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Mom advice needed *5 yr olds* user banned
11th Jul '13

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So, E was talking to me tonight about the 'mean mam' in his swim class. I asked if it was his instructor and he said no, a little girl. I asked what her suite looked like? And he told me. She is def. in his class. How would you handle it? I guess she hits him. I asked if it was when they were practicing on the edge or in the water. He said no. When they are sitting and waiting she hits him, because she's mean to him. So yeah, any mom advice here?



Also, on a brighter note.. He is an independent swimmer as of this week and can do the dead man float on his belly. So proud of him!

. , ., VA, United States 74435 posts
11th Jul '13

I'd talk to the instructor/teacher about it. Are you there during the class at all to see if it is happening?

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
11th Jul '13

Can you just tell him to stay away from her? If she does it again talk to the instructor.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
11th Jul '13

I'd let the swim coach handle it. Tell E to tell the teacher the next time they're hit by this girl. If you want, let the teacher know what E said. But know that you're only getting one side. I know my son has complained someone hit him but failed to mention he was throwing blocks at the kid.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49254 posts
11th Jul '13

Kick her ass :D or tell him to hahaha

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
11th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ¿ ¼ ¿:</b>" I'd talk to the instructor/teacher about it. Are you there during the class at all to see if it is happening?"</blockquote>



He's in a swimming class with peers. And then my SN son takes adaptive swim with an OT in private lessons at the same time. And then I'm in the middle on the other side of the wall so I can keep an eye on them and watch for when it's their turn and just keep an eye out. But, at the same time, I have my almost 2 year old and am working on swimming with him by myself at that time. So no, I didn't see her hit him or anything. But he did seem moopy and was pretty emotional this afternoon after which he isn't, ever. Only when he's not feeling well. And then at dinner he opened up about swim.

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
11th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" Can you just tell him to stay away from her? If she does it again talk to the instructor."</blockquote>



That's what I told him. I said, if she hits you again you need to tell your teacher right away. And, don't sit next to her. Which I will help him avoid that. I'll just stand with him and when they get in line put him at the opposite end or something.

. , ., VA, United States 74435 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:" <blockquote><b>Quoting
user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
11th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" I'd let the swim coach handle it. Tell E to tell the teacher the next time they're hit by this girl. ... [snip!] ... only getting one side. I know my son has complained someone hit him but failed to mention he was throwing blocks at the kid."</blockquote>



Whenever I see him there he is sitting watching. And he has never just hit someone before. I mean, I know it could happen. But I would be shocked.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
11th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" I'd let the swim coach handle it. Tell E to ... [snip!] ... there he is sitting watching. And he has never just hit someone before. I mean, I know it could happen. But I would be shocked."</blockquote>




5 year olds are 5 year olds.

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
11th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... someone before. I mean, I know it could happen. But I would be shocked."</blockquote> 5 year olds are 5 year olds."</blockquote>




I understand that. That's why I said I know it could happen. But I would be shocked. Because I would.

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
11th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♫ boobook ... [snip!] ... I understand that. That's why I said I know it could happen. But I would be shocked. Because I would."</blockquote>



I was shocked when dd spit on a kid in gym class. I was outraged with shock like "WTF why would she do such a thing that's not like her". I couldn't drop it all day lol. I was in disbelief.

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
11th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♫ boobook ♫:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... with shock like "WTF why would she do such a thing that's not like her". I couldn't drop it all day lol. I was in disbelief."</blockquote>




I think that is a normal reaction lol

~Raylan's Mama~ 1 child; Tennessee 2116 posts
11th Jul '13

Yay for the dead man's float and being an independent swimmer :)



It may sound weird but when I was little I hit boys when I liked them...just saying, she may not be doing it to be mean. However, it still needs to be addressed if it happens again