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sal90 Due March 8; Louisiana 3 posts
12th Jul '13

Thank you for all the responses. It is nice to know there is a website and people out there who are not judgemental. As oppose to posting on yahoo answers which im sure i would of been told i was a terrible person. The clinic in my area which preforms medical abortions has you come in on a tuesday for the ultrasound and to watch a video then come back on that thursday to get the pills. So i will be making my decision over the weekend. Praying i can come to the one i am 100% sure on because of right now i am so 50/50 its driving me crazy. I dont want the baby at all and wish the situation would just go away but i know its not going to. My only concern about an abortion at this point is how it would affect me afterwards.. the not knowing is whats stopping me. I wish i knew. That would make the decision much easier.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
12th Jul '13
Quoting sal90:" Thank you for all the responses. It is nice to know there is a website and people out there who are not ... [snip!] ... it would affect me afterwards.. the not knowing is whats stopping me. I wish i knew. That would make the decision much easier."


How do you mean how it will affect you afterwards? I know how you feel about your pregnancy. I am was the same way with my youngest. If you need to talk, I am here.

sal90 Due March 8; Louisiana 3 posts
12th Jul '13

As in emotionally

Barbara Outten Due November 15; Waterville, Maine 480 posts
12th Jul '13

I personally have never had an abortion, but I understand your depression, and being pregnant makes that depression so much worse for me. When I found out I was pregnant, I highly considered abortion, especially after BD left us, but I realized that this baby is a miracle for me personally, and this may be my only opportunity to have a baby.



I'm most definitely pro-choice. It's up to you what you can and can't handle. Only you can make the best choice for yourself. Whichever way you decide to go it was the path you were meant to take!



Depression can be a miserable thing, but you will make it through. I've had the hardest time with my depression because I stopped taking my medication when I found out i was pregnant, it wasn't one of the ones that was pregnancy safe, and I still haven't been able to get in my med clinic to get my prescription changed.



Good luck <3

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
12th Jul '13
Quoting sal90:" As in emotionally"


if you have a hard time emotionally after it then you can get counseling. You could possibly get counselling before it too if you wanted to.

~Drayvn's Mommy~ 1 child; Arkansas 324 posts
12th Jul '13
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" This! I had an abortion after having a child. I also had placed a baby. I wish I had aborted that ... [snip!] ... would only make you crazy with yourself and then after the baby was born you would hate it and hate yourself even more. "


That may be what happened to you, but whose to say how she'd feel about adoption. It may wind up being a great thing for her, who knows. I have a 16 month old and just found out I'm pregnant. I'm like this mamma and do not want or think I can handle another baby. I feel no attachment, but yet I know it is another persons life. Who am I to say if it lives or dies when it was my actions that brought him into existence. I'm placing this baby up for adoption, and will find peace knowing I gave him or her a chance at life.
I pray the child you put up for adoption never tries looking for you, that is just terrible to actually look at a newborn and wish you would have killed it. I don't care if it upsets anyone, I'm saying it.

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11670 posts
12th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Drayvn's Mommy~:</b>"



ummmm u cant say that this is a PROTECTED forum.



debating and u saying something hurtful like that to my friend is absolutely uncalled for.

Kimber-lily Due September 27; 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
12th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Drayvn's Mommy~:</b>."</blockquote>



You have some issues, you should go see a therapist.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
12th Jul '13
Quoting ~Drayvn's Mommy~:" ."


Psh.... I will know my son. And I will tell him the truth when he is old enough to know it. And another thing, how will you know for sure that you will have peace with your choice? Girl.. Its gotten me a lot of tiem to get to where I am right now. Im not at peace with my choice of adoption, but with my abortion that I had 4 years ago, I am. Adoption is a life long coping. It is a life long thing. Good luck with your "peace".

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36449 posts
12th Jul '13
Quoting Kimber-lily:" You have some issues, you should go see a therapist. "


At first I was like.. WTF.. Why are you saying that to me! lol. But then I saw her post.



You guys need to delete the quoted.

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11670 posts
12th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" At first I was like.. WTF.. Why are you saying that to me! lol. But then I saw her post. You guys need to delete the quoted. "</blockquote>




done.

Kimber-lily Due September 27; 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
12th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" At first I was like.. WTF.. Why are you saying that to me! lol. But then I saw her post. You guys need to delete the quoted. "</blockquote>




Haha. <3

Cassifrass Peters Due September 28; Japan 121 posts
16th Jul

Honey, honestly.. do what your heart tells you to do.. your not far along so do it now.. if you think your baby girl will suffer and you can't take care of the new baby.. then do what your heart tells you...you will be okay!

The Time Police 2 kids; Cold Lake, AB, Canada 33400 posts
17th Jul

I have 2 kids, my youngest is 18 months... I am scheduled to have one in August. I am very at peace with my decision, and it is definitely the route I am going and I am hoping I will have no regrets. Good luck to you with whatever choice to make.

Damien*Dex*Jaidyn's Momma 18 kids; Pennsylvania 1535 posts
24th Jul

My first son passed away at 32 weeks. Then I got pregnant 2 months later with my second son. When he was 10 months old I got pregnant again. I was addicted to heroin and could not stop. I had an abortion the day after my second son turned 1. I do not regret my decision because at that point in my life I could barely handle myself and they child I already had. Skip foward to now. I have 14 months and 25 days clean. And a beautiful baby girl who is almost 6 months old.