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What to do? Wedding... lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
13th Jul '13

Ok so I've been engaged for 3 yrs now and we still haven't planned a wedding. I know in my head what I want but it's all so overwhelming plus we don't have the money until one of us gets a better job (and who knows how long that will be, we've been looking for years). I'm about to say screw it and just elope at a destination wedding somewhere and whoever wants to pay can come lol. But I fear ill always regret not having the big wedding. I'm so torn. I want to be married, especially cause lylian keeps asking us when were having a wedding. SO just wants to do what makes me happy but I feel it's a double edged sword. If we keep putting it off I fear ill regret it and if I don't have my big wedding I feel ill regret it. Gaaaaaaaaah.......

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
13th Jul '13

So go away get married and then come back and have a back yard BBQ type get together!

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
13th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:</b>" So go away get married and then come back and have a back yard BBQ type get together!"</blockquote>



I thought about it but I feel sad giving up my dream wedding :(

.Christin. 1 child; Florida 1351 posts
13th Jul '13
Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:</b>" So go away get married and then come ... [snip!] ... have a back yard BBQ type get together!"</blockquote> I thought about it but I feel sad giving up my dream wedding :("

You can always have your dream wedding. Do a vowel renewal in like 10 years when you guys are better off financially.

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
13th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:</b>" So go away get married and then come ... [snip!] ... have a back yard BBQ type get together!"</blockquote> I thought about it but I feel sad giving up my dream wedding :("</blockquote>




I understand that! I wanted to elope but DH wanted the me to have the wedding I deserved so we did that. It cost too much (and we did it the cheap way) it was too much stress and nothing went as planned! If I could go back I would elope!

Zeke's Mama Due September 26 (girl); 1 child; Pensacola, Florida 5711 posts
13th Jul '13

What if you just downsize your dream wedding? Or do a vow renewal in 5-10 years and have your dream wedding.

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
13th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Zeke's Mama:</b>" What if you just downsize your dream wedding? Or do a vow renewal in 5-10 years and have your dream wedding."</blockquote>



Idk how to "downsize" it really. Idk how much I'm even looking at cause I won't start planning til I know we can pay for stuff. And right now that's a no. Our parents are no help. I know my mom would buy little things but nobody's gonna be like "oh here's $1000".

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
13th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Christin.:</b>" You can always have your dream wedding. Do a vowel renewal in like 10 years when you guys are better off financially."</blockquote>




I thought about that too. But wouldn't that be weird To go all out for?

Zeke's Mama Due September 26 (girl); 1 child; Pensacola, Florida 5711 posts
13th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Zeke's Mama:</b>" What if you just downsize your dream wedding? ... [snip!] ... now that's a no. Our parents are no help. I know my mom would buy little things but nobody's gonna be like "oh here's $1000"."</blockquote>




Can you describe your dream wedding? Maybe we can help give some ideas?

laurenmik 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 7222 posts
13th Jul '13

I got married on a beach during a cruise and a few family members and friends that could afford it came along. When we got home we had a reception with everyone else. It was awesome for us and I didn't miss having a huge wedding.. I also get really uncomfortable being the center of attention, so that could be part of the reason I liked it so much.

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
13th Jul '13

So here's my vision:



An outdoor winter wonderland. A horse drawn carriage brings me in wearing my glistening white dress covered with a long white fur coat (faux of course lol). Then I walk up the aisle of Christmas lights to a gazebo lit with Christmas lights. This is all at night. I may need a snow machine if it doesn't snow though, MI is so unpredictable. Then we'd do a quick ceremony and head indoors to our reception. Well first SO and I would go on a carriage ride while the guests settled in.



Basically it's gonna be the DJ/band (I kida wanted a live band), the dress/tux, and the venue that will cost a lot. If my wedding is after Christmas we can get the lights on clearance lol. And I don't need a ton of decorations. I'm sure my mom would help me pitch in.

.Christin. 1 child; Florida 1351 posts
13th Jul '13
Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting .Christin.:</b>" You can always have your dream wedding. Do ... [snip!] ... guys are better off financially."</blockquote> I thought about that too. But wouldn't that be weird To go all out for?"


Not at all, a lot of people do it now days. And who cares if it's weird anyway, if it makes you and your SO happy that is all that matters. Would you rather have a big dream wedding in 10 years or an okay wedding now that breaks the bank?
Look at it that way.

laurenmik 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 7222 posts
13th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" So here's my vision: An outdoor winter wonderland. A horse drawn carriage brings me in wearing my glistening ... [snip!] ... we can get the lights on clearance lol. And I don't need a ton of decorations. I'm sure my mom would help me pitch in."</blockquote>




Well shit.. I want your dream wedding!
That sounds awesome.

Zeke's Mama Due September 26 (girl); 1 child; Pensacola, Florida 5711 posts
13th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" So here's my vision: An outdoor winter wonderland. A horse drawn carriage brings me in wearing my glistening ... [snip!] ... we can get the lights on clearance lol. And I don't need a ton of decorations. I'm sure my mom would help me pitch in."</blockquote>




:shock:
That sounds so...magical.



I wouldn't even know how to begin downsizing that, nor would I want to. If that's what you really want, I say go for a huge vow renewal. Like another poster said, okay wedding now or great wedding down the road?

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
13th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting laurenmik:</b>" I got married on a beach during a cruise and a few family members and friends that could afford it came ... [snip!] ... I also get really uncomfortable being the center of attention, so that could be part of the reason I liked it so much."</blockquote>



I asked SO to take an Alaskan cruise so we could still do the snow wedding but elope style and he won't take a cruise. Cruise ships scare him :? Coming from the man who's been sky diving, spelunking, and god knows what else lol