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K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
16th Jul '13

This is a persisting issue. I mean it's not constantly going on, but about once a month she gets in trouble for it. Usually it's for screaming cuss words at her brother, or randomly just trying to get a reaction out of DH or I (in which case it normally goes ignored, we'll just tel her "That's ugly. Don't say it.")



But this time she is at my work sitting in an extra office, and I hear her singing "ass-face, shit, damn, damnit, shit, ass".



I could NOT ignore that, so I took her to the bathroom and made her eat soap. I told her, "That was sO dirty, and now you have to eat soap to clean out your dirty mouth. We don't say those words." To which she replied "I didn't say them. I was singing a song." That kinda infuriated me, but I just stood there with my arms crossed until she took a bite. Then I let her drink some water, and she said sorry. Hopefully we won't have this problem again, but I don't really know what to do if it continues. Discussion is obviously not working, time out doesn't even phase her, she's so content that it she doesn't care if we take things away... I'm running out of options, and letting the behavior go, so that she thinks it's not a problem is NOT an option. I can't have her talking that way.

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
16th Jul '13
Quoting Kacti:" This is a persisting issue. I mean it's not constantly going on, but about once a month she gets in trouble ... [snip!] ... and letting the behavior go, so that she thinks it's not a problem is NOT an option. I can't have her talking that way."


Jiminy. I don't know mama. I've never had to deal with it to that severity.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 74910 posts
status 16th Jul '13
Quoting Kacti:" This is a persisting issue. I mean it's not constantly going on, but about once a month she gets in trouble ... [snip!] ... and letting the behavior go, so that she thinks it's not a problem is NOT an option. I can't have her talking that way."

Well she clearly knows that they're not appropriate words to say. I doubt she likes being punished, so I would assume she just forgets (like parents do sometimes) or it has become a habit. Help her think of alternative words to use. I don't think the soap is going to work, she's just going to get better at hiding it imo like she tried to do when she thought you weren't around to hear her.

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
16th Jul '13
Quoting ♀NoBoysAllowed:" Jiminy. I don't know mama. I've never had to deal with it to that severity. "

I know this is something that I'm going to laugh about in the future. But right now it's a problem. What if we go to church and she starts singing her little "song" in Sunday school, ya know? :oops: that would be embarrasing anywhere... but ya KWIM?

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
16th Jul '13
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. , Richmond, VA, United States 74910 posts
status 16th Jul '13
Quoting Kacti:" True. I'm gonna tell her to say smurf, instead... lol."


:lol:

ashley + 2 2 kids; Nebraska 1658 posts
status 16th Jul '13
Quoting Kacti:" This is a persisting issue. I mean it's not constantly going on, but about once a month she gets in trouble ... [snip!] ... and letting the behavior go, so that she thinks it's not a problem is NOT an option. I can't have her talking that way."

That's hard. What do you usually do for discipline for other things? Does she get an allowance/money for chores? Make her pay you for every bad word she says. Or take away tv time or go to bed early. There's got to be something that will make her think twice about doing it.

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
16th Jul '13
Quoting ashley + 2:" That's hard. What do you usually do for discipline for other things? Does she get an allowance/money ... [snip!] ... she says. Or take away tv time or go to bed early. There's got to be something that will make her think twice about doing it."

With most things a conversation works, or if it's a serious offense, we spank.
ETA: I just don't feel like spanking is the right discipline for this behavior.



She's usually such a good kid, though. She rarely gets in trouble, and especially not for the same thing over and over.



Swear jar might be an effective way to break her. She does have a piggy bank that she saves her chore money in.

Redneck Mamma North Carolina 8746 posts
16th Jul '13

I was made to brush my teeth with dawn as a child, then rinse with orange juice... I threatened to wash DD's mouth out with soap then I remembered that.



I was accused of lying when I wasn't...

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
16th Jul '13
Quoting Kacti:" This is a persisting issue. I mean it's not constantly going on, but about once a month she gets in trouble ... [snip!] ... and letting the behavior go, so that she thinks it's not a problem is NOT an option. I can't have her talking that way."


So this happened with my youngest when he was 3. And it's still a problem. Since we know now he's autistic, his first words were fing SOB, without all the shortening. And he'd call his dad's girlfriend that. It was one of the reason he was expelled from day care. He wouldn't stop.



Nothing helped and I make them lick soap, not really eat it. 2 licks is good enough for me.



since we're still struggling with it, and he's obviously doing it for attention, his SN teacher would come up with silly words and she pretends they're cuss words. And then the kids start saying them and thinking they're saying something REALLY dirty, and that helps curb a lot of his cussing.



Although now he's a smart ass and tells his sissy, "Only adults are allowed to cuss, we can't."

ashley + 2 2 kids; Nebraska 1658 posts
status 16th Jul '13
Quoting Kacti:" With most things a conversation works, or if it's a serious offense, we spank. ETA: I just don't feel ... [snip!] ... over and over. Swear jar might be an effective way to break her. She does have a piggy bank that she saves her chore money in."

I agree that spanking doesn't fit for this. I would try a swear jar and see if that works. Make her pay you a quarter everytime she swears and if she catches you swearing you have to pay her.

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
16th Jul '13

I like the idea of helping her find alternative words to "fix" her colorful vocab :D



I think I'm gonna correct her next time she cusses, and tell her to use "smurf".
If anyone else has silly alternative words feel free to share.



If that doesn't help, then we will try the swear jar.



Thanks for all your help ladies <3

. , Richmond, VA, United States 74910 posts
status 16th Jul '13
Quoting Kacti:" I like the idea of helping her find alternative words to "fix" her colorful vocab :D I think I'm gonna ... [snip!] ... words feel free to share. If that doesn't help, then we will try the swear jar. Thanks for all your help ladies <3"

I'd suggest a bunch of funny words.:lol:

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46079 posts
16th Jul '13

My daughter did that a couple of times, I just ignored her. She was looking to get a rise out of me...negative attention is still attention.

Serial Mom ✄ 18 kids; Michigan 2690 posts
17th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Teenage Girl:</b>" Ignore it. IMO, spanking is wrong and soap/hot sauce is fucked up. She'll stop when it's not getting a rise out of anyone."</blockquote>




This. They want a reaction.



And I thought the soap was an old fashioned thing. I had no idea people still actually did this. Yuck.