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K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
15th Jul '13
Quoting Amb ♥:" "


That's tough. If he makes you uncomfortable (which it sounds like he does), I would start by telling him not to come over any more unless YOU invite HIM.



and I would not allow someone who molested me around my children at all. ever. I know you said you don't leave her alone with him... but pervert men can be sneaky.

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16675 posts
15th Jul '13

OP, I would definitely have a conversation with him and lay out your boundaries, let him know that he can either respect what you say or stop coming around.

Amber + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19431 posts
15th Jul '13
Quoting Rebekah Garden x3:" Ahh that makes more sense now. I wouldn't want him over either!"


Ya, if him and I were close it'd be totally different but were not. We have no relationship at all. Honestly, I don't even know if I love him.. I want to say I do, but I just honestly don't know :? I've thought long and hard about it. Like if he died tomorrow would I be sad? As fucked up as it may sound, I don't even know if I'd be sad or cry or anything. I just don't know.

Amber + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19431 posts
15th Jul '13

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Amber + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19431 posts
15th Jul '13
Quoting BOB MARLEY
3sACrowd 3 kids; Alaska 3397 posts
15th Jul '13
Quoting Amb ♥:

Have you suggested he see/talk to someone? Maybe you two could go together to see someone and work through the issues and maybe form a stronger relationship in the future?

Amber + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19431 posts
15th Jul '13

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LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16675 posts
15th Jul '13
Quoting Amb ♥:" That's exactly what I need to do. He needs to learn to respect my wishes. Thank you!"

Your welcome mama. I hope this gets better because it seems like such a tough situation to go through. It sounds like you really care for him despite his shortcomings but he really needs to learn to respect your wishes.

Jenny&Boopy Due June 26; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7890 posts
status 15th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting BOB MARLEY

3sACrowd 3 kids; Alaska 3397 posts
15th Jul '13
Quoting Amb ♥:

That's such a hard place to be in. On one hand, I think it would be great for you two to actually talk about it because it wont ever be fixed if you don't...but at the same time, you should never really do/talk about anything you feel is uncomfortable. Plus, I can just tell from your posts that you DO care about him and his feelings, but this incident is what is pushing you back. For now, I would just set some boundaries like someone else said. If he can't call/text you then he doesn't need to come over at all and I wouldn't answer the door either.