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Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3279 posts
11th Jul '13

Even if you do take him to small claims and he's ordered to pay you back a certain amount, they'll probably still just go to your dad to get the money. So it's going to be the same end result. And maybe next time store your own shit, especially since you know they have a history of stealing, you probably shouldn't leave stuff sitting around where they can get at it.

**Blessed_Insanity** 7 kids; Wyoming 18588 posts
status 11th Jul '13
Quoting ~MOM~ 16 weeks:" what about text messages? Are those better proof then FB messages?"


Text messages and FB Messages held up in court for my SIL, different reasons for being there, but still held up.

**Blessed_Insanity** 7 kids; Wyoming 18588 posts
status 11th Jul '13
Quoting Juggernog-aholic:" So they should get away with stealing her stuff and SHE should replace it? No."



I agree, just because she stored her stuff somewhere else that was not her own home, doesn't mean they should get away with stealing. Thats like telling a girl its her own fault for being rapped because she wore sexy clothing.

NopeNotGonnaDOIt 6 kids; Cuba 3000 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting ~MOM~ 16 weeks:" Because unfortunately, I don't just have the money laying around to replace these things. We currently ... [snip!] ... things. We currently live pay check to pay check and I shouldn't have to dish out the 400 to replace the things I NEED IMO."


I got my pack and play for 20 bucks, and my breast pump for 30, it's possible. I just don't think it's worth the hassle of court thats all, especially being pregnant. And if they had to steal this stuff I doubt they will have the money to replace them with anything new. It wouldn't be worth the drama for me, I'd be looking online for some cheap deals.

NopeNotGonnaDOIt 6 kids; Cuba 3000 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting **Blessed Insanity **:" I agree, just because she stored her stuff somewhere else that was not her own home, doesn't mean ... [snip!] ... should get away with stealing. Thats like telling a girl its her own fault for being rapped because she wore sexy clothing. "


They're not getting away with anything, she's cutting them out of her and her family's life. To me, that's a huge deal and a big consequence. Money and stuff is just stuff and money.

Momlette of 3 Due December 25 (girl); 3 kids; Ohio 25505 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting Mama❍:" I got my pack and play for 20 bucks, and my breast pump for 30, it's possible. I just don't think it's ... [snip!] ... money to replace them with anything new. It wouldn't be worth the drama for me, I'd be looking online for some cheap deals. "


Yeah but the things is, why should they keep getting away with bad behavior. Thats why they do this shit in the first place because they keep getting away with it! My breastpump was like 300 dollars and the pack n play with one of those ones that are over 100, with a bassinet, diaper holder, changing table etc. I just dont think they should keep getting away with crap. It wasn't my best choice to leave stuff there but when I moved out I was 8 months pregnant with twins so I didn't bring stuff that I didn't NEED. (The twins weren't mine so I didn't need those things).

Mrs. Brightside 2 kids; Lichtensteig, Switzerland 11733 posts
11th Jul '13

I don't know... I guess you could get some advice from a lawyer. But just because he said he was replace your missing stuff is not him admitting he took it. It could easily be taken as him trying to be nice and get you to talk to them again, since you thinking they stole our stuff was your final straw with them.

Momlette of 3 Due December 25 (girl); 3 kids; Ohio 25505 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" Even if you do take him to small claims and he's ordered to pay you back a certain amount, they'll probably ... [snip!] ... since you know they have a history of stealing, you probably shouldn't leave stuff sitting around where they can get at it."


I agree that wasn't the smartest choice.

**Blessed_Insanity** 7 kids; Wyoming 18588 posts
status 11th Jul '13
Quoting Mama❍:" They're not getting away with anything, she's cutting them out of her and her family's life. To me, that's a huge deal and a big consequence. Money and stuff is just stuff and money. "


I agree that materialistic processions are just that, but at the same time, many times they are needed. Being cut out of a persons life is not always a fitting punishment for the crime.

Momlette of 3 Due December 25 (girl); 3 kids; Ohio 25505 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting **Blessed Insanity **:" I agree that materialistic processions are just that, but at the same time, many times they are needed. Being cut out of a persons life is not always a fitting punishment for the crime. "


Stealing our things was just the last straw. We have put up with so much crap from them it's ridiculous. While we knew it was past time for us to move out of my dads (even though the low rent was very helpful for us) they are the reason we moved out. Her boyfriend is psycho and I didn't trust him around my little children. We were in a rush to leave so yeah, we left some things behind, with plans to eventually get it, when I showed up to get them they were gone.

NopeNotGonnaDOIt 6 kids; Cuba 3000 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting ~MOM~ 16 weeks:" Yeah but the things is, why should they keep getting away with bad behavior. Thats why they do this ... [snip!] ... months pregnant with twins so I didn't bring stuff that I didn't NEED. (The twins weren't mine so I didn't need those things)."


You could always message him back listing what you need and see what they come up with. It's up to you though, but like you said it sounds like they are unstable.. and if they are bad people then they will most likely end up in jail and a small claims court case will be the least of their worries!

3sACrowd 3 kids; Alaska 3339 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting Mama❍:" They're not getting away with anything, she's cutting them out of her and her family's life. To me, that's a huge deal and a big consequence. Money and stuff is just stuff and money. "

I totally get what you're saying but at the same time, they'll continue to have that mentality of, "Oh well, they'll replace it so we'll just keep stealing." When people break the law or have bad behavior, they need to be punished.



OP: You should agree to meet up with him and your sister and have him sign something that says he will replace everything he stole. If not replaced in a certain amount of time, court will be the next step.

Momlette of 3 Due December 25 (girl); 3 kids; Ohio 25505 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting Mama❍:" You could always message him back listing what you need and see what they come up with. It's up to you ... [snip!] ... are bad people then they will most likely end up in jail and a small claims court case will be the least of their worries! "


The sad thing is, they probably will end up somewhere one of these days. And hopefully my dad doesn't bail them out. My brother kicked them out of the house (my dad put the house in my brothers name recently) so my dad turned around and bought my sister and her boyfriend a house! He just keeps bailing them out. It was a cheap fixer upper house but of course he's paying for all that too....

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
11th Jul '13

Offering to replace it without admitting to taking it doesn't show they're guilty. He could say he offered because he knew your sister missed talking to you so he was willing to spend that money to fix the relationship, even if they didn't steal it.



Some people stealing only 600 worth of stuff and then offering to repay it is so small in the large scheme of things, I hate to say. I wouldn't bother the police with it. If you call the police that won't give you your stuff back. They'll get in trouble then I believe you'd have to sue them (or they do reparations, which takes time). One is criminal, one is civil. So, you could get them in criminal trouble but that doesn't solve your issue of not being able to replace the stuff.



I know your mad, but sometimes you just have to brush things off. It wasn't violent, it didn't ruin your life, just be more careful in the future and don't leave stuff where they can get it (like in your Dad's care since it seems that isn't a safe place).

Momlette of 3 Due December 25 (girl); 3 kids; Ohio 25505 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting she nan igans:" Offering to replace it without admitting to taking it doesn't show they're guilty. He could say he offered ... [snip!] ... in the future and don't leave stuff where they can get it (like in your Dad's care since it seems that isn't a safe place)."


I really dont even want to go through all the trouble, I dont have time for court and shit....Im hoping I can just get away without having a breastpump this time around and EBF. Just really pisses me off. I'm so tired of their BS.