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I'm lost and sad that he is consider abortion kingstreesdr Due March 16 (boy); South Carolina 1 posts
15th Jul '13

I'm pregnant and I wants to keep my baby but my freind wants me to get an abortion.... I really feels sometype of way.... he gave me reason to why abortion but none of his ideal are irrelevance to me.



His reason: if I was to have another child with my kids and his it will be 6 kids.... he thinks that it will be financial and stressful to bring another child in our relationship. He says that we don't have a bus to carry all the kids in if we wanted to go somewhere. He says he is selfish and it will take away time from him. Not only him but take away time from the other kids. He says my house is not big enough for another child and that he just don't want nomore kids.



I'm really hurt that 2 people that loves each other and he wants to consider abortion. Before I met him I had 4 kids from my previous marriage, and he had 2 kids from previous relationship which makes 6 kids when his kids comes overnight. I wants to keep my baby cause I don't believe in abortion, but he insists that we have an abortion.



I'm a register nurse and he is a lineman which we are financial stable and content with our jobs.



I crys to think about having a child and it want be love and wanted by its father. I'm don't know what to do I'm 5 weeks and time is pushing.

3sACrowd 3 kids; Alaska 3391 posts
15th Jul '13

Don't do anything unless you're 100% sure of the decision. Regret is not a good feeling to have. I think this should be discussed more between you two. Weigh your pros and cons for keeping and aborting. Good luck.

Snow 1 child; Storybrooke, ME, United States 34017 posts
15th Jul '13

Don't let anyone push you into anything you don't want to do. It's as simple as that. If he didn't want another kid, he should have kept it in his pants or at least had a vasectomy.

Boobo&bugs Due September 24; 1 child; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7383 posts
15th Jul '13

I would take a little bit longer to consider what we both wanted separately. Them have a discussion together when you are both ready. However this is your body and your pregnancy. You need to do what is right for you and you alone. No one can make this decision for you other than you. You also need to make sure that he understands your feelings on this.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49255 posts
15th Jul '13

If you don't believe in abortion and don't want to do it, don't. He can't force you. Any man who is selfish enough to force his choice on you isn't worth keeping.

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11712 posts
15th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>" If you don't believe in abortion and don't want to do it, don't. He can't force you. Any man who is selfish enough to force his choice on you isn't worth keeping. "</blockquote>




this!

LnghrnFan 2 kids; Colorado 26 posts
15th Jul '13

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Just remember that no one, not even the father of your child, can force you to have an abortion. You have to do what you feel is right...and I know of many people who live with the regret of their decision to have an abortion. You need to talk to him about how you feel. And remain calm...don't jump to any hasty conclusions. I'll be praying it all works out for you!

LnghrnFan 2 kids; Colorado 26 posts
15th Jul '13

Congratulations on your pregnancy. Just remember that no one, not even the father of your child, can force you to have an abortion. You have to do what you feel is right...and I know of many people who live with the regret of their decision to have an abortion. You need to talk to him about how you feel. And remain calm...don't jump to any hasty conclusions. I'll be praying it all works out for you!

lalalalove [+2! ♥] 2 kids; Gainesville, Florida 2071 posts
9th Aug '13

As the other ladies have said, don't let anyone push you into making a decision you feel you will regret! If you don't personally believe in abortions, I definitely wouldn't suggest getting one even if your significant other wants you to. The decision does effect him to a certain extent, yes, but in the end it's YOUR body! He knew the risks of having sex (especially if it was unprotected, not being judgmental as I'm pretty much in that situation right now! - just saying that if you used faulty birth control methods and he was a willing participant he knew the risks then too!), and he is an adult.



If you guys already have 4 kids in the house regularly and 6 sometimes, I really don't think adding one more is going to be THAT much more stressful! Sounds like you guys are probably pros already I'm sure between the experience you both have plus the people who care about you guys you will be just fine!

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11712 posts
9th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting peacelovehippies:</b>" As the other ladies have said, don't let anyone push you into making a decision you feel you will regret! ... [snip!] ... pros already I'm sure between the experience you both have plus the people who care about you guys you will be just fine!"</blockquote>




this thread was beyond dead hun.

Snow 1 child; Storybrooke, ME, United States 34017 posts
9th Aug '13
Quoting Simply, Mom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting peacelovehippies:</b>" As the other ladies have said, don't ... [snip!] ... have plus the people who care about you guys you will be just fine!"</blockquote> this thread was beyond dead hun."


I thought the same thing. Nearly a month old now.

Simply, Mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Upland, 11712 posts
9th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Snotface:</b>" I thought the same thing. Nearly a month old now. "</blockquote>




she did it in another too that was exactly s mnth old lol.



i hate when ppl dont look at when it was posted or when the last post was at least lol

lalalalove [+2! ♥] 2 kids; Gainesville, Florida 2071 posts
9th Aug '13
Quoting Simply, Mom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Snotface:</b>" I thought the same thing. Nearly a month old ... [snip!] ... too that was exactly s mnth old lol. i hate when ppl dont look at when it was posted or when the last post was at least lol"


Been quite a while since I've used this site, I noticed a short bit after posting that it was an older thread. It was right at the top of the first page of "Preparing for your baby" at least for me, so I just kind of assumed it wasn't months old. My bad. :lol: