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going from working to SAHM? Aubrey(:Ryleigh TTC since May 2013; 2 kids; Lubbock, TX, United States 145 posts
11th Jul '13

Ive worked since my first daughter was 4 weeks old, and now my husband wants me to be a SAHM, Im terrified to, that we wont have the money to pay our bills or I wont be able to handle it.



Right now i make about 900 a month, and 600 is for day care!
so it wouldnt be a HUGE hit to our budget but it would still be less money..



so my question is.. any ladies that went from working single mom to SAHM how did you adjust?

Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7328 posts
11th Jul '13

I did! I worked from the time DS was a baby until he was 5. Then I met SO and I quit my job and we moved in together. The first couple weeks were like, yay no more work! Then I got bored and went through a time of hating it, now I love it! It took some getting used to. The hardest part for me was not having "my money" because I'm not used to asking someone else for things I want or need. It's been about 2.5 years now and we have a little boy who is 10 months old. It helps for me to set little goals or whatever. Like saying ok, tomorrow I want to get up and after LO naps I want to clean the kitchen, then this or that. I always loved to cook and I got more into baking now that I have the time.

izzy+Ethan 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 4056 posts
11th Jul '13

i started working when my DD was 2 months old god it felt good to get out of the house ...then some stuff happened. had to quit my job become a SAHM got pregnant with DS and staying home all day i have to say i dislike it...don't get me wrong i love being with my kids but i need to get me time every now and then. since im not working we dont have a lot of extra money to go out and do stuff so its pretty much a public park or walks or the inside of this house :evil: i can't wait to go to school in august!

Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7328 posts
11th Jul '13

I forgot to add, I definitely think it helps to have some just you time especially when you're a SAHM. I try to go out with a friend every couple months for shopping, dinner, and drinks. SO stays home with the kids and it's nice to eat without little hands in my face lol.

Aubrey(:Ryleigh TTC since May 2013; 2 kids; Lubbock, TX, United States 145 posts
11th Jul '13
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Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7328 posts
11th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Aubrey(:Ryleigh:</b>" Im nervous about the money thing, ive always been the sole provider so not being the one bringing in the money makes me nervous"</blockquote>



It takes time but you learn to put that faith in the other person to provide. I think it seriously took me seeing all the bills paid on time or early even for a few months to say ok, I can relax. From why you said most of your money went to daycare anyways. Plus I'm sure the gas to get to work adds up.

Sueanne+2 2 kids; Bethlehem, PA, United States 2166 posts
11th Jul '13

I'm in the process of doing so myself once DD gets here. Daycare for two kids would be more than we can budget. I figure at least our house will always be clean lol. I might get a part time job at night just so I can make a little extra KWIM? Think if you're only bringing home $300 after daycare costs, you get a PT job making $100 a week and you're bringing home about the same if not more. If you ever need anyone to talk to you can always PM me. Good luck :).

Aubrey(:Ryleigh TTC since May 2013; 2 kids; Lubbock, TX, United States 145 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting Little Dugan's Mommy 28w:" I'm in the process of doing so myself once DD gets here. Daycare for two kids would be more than we can ... [snip!] ... and you're bringing home about the same if not more. If you ever need anyone to talk to you can always PM me. Good luck :)."


yeah i thought about doing something part time or maybe even keeping a couple of kids in my home to keep my income.. thanks! :)