Cast Your Vote:
- Going to work is a break -- Votes: 42
- No its not a break -- Votes: 25
- Other- explain -- Votes: 2
I think it is break, it was for me anyway. It is not that my job was easy, but it was totally different & I was energized & excited to get to come home at the end of the day & be with my kids...so it felt different. I also got a lot of respect at work & acknowledgements at times, which doesn't seem to ever happen at home, at least not in the same way. It's not that it's easy, I missed my kids a lot & wanted to be home & felt a lot of internal conflict at times. But mentally, for sure, it was easier in many ways, emotionally it was harder for me though.
I think it is, for me, but not in a it isn't hard work way. It's a break from being a Mom, from the normal routine. It's a break from all of that, even if it's hard and tiring and stressful in a different way.
I think a lot depends on how much you work too. For people with a parttime job that is pretty easy it probably feels MORE like a break than someone who works full time in a high stress job.
Anything that is a "break" from your normal routine (whether that's as a SAHM or as a working Mom) can feel like a nice break because you're doing something different.
I want to get a part time job, because I love to work and it would be a break to me. So I think it really just depends on the job, the person, and their mindset.
At the present time it would be a break, most definitely. But do I view it in general as a break from my kid... not really. I see it as more like me being able to seriously interact with adults, challenging myself outside of the home, etc etc. It would be easy to just continue being a SAHM because that's what I've been for the past 3 years but soon I'll no longer be built for it (itching to do other things, kid growing older).
I enjoy going to work because it's social interaction with other adults that I'm not related to. In that respect, work is a "break".
But my job is super easy so it is a "break" in that regard too.
I also only work 20 hours a week.
Quoting Pusherman _tko_:" Are you actively searching for employment?"
Quoting chassidy♥ *31*:" Getting a job might be a "get away" from your kids but I don't think it's a break because when you get ... [snip!] ... to get a job but the way it's looking I won't be able to afford daycare for 3 kids so I guess I'll be staying at home. :lol:"
Not necessarily. 8)
My husband takes over cooking, cleaning, and child care when I'm not here. :lol:
LOL, no it isn't a break. Being with my son is a break.
It would depend on the job-I have worked full time since I had my child-no choice-and it sucks!! Dealing with a bunch of ladies each day is stressful! But if it was a lower wage easy cushy job I would be ok with it.
Quoting Destinite:" LOL, no it isn't a break. Being with my son is a break."
I think it all depends on perspective. I used to think that too when I worked. MY boss was insane, I was on call during waking hours basically & even 24/7...but I RARELY got a call before or after waking hours gratefully...so when I'd get off & be driving home I'd be sooooo excited to get home. It's weird though, because then, I'd come in & be ready to dance with him while we cleaned up & got dinner ready & we'd be playing & laughing & trying to pack in as much as I could in teh time we had. When that same time rolls around now & it is the doing the same exact thing I have done all day, there is no excitement & no dancing & laughing normally. That isn't to say I don't like being home, but because I am always at with them, there is a sort of routine you fall into where you can easily fall into lack of enthusiasm.
Quoting Destinite:" LOL, no it isn't a break. Being with my son is a break."
i work full time because i have to. i have a very stressful job and ungodly long and insane hours, and im a single mom of 3 so when im not home, nothings getting done. so no, working 14 hours and then coming home and having to cook/clean/dishes/bath/bed is NOT a break. not at all. thats a sahm "perspective" on the working mom. i also hate missing school functions and important days for the kids to take said "break" to put food on the table..
Quoting I Stab People:" this. i work full time because i have to. i have a very stressful job and ungodly long and insane ... [snip!] ... mom. i also hate missing school functions and important days for the kids to take said "break" to put food on the table.."
No it isn't a SAHM's perspective. I've worked..now I stay home. My perspective is by comparing it. I think each person's situation & perspective varies based on many factors. And my kids weren't in daycare, they were at home with my mom who never picked up, so when I got home, it was generally a hot mess & I had to start from scratch upon arrival. My job was also very high stress....and I worked because I had to. During those years Dh was usually never home until an hour before bed, if that...so I do understand working a lot & doing most of it on your own & all of that. I still found it to be a mental break to do something different than doing kid/baby stuff 24/7. Before I stayed home, I never imaged it could become so absolutely repetitive & hard to keep fresh.
Have youe ver stayed home with your kids? Maybe thinking work isn't a break is a working mom's perspective with nothing to compare it to?
I really can't say. I just know I have done both & I don't think work is a vacation - but I think mentally it is a break of sorts. Just like no one (or nearly no one) would want to be at work 24/7 no matter if they loved the job or not...being home 24/7 can be monotonous after a while. I am NOT complaining about staying home. It is purely a choice & I coudl change it - I am saying there was a mental difference when I worked & I'd be lying to say I didn't miss that.
Quoting justanothamotha:" No it isn't a SAHM's perspective. I've worked..now I stay home. My perspective is by comparing it. I ... [snip!] ... & I coudl change it - I am saying there was a mental difference when I worked & I'd be lying to say I didn't miss that."
yes i have stayed at home as well. i kept it fresh by constantly taking the kids somewhere during the day. we used to have a great schedule. library, park, school playground, mall, etc
Quoting justanothamotha:" I think it all depends on perspective. I used to think that too when I worked. MY boss was insane, I ... [snip!] ... because I am always at with them, there is a sort of routine you fall into where you can easily fall into lack of enthusiasm."
I understand. I am on call 24/7 and it sucks when I just want to be at home relaxing with my family. I'm only super busy from March to the first week in August though, so I do have a down time.
ETA: Each person does handle certain situations differently. My sister is a SAHM and I've worked since little man was 8 weeks old. She now has a 2 year old and constantly makes comments about how I made motherhood, holding full time job and keeping my house immaculate so easy. I am just a fast paced person and I can get a lot done in a short amount of time.
I'll likely view actually being home with my kids a break in a few weeks. All 4 of my kids are dropped off by 730am and I won't see all 4 of them until nearly 4pm and then I either work or have class every night but Friday. I work weekends. I do see my older two periodically all day Friday but I'm also swamped with 150 other kids too.
It's all a matter of circumstance.
Quoting I Stab People:" yes i have stayed at home as well. i kept it fresh by constantly taking the kids somewhere during the day. we used to have a great schedule. library, park, school playground, mall, etc"
We get out too - but not as much as I'd like as I also watch several other kids during the school year (all under 5) & I can't really take them all. We can all walk somewhere, whatever is within walking distance...but that is about it.
And even when we can (like summer now) I guess I just don't find the library, park or playground personally terribly stimulating. My kids sure do, but I don't. It just feels to me like doing a lot of the same parenting stuff in a different location. I still have to do constant supervision, deal with potty breaks, hand washing, safety issues, feedings, etc...I guess when I think "keeping it fresh" I think mentally - it's nice to get out, it is nicer to get out without the kids, no matter what I am doing. Heck I was thrilled recently to help my mom paint her porch & leave the kid with Dh. LOL And believeme, scrapin, sanding & painting has never previously been my idea of fun.