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**Blessed_Insanity** 7 kids; Wyoming 18995 posts
13th Jul '13
Quoting Simply Sara:" I do plan to breastfeed. But I'm also concerned because night is when SO and I really relax completely ... [snip!] ... we go to sleep. So, the alone time at night with baby in her crib would also be our time to grow as a couple, not only parents."


Well just as long as you know that is all fine and dandy and I def encourage time together, but your expectations of how many hours you will get together and what you really will get together at night, are not going to be the same once baby is actually here.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
13th Jul '13

I always co sleep for like the first 6 months or so. I will try to get baby to sleep in the bassinet just so I cn sleep on my stomach for a bit lol. But baby alwys ends up in my bed BFing.

Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26889 posts
13th Jul '13

I never wanted to cosleep...then I had my first baby, lol. He would not sleep anywhere but in my bed and only when actively nursing (we found out 2 years later that he has autism and a sleep disorder). Now he is 4.5 and I have a 2.5 year old and a 4 month old. They all start out in their own beds, the 4 month old comes to my bed when he first wakes up..the 4.5 year old comes to the big bed in the middle of the night and the 2.5 year old sleeps in his own bed all night about half the time. I love waking up to their cuddles though. :)

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
13th Jul '13

I think if you only do it for a few weeks, you'll be fine. During the day, set him down in his crib awake after feeding/playing/changing time so he'll be comfortable sleeping there by himself.




I still co-sleep with my 1 year old and I hate it. I screwed up by never putting him down so he got used to it.

Zach&Evan&Jacob'sMom 3 kids; 7 angel babies; Fall Branch, Tennessee 48611 posts
13th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Pregnancy Addiction:</b>" Well just as long as you know that is all fine and dandy and I def encourage time together, but your ... [snip!] ... you will get together and what you really will get together at night, are not going to be the same once baby is actually here. "</blockquote>



Agreed!

Zach&Evan&Jacob'sMom 3 kids; 7 angel babies; Fall Branch, Tennessee 48611 posts
13th Jul '13

I have bedshared/co-slept with all three of my boys. I bfed them all so it was the best/easiest for me at night. During the day, they napped other places. Their swings, their cribs, etc. I never had an issue transitioning them to their own beds. I transition my older two when co-sleeping was affecting their sleep. As in I was waking them up getting up to pee or my snoring, etc. Lol. They sleep in our bed now and then, but only when we allow. They never whine if they can't. My youngest son is 7 weeks old so we obviously still co-sleep.



As for talking in bed, watching tv, etc with your hubby, it was never an issue for us until the boys were older (6 months+) and ready to transition to their own bed. I had/have a play yard set up next to the bed that the baby can/could sleep in whenever. That way my hubby and I could have the bed to ourselves now and then ;)

♥Rach♥ 2 kids; Arizona 12875 posts
13th Jul '13

DD is 2 and we've been co-sleeping since the day she was born. I NEVER thought I would co-sleep, but it my nurse suggested it and made breastfeeding so much easier (especially when I had to go back to work). Just this week, she has been asking to sleep in her own bed so we are going to start the transition soon. I'm going to miss it, but I'm excited that she's ready. Co-sleeping is definitely not for everyone and it should be done safely, but it can be very beneficial.

Vicki McDonald Due September 28 (boy); 3 kids; Belleville, Ontario 927 posts
13th Jul '13
Quoting Simply Sara:" I do plan to breastfeed. But I'm also concerned because night is when SO and I really relax completely ... [snip!] ... we go to sleep. So, the alone time at night with baby in her crib would also be our time to grow as a couple, not only parents."


That is about the only good reason I have ever heard for not co sleeping! Ultimately it is your decision, it's your family. I wouldn't be worried about the cases you mentioned in the OP, I co slept with all 3 of my boys until they were around one, and they all transitioned to sleeping on their own with minimal fuss. It's your choice, so don't worry about what works ( or doesn't ) for other people.

**Cali's Mommie**[EBF] 2 kids; San Jacinto, California 661 posts
13th Jul '13

i coslept with my first til he was 2 and it was soo hard to put him in his own bed hes 6 now and sleeps fine in his own room my baby now is 1 month old and i only cosleep when we nap sometimes! and once ur babies here as soon as the babys asleep ur not gonna care to talk to ur SO ur gonna be so tired with the baby thats how i am lol

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
13th Jul '13

I fully slept with my oldest until she was 3 and had no problem "breaking" the habit. Shes almost 6 and equally fine sleeping in her bed or mine.



My 3 month old won't sleep with us, hasn't since 6 weeks :(

Amy Packer 1 child; Battle Creek, Michigan 533 posts
14th Jul '13

I'm one of those that never thought they would co-sleep but does and loves it. My son is an extremely light sleeper and he didn't like sleeping on his own. Out of exhuastion i started co-sleeping and i loved it..i am also a light sleeper since he hws been born and i wake when he starts to whine or move around..i could feel him breath and move so i knew he was okay.He is now 14 months and is becoming more independent in how he wants to sleep but I still bed share because I love the cuddles..I will lay him in his "spot" and let him sleep but he usually will wake in the middle of the night and cuddle up to me..I sleep so much better when he snuggles up to me. I fully plan to continue this until we both are ready to switch him to his own bed..I don't see anything wrong with fo-sleeping as long as you are safe and smart about how you do it.

MrsDillin+1 & 1/2 2 kids; QC, IL, United States 658 posts
10th Oct '13

DD was in our bed the 1st night home!! We eventually broke her of it, but then when she was about 1, I started bringing her back into bed with us. Now shes just over 2 and still in bed with mommy & daddy! We are trying to break her of it before new baby comes (may), so we still have plenty of time. She doesn't even like taking naps in her own bed. But with this 2nd child I'm planning on breastfeeding (didn't do that with DD), so I'm hoping DD is in her own room, that way new baby doesn't wake her up when it starts crying in the night.