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Should I give this to DH? Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26868 posts
11th Jul '13

I don't want to unnecessarily infuriate him but I do want him to know this is his last chance..




It seems like we communicate better like this, so I

Mrs. Post-tato Head 4 kids; 1 angel baby; 6794 posts
11th Jul '13

Give it to him if you want, but I'd be out the door. Peace.

jazzzzz* 2 kids; Beverly Hills, California 7558 posts
11th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Post-tato Head

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
11th Jul '13

Sorry I didn't read it. But when I'm upset I alway write a letter to SO. It helps me get my emotions out and he can see how I feel. I'm not comfortable confronting him in person about my feelings. Just my personality. So it works for us.

Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26868 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting Mrs. Post-tato Head
Charlene Sinclair 1 child; Massachusetts 2562 posts
11th Jul '13

Sounds to me like it is something he should hear, but then again it also sounds like his chances are up!
He needs to STEP!

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22065 posts
11th Jul '13

Honestly it sounds like you are ready to move on and that you have had enough, I don't blame you. Good luck if he is a narcissist because you know he'll be sorry for about 5 minutes after reading that and then try to manipulate you into thinking it's your fault. This sounds just like my brother

Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26868 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting lolajessup:" Sorry I didn't read it. But when I'm upset I alway write a letter to SO. It helps me get my emotions ... [snip!] ... can see how I feel. I'm not comfortable confronting him in person about my feelings. Just my personality. So it works for us."


Yeah our fights always involve me trying to come to a resolution and him literally ignoring me until I irritate him enough that he yells.

Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26868 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting Charlene Sinclair:" Sounds to me like it is something he should hear, but then again it also sounds like his chances are up! He needs to STEP!"


The ONLY reason I'm still here is because I'm terrified of him getting partial custody...he has left MARKS on my babies. :( He has never "hit" them but he is rough with them and makes them cry.
I feel like an ass because I can escape him but my babies never can. :( :(

Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26868 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting Blythe.:" Honestly it sounds like you are ready to move on and that you have had enough, I don't blame you. Good ... [snip!] ... 5 minutes after reading that and then try to manipulate you into thinking it's your fault. This sounds just like my brother"


That's EXACTLY what will happen.

thats me. :) 18 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 3030 posts
11th Jul '13

If my DH gave this to me I would be very upset. Maybe you should write the letter using I statements.
I feel like you don't love me. I feel like your parenting skills need work.

Charlene Sinclair 1 child; Massachusetts 2562 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFT}:" The ONLY reason I'm still here is because I'm terrified of him getting partial custody...he has left ... [snip!] ... them but he is rough with them and makes them cry. I feel like an ass because I can escape him but my babies never can. :( :("

NOT good mama!
Be sure you have a bug out plan! Get those babies to safety it shit hits the fan!
Also, don't be afraid to involve authorities because it sure sounds like they would be on your side. That is, if things come to that.
I know people like that are hard to handle, and there is generally NO reasoning with them.....so just be ready for anything!

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22065 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFT}:" That's EXACTLY what will happen."


I would make a plan to get out of there and get a divorce

Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26868 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting Charlene Sinclair:" NOT good mama! Be sure you have a bug out plan! Get those babies to safety it shit hits the fan! Also, ... [snip!] ... I know people like that are hard to handle, and there is generally NO reasoning with them.....so just be ready for anything!"


I do, if anything similar happens my counselor instructed me to put the kids in the van and drive to my parents house immediately.

Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26868 posts
11th Jul '13
Quoting Blythe.:" I would make a plan to get out of there and get a divorce "


It's in the works. In January I am taking the kids and moving back home to finish school. The plan is to still be married at this time. School will be 5 years at least.