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spanking your children, S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, PA, United States 3820 posts
12th Jul '13

I got into a debate with a distant cousin of mine over Instagram about him saying parents should smack and spank their children when they do wrong, and that is the best way of punishment and to teach them to do right when they do wrong.



thoughts? Do you spank? If so, what age do you think is appropriate to spank? If you don't, what other tactics do you use to discipline young children? Do you thinking spanking can give a child mentally affect the child?



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мɑkɑnɑni 1 angel baby; ~, FL, United States 65511 posts
status 12th Jul '13

What works for one family may not work for another. What one person does--as long as it's not abuse or illegal--is their own business.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36477 posts
12th Jul '13

I spank. I started when he was 3. I give my son many warnings before I smack his ass.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36477 posts
12th Jul '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" What works for one family may not work for another. What one person does--as long as it's not abuse or illegal--is their own business."


I agree!

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, PA, United States 3820 posts
12th Jul '13
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" I spank. I started when he was 3. I give my son many warnings before I smack his ass. "


I think that is a better tactic than to just go right off the bat and smack them. Sometimes kids need to know what they are doing is wrong, and if they continue when they know it's wrong I think it's alright to take a further action.



I just hate seeing little kids out in public getting smacked because they did something so little because they didn't know the difference of right and wrong.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
12th Jul '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" What works for one family may not work for another. What one person does--as long as it's not abuse or illegal--is their own business."



:!: 100%.

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, PA, United States 3820 posts
12th Jul '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" What works for one family may not work for another. What one person does--as long as it's not abuse or illegal--is their own business."


agreed! And I said that to him, some parents don't always know their limits and sometimes that is how the abuse starts, not always though!



I just couldn't smack DS. I'm sure I might feel differently one day when he grows, but I just couldn't yet. SO did the other day and I just got so sad, DS is still so little and has no idea what he is doing, so I'm trying to teach him before I have to really yell or anything. Me and SO are on different pages on to spank or not to spank because of how our parents raised us, he was spanked and I wasn't. I think we both turned out okay, but m parents used other ways, and I Just feel like I can do that as well. Even though when I raise my voice the tiniest bit, DS just laughs. :roll: fail.

yo moyo 1 child; Ishim, Russian Federation 1335 posts
12th Jul '13

I haven't lately thankfully. I do it when I lose my cool, I must admit. But sometimes punishment is necessary (looking at all the Russian kids getting away with everything made me believe that)
In terms of discipline, I find that being stern, consistent, and calm works the best. But all situations, kids, and parents are different so I think it's hard to offer advice that would work across the board.

SherryandMatt Due February 15; 1 child; 6 angel babies; Arizona 3810 posts
12th Jul '13

Personally i would never debate on parenting choices. I don't have the time or energy to argue with someone who thinks their way is the RIGHT and only way. To each his own:)

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
12th Jul '13

Smacking is never okay.
As for spanking...I do, but very rarely and only under certain circumstances. There was a point where I didn't at all because they're just babies, but my oldest is 6 now, and she's done some pretty outrageous stuff, like running in front of a moving vehicle (and she had done it three different times by that point, so obviously reason wasn't working). I definitely don't do it for things like when she's picking on her sisters or anything like that. I agree with showing them what's right, opposed to corporal punishment. My other two kids are 2 and 3, and...they're just so little, I couldn't fathom spanking them.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36477 posts
12th Jul '13
Quoting S ♥ J ♥ L:" I think that is a better tactic than to just go right off the bat and smack them. Sometimes kids need ... [snip!] ... out in public getting smacked because they did something so little because they didn't know the difference of right and wrong. "


But you dont know the backstory of any of that though. I have hit my son upside the head [not hard just like wtf are you doing] and I have gotten looks. I have smacked his ass in public and gotten looks too because of it and he was being a pain in the ass the whole day.

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, PA, United States 3820 posts
12th Jul '13
Quoting momento mori:" I haven't lately thankfully. I do it when I lose my cool, I must admit. But sometimes punishment is necessary ... [snip!] ... But all situations, kids, and parents are different so I think it's hard to offer advice that would work across the board."


true! my parents did the cruel ways haha like write "I won't hit my brother" 50 times or something, or shit in a corner for a while.



I mean, looking back now some things were kinda mean, but they never spanked us, and I'm okay. SO was spanked, and he's ok. I just think it's what you do with what you know and use that to parent your children. Example: so children are abused and hit growing up, so when they grow and have children they can use that example of their parents to either continue the abuse or to stray away.

S ♥ J ♥ L 1 child; 3 angel babies; Philadelphia, PA, United States 3820 posts
12th Jul '13
Quoting SherryandMatt:" Personally i would never debate on parenting choices. I don't have the time or energy to argue with someone who thinks their way is the RIGHT and only way. To each his own:)"


He doesn't even have kids yet, that is why I started the debate.

user banned (boy); 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
12th Jul '13

Spanking won't work for my family. Gentle discipline does.



It pisses me off like no other when people say kids who aren't spanked will be brats or will disrespect their parents.

user banned Due December 20; Georgia 1823 posts
12th Jul '13

I don't have children yet. With that said, I'd like to think I wouldn't spank. I'm not going to judge other people for it though.