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my so acts like a douchebag Sweetheart...* Due July 30 (girl); 1 child; Florida 1290 posts
12th Jul '13

whenever his family is around.... like he's mean and nasty and thinks he can talk to me however he pleases. Does anyone know what would cause this? I told him about it and he says that he doesnt know what im talking about..... He just doesnt treat me the same when his family is around vs it being just us...

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
12th Jul '13

Is/was his dad very disrespectful to his mom? It could be subliminal because its what he witnessed his whole life?

ɑutumnɑℓ 1 angel baby; ~, FL, United States 65762 posts
12th Jul '13

Is he trying to impress his dad? Maybe he grew up with it and feels that he has to do it when he's around him? Have you considered trying to record it?

motherofarunner 1 child; Kansas City, Kansas 1835 posts
12th Jul '13

DH becomes that way when we are around his friends he says hes just "joking" several of his friends told him to knock it off or they were going to beat his ass. Its like he was trying to make his self look good. It dosent happen anymore though because we moved and he finally got a respectable friend that isnt a stupid.

Sweetheart...* Due July 30 (girl); 1 child; Florida 1290 posts
12th Jul '13
Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:" Is/was his dad very disrespectful to his mom? It could be subliminal because its what he witnessed his whole life?"


yeah his dad is an a*****e and we currently have nothing to do with him. He used to witness his father beating the shit out of his mom, he actually broke her arm and he used to also hit him. Then his dad left and met this lady (his stepmom) who he has been with for the last 12 yrs and also treated her like garbage.. I see more and more of his father in him every day. It's kinda scary.. and yet he really does not realize it. He blames it on me..

motherofarunner 1 child; Kansas City, Kansas 1835 posts
12th Jul '13

It sounds like you two need counseling. It seems you are noticing the start of a violent relationship and you need to stop it before it gets to that point imo.

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
12th Jul '13
Quoting Sweetheart...*:" yeah his dad is an a*****e and we currently have nothing to do with him. He used to witness his father ... [snip!] ... more and more of his father in him every day. It's kinda scary.. and yet he really does not realize it. He blames it on me.."

I would say that it is a subconscious thing that he does. I catch myself getting snappier at my husband when I am around my family too much, and that's how its always was in my house. I would talk to him about it. Maybe as a PP mentioned record some of it, so he can see how hes acting. But don't throw it in his face when youre angry, actually sit down and talk to him about it when you two are not fighting!

Sweetheart...* Due July 30 (girl); 1 child; Florida 1290 posts
12th Jul '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" Is he trying to impress his dad? Maybe he grew up with it and feels that he has to do it when he's around him? Have you considered trying to record it?"


Yeah I think I am going to try recording it... but ya know when I think about it he does it even when no one is around.. he's always mad and yelling about something.