potty instead, and she cried and begged to get a diaper...I tried to read to her to get her to sit there, something, but she wouldn't sit there and pee. I put a new pair of underwear on her, and she hasn't finished urinating yet....Apparently, this means she's able to stop herself when she starts...I don't know if this is a good or a very bad thing. All I know is that she's been doing this to me for MONTHS...she cries, begs, screams for a diaper as soon as she feels she's about to go or going- and since I don't give in, she holds it as long as she can until she goes on the floor....



HELP! lol

Two Princesses 2 kids; San Pedro, CA, United States 7196 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting ~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~:" I don't know what to do,....DD was fine wearing underwear all day, and hasn't gone to the bathroom either ... [snip!] ... about to go or going- and since I don't give in, she holds it as long as she can until she goes on the floor.... HELP! lol "


You may be able to see a specialist on a payment plan or for low cost if you don't have the funds. I'd look into that, or if not that perhaps maybe a child therapist to help her express why she's afraid of the potty and work through it. Does she have insurance? If so the therapy may be covered.

Robin Wyatt Miamisburg, Ohio 123 posts
11th Jul '13

My daughter has a heart problem and has been inside and out of the hospital her whole life. She was also on meds that made her pee at lot to. We did a potty chart and gave her an award for felling up a full week. I know it can be hard I hope that helps

~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~ 17 kids; Connecticut 15826 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting Two Princesses:" You may be able to see a specialist on a payment plan or for low cost if you don't have the funds. ... [snip!] ... help her express why she's afraid of the potty and work through it. Does she have insurance? If so the therapy may be covered."


I've looked for one, but it doesn't seem that there are any anywhere near where we live :( Boo. I'll keep looking though. Yes, she has insurance, but finding a therapist in my area is nearly impossible.

~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~ 17 kids; Connecticut 15826 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting Robin Wyatt:" My daughter has a heart problem and has been inside and out of the hospital her whole life. She was also ... [snip!] ... pee at lot to. We did a potty chart and gave her an award for felling up a full week. I know it can be hard I hope that helps"

When was your daughter trained? How long did it take? I would use the potty chart if she'd actually GO in the potty...but she hasn't gone in it yet....she stops peeing as soon as she sits on it, and cries and begs for a diaper to go into. And of course, once I put her down for a nap earlier, she went the second I closed the door....this is hard lol