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Disrepectful? *Big Mama of 4* 20 kids; Jackson, Tennessee 363 posts
15th Jul

Ok. A friend of mine is pregnant. She's not with the father and she has a new boyfriend. She's been with him for months and she refuses to have sex with him because people are telling her that it would disrespectful to the father of the child and it would make her look whorish. I totally disagree with that. So it's ok for him to go out and have sex with anyone, but she can't? Bull shit! That's not fair in my opinion. Would she be disrespectful if she decided to have sex with her new boyfriend while she's pregnant with another man's baby?

MomDIA TTC since May 2008; 81 kids; Warminster, Pennsylvania 3812 posts
15th Jul

No it is not disrespectful. She is in a new relationship, if she is moving on she is moving on, pregnant or not. That's just my opinion.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 15782 posts
15th Jul

If I were a man, I wouldnt have sex with a pregnant woman. I can't explain why, but it would just seem weird to me.



However, I don't think she would be "whoreish" if she wanted to have sex with another man...

BeautifullyDoomed 2 kids; Corpus Christi, 456 posts
15th Jul

Not at all disrespectful, I did the same with this last pregnancy, still with the man too!

Dont worry about it♥ California 4151 posts
15th Jul

I wouldnt consider it disrespectful. But I think if shes planning on having sex with her new man. He would go get himself checked out prior to having sex, to make sure he's good on his half.
And maybe she feels its disrespectful to the baby?

speaktruth2powr 2 kids; Ontario 45005 posts
15th Jul

I don't necessarily think it's disrespectful to the ex, but if I were in that situation, I'd really be examining my priorities.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
15th Jul

I think it's disrespectful that anyone thinks they get to tell her who she can sleep with and when. If she wants to have sex with the man she is in relationship that is her choice, pregnant or not. Just like in any other relationship, her ex should not be a factor.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
15th Jul

I think it's disrespectful that anyone thinks they get to tell her who she can sleep with and when. If she wants to have sex with the man she is in relationship that is her choice, pregnant or not. Just like in any other relationship, her ex should not be a factor.

round3 3 kids; Ontario 214 posts
15th Jul
Quoting *P.Y.T w/ 4 Angels*:" Ok. A friend of mine is pregnant. She's not with the father and she has a new boyfriend. She's been with ... [snip!] ... Would she be disrespectful if she decided to have sex with her new boyfriend while she's pregnant with another man's baby?"


Disrespectful, no. Whorish, yes.

Steph{♥T&A♥} 2 kids; Arkansas 1891 posts
15th Jul

Uhm, no? They're not in a relationship. She's in a new relationship, she should be able to enjoy it.

Adriana's Mami♥ +1 Due December 14; 33 kids; Ontario 3858 posts
15th Jul

It's not disrespectful but personally, I'd be focusing on the baby and not on starting a new relationship.

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
15th Jul

No one has given their opinion who said yes so I will



This is just for me personally and I would never tell someone else it was disrespectful. But for me, carrying a child is pretty sacred feeling. Like I have this little person growing inside of me. I would feel very disrespectful to my unborn child letting some guy who isn't the father penetrate me and poke at him (lol).
I'd also probably feel a little guilty for the father of my child. Even if we weren't together I'd still be carrying a part of him.
It's just my opinion and if your friend is ok with it, op then she shouldn't let what others say change her mind. It's her body and her life.

ChristinaLynne Due October 7; 2 kids; Crockett, Tx, United States 26764 posts
15th Jul

<blockquote><b>Quoting round3:</b>" Disrespectful, no. Whorish, yes."</blockquote>




How is that whorish?



Most grown adults have consenual sex. Nothing wrong with it




OP I don't think it's disrespectful. Dude is off getting it on why can't she? While I personally think it would be awkward and couldn't do it let alone I hate having sex pregnant if she's up for it then why not.

*Big Mama of 4* 20 kids; Jackson, Tennessee 363 posts
15th Jul

<blockquote><b>Quoting ChristinaLynne:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting round3:</b>" Disrespectful, no. Whorish, yes."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... I personally think it would be awkward and couldn't do it let alone I hate having sex pregnant if she's up for it then why not."</blockquote>




She wants to but she's letting people get in her head. Luckily the guy she's with isn't a jerk. He doesn't mind waiting.

ChristinaLynne Due October 7; 2 kids; Crockett, Tx, United States 26764 posts
15th Jul

<blockquote><b>Quoting *P.Y.T w/ 4 Angels*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ChristinaLynne:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting round3:</b>" ... [snip!] ... She wants to but she's letting people get in her head. Luckily the guy she's with isn't a jerk. He doesn't mind waiting."</blockquote>



Sounds like a good guy.