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I feel bad but... *~AngelEyes~* 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Memphis, Tennessee 10592 posts
16th Jul '13

Ever since I had my baby boy, I've felt more of a bond with him than I ever did with my oldest son... now don't get me wrong, I love my oldest boy with all my heart and wouldn't trade him for anything... but sometimes it feels like I love Trey more... which I don't love him any more or less than DS1. It actually makes me cry sometimes bc I feel bad for feeling that way! Please don't judge or criticise me for it... but has anyone else ever felt this way??? I don't like it at all!!!

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
16th Jul '13

I bonded most right away with my third because I had less new-mom anxiety-I knew what to expect, knew what was normal, etc. There was more time to just really enjoy him, really.

kthx. Due January 13 (girl); Cleves, Ohio 66948 posts
16th Jul '13

I don't think it's wrong to feel that way. Personally, I think it's because your youngest is the newest. He still has that 'pizzazz', while your oldest has sort of become.... routine? Sorry if this is worded weird :lol: It's like getting a new car while still having your old one... you still love your old one because it was your first 'baby', but your new one is new and exciting.

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
16th Jul '13

I think it's pretty common. You oldest doesn't really NEED you as much as your newborn does. So I think that contributes a lot. Don't feel bad about it.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
16th Jul '13
Quoting kthx.:" I don't think it's wrong to feel that way. Personally, I think it's because your youngest is the newest. ... [snip!] ... having your old one... you still love your old one because it was your first 'baby', but your new one is new and exciting."


yeahhhhh.... "worded weird" for sure.

Van West Auckland, NZ, New Zealand 3179 posts
16th Jul '13
Quoting White Chocolate Milk:" I think it's pretty common. You oldest doesn't really NEED you as much as your newborn does. So I think that contributes a lot. Don't feel bad about it."


I agree with this!

Trey&Genesis'momma 4 kids; 4 angel babies; Somewhere, IN, United States 4660 posts
16th Jul '13

It's normal mama! Don't stress over it. The others are right and also it could be contributed to the fact that I'm assuming you still don't have full custody of your first DS? So he's not there all the time and needing your full attention, KWIM? Either way, a new baby is bound to bring on a stronger bond because it's new and exciting and you just want to spend every single second enjoying the new baby.