DH has some overbearing aunts... SIL was induced Wednesday, they were sending DH a play by play... except, you know, when she actually delivered the baby. :roll:
She delivered vaginally. I'm having a repeat, scheduled C-Section.
Personally, I only want our parents there when I am having surgery. Especially since we still aren't sure whether or not I am getting my gallbladder removed right after. So far, just about everyone is on board with my decision to wait at least until after noon, since most doctors I have come in contact with like to do things before their practices open at 830, to come up the hospital.
I've already been told that I may offend the aunts because I don't want them there when I'm in surgery having the baby and that DH may get a lot of shit over it. None of them even so much as check to see how I'm doing or make sure the baby is okay outside of the one family function we have been to where they didn't even remember that I was pregnant but were praying for SIL's pregnancy (Easter).
I want this to be a special experience for us, for DS, for the grandparents.
When I had DS, it was just my mom and I when I first saw him because BD had "better things to do" but you know, I found that time special. I don't want everyone knocking down the door because they think they have the right to and stressing me out because this is what I want.
I told all our family and friends that I would call them when we were ready. Originally I didn't want anyone to even come to the hospital but as soon as he was born I really wanted to show him off to the world.
Just tell them you will call or text when you are ready for visitors, that you'll be recovering for several hours and will not want any visitors during that time.
If you are having a c section, only one person will be allowed in the operating room anyway.
Just don't tell people when your surgery is. They'll get over it
And if you don't want visitors, tell the nurses and they will not let people in
I had like a freaking party at the hospital with dd but this time I think we will wait until either afternoon (if I deliver in the morning) or the next day.
Quoting Madi's*Mama:" I had like a freaking party at the hospital with dd but this time I think we will wait until either afternoon (if I deliver in the morning) or the next day."
I did too.
My mom, my aunt, my sister, and my doula were all in the room when I delivered. As were countless other medical staff and students. I swear there was at least 30 people in the room
<blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly&Coralie:</b>" I did too. My mom, my aunt, my sister, and my doula were all in the room when I delivered. As were countless other medical staff and students. I swear there was at least 30 people in the room"</blockquote>
I had dh, my mom, my mil, I think 3 nurses, the student shadowing my dr and then my dr.
After I was cleaning up my 2 brothers, my sister; grandma, fil, stepdad, bil, aunt and some cousins came in and joined us all lol
I went into labour on the Thursday, gave birth on Friday and had my first visitor the following Friday afternoon in the comfort of my own home.
It was just me and my mother at the hospital.
We had a csection at 830 am. We were in our room by 11. My mom was at the hospital with my dad by 1130-12. His dad was there not long after. My mom came back my sister came. Well just about everyone was there within 12 hours. lol
Do whats most comfortable to you! If you don't want everyone there, keep the time for yourselves. :)
I told the family to come the day after
When I had DD (c-sec) my whole family ( DH, DS, mom,dad, stepmom, sister, BIL, nephew and neices) were all waiting for me when I got done with my c-sec. It was important to me that they were all there to meet DD but I was happy when they left and I got to spend some one on one time with DD. My advice is do whatever you are comfortable with. If you only want specific people only tell those people when you are delivery and announcing to the rest of the world when you are ready.
Quoting Soon2be3!!!!!:" I told the family to come the day after"
I delivered vaginally, I allowed visitors a few hours after I gave birth. I felt ok so i didnt mind.
The most I do remember about my actual surgery last time was that we had four nurses in the room, the OB, the anesthesiologist, and BD for a few short seconds before they had to knock me out. :lol: Afterwards, I was on a drip the first night and I don't remember telling people to get the hell out of my room and I was trying to get everyone off the damn phone. Nobody knew I even had the baby unless BD or I texted them personally. Now in the day and age of Facebook... :roll:
Now that I think back on it, my insurance is still under my maiden name which I doubt anyone has paid attention enough to remember and you have to be buzzed into the Maternity Ward. I had DS at a different hospital so I have no idea about the protocol at the hospital, I just know what I've been told from SIL and my cousin when she had her son three years ago.
I love having the support so I never set a timeframe of when we wanted visitorS. With both births we had at least 10 people in the waiting area and we had visitors within the day.
But if you really don't want them there just tell them you would prefer if they wait until after surgery before they come by.
I didn't tell anyone what day I was being induced for that reason. I didn't need anyone trying to be there that I didn't want there. I didn't tell anyone he was born till late afternoon the next day. And when people asked what hospital I was in I just ignored their questions. No one was allowed to visit us until we were out of the hospital and situated at home.
I had an emergency csection on a Sunday night at 9. When I got back to my room there were a TON of people. DHs mom, sister and her boyfriend, brother, best friend, and my mom were all there.
This time around I'm having a vbac. My DH, mom, and three year old will be there. Everyone else will wait until I've at least showered.