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Night Weaning ...B... 3 kids; 3 angel babies; bumfuck, CT, United States 241 posts
15th Jul '13

How do you do it? I am at a complete loss as to what to do or where to begin.



DD is 18 months and nurses randomly throughout the day and night. During the day lately I've been able to distract her with chocolate milk, snacks or toys, but its the night nursing i have no idea what to do about. My nipples are so sensitive right now and it feels like she is biting me all the time while nursing, plus i get crampy sometimes afterwards.



I have tried rocking, but she works herself up to tantrum kicking and screaming. I usually try to let her comfort herself back to sleep if she is just whimpering, but when she starts crying i try to rock her.



Sorry for any typos or punctuation mistakes, im on a tablet.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 22411 posts
status 15th Jul '13

When I did it it, I had DH put him to bed a few nights in a row.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
15th Jul '13
Quoting Colt's mommy:" When I did it it, I had DH put him to bed a few nights in a row."


this, if she woke up, we'd let her fuss a little, usually falling right back to sleep. If she was really awake and crying DH would go in and soothe her and lay her back down.

...B... 3 kids; 3 angel babies; bumfuck, CT, United States 241 posts
15th Jul '13

My fiance gets too frustrated if shes doesnt stop crying right away and then his frustration wakes her up more.

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
15th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ...B...:</b>" My fiance gets too frustrated if shes doesnt stop crying right away and then his frustration wakes her up more."</blockquote>



Well he needs to be more supportive. I did it when I was a single mom. I was pregnant and my son who was breastfeeding was 2 1/2. Luckily he could understand more than an 18 month old so I could actually talk to him about it but it took weeks of screaming himself to sleep while I layed in bed with him hugging him but not letting him breastfeed. It would have been so much easier if his dad was around.
It will also help to start a bed time routine if you don't have one, or just make sure you keep telling her after she brushes her teeth no more breastfeeding so nurse, brush teeth, bed should be the last things you do.

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
15th Jul '13

Actually, it was before I was pregnant and he was like 2. I wanted to get him to sleep the night in his own bed because the relationship I was in was getting more serious and the guy had started sleeping over.

NopeNotGonnaDOIt 6 kids; Cuba 3000 posts
15th Jul '13
Quoting greenmamabecky☮:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ...B...:</b>" My fiance gets too frustrated if shes doesnt stop ... [snip!] ... keep telling her after she brushes her teeth no more breastfeeding so nurse, brush teeth, bed should be the last things you do."

Geting frustrated is not being unsupportive. He must have tried it if he knows he gets frustrated... if he can't handle the screaming it's best he is not the one to be in there because it will make the child more upset.
OP just offer a sippy cup of water, lay with her, talk to her about waiting til morning to nurse. It may take awhile but eventually she will realize that waking at night is pointless. If you are working on night nursing do not cut out nursing sessions during the day. If you do this, they will try to make up for it at night.

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
15th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama❍:</b>" Geting frustrated is not being unsupportive. He must have tried it if he knows he gets frustrated... ... [snip!] ... on night nursing do not cut out nursing sessions during the day. If you do this, they will try to make up for it at night. "</blockquote>




If he gets frustrated when she doesn't stop crying "right away" that means he just gives up immediately and passes it back off as moms responsibility which imo is bs and not being supportive.

NopeNotGonnaDOIt 6 kids; Cuba 3000 posts
15th Jul '13
Quoting greenmamabecky☮:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama❍:</b>" Geting frustrated is not being unsupportive. ... [snip!] ... that means he just gives up immediately and passes it back off as moms responsibility which imo is bs and not being supportive."


you're just assuming and THATS not being supportive on here, so yeah.

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
15th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama❍:</b>" you're just assuming and THATS not being supportive on here, so yeah. "</blockquote>




I gave her plenty of good, real life advice. She can choose to take it or leave it. You are no judge as to what is supportive advice for someone else and I'm not getting into a petty argument.

NopeNotGonnaDOIt 6 kids; Cuba 3000 posts
15th Jul '13
Quoting greenmamabecky☮:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama❍:</b>" you're just assuming and THATS not being ... [snip!] ... it or leave it. You are no judge as to what is supportive advice for someone else and I'm not getting into a petty argument."


telling someone that their husband isn't being as supportive as they should be when you know nothing about them personally is silly and presumptuous, sorry I don't know why it rubbed me the wrong way. But yes the other advice you gave was sound.