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About to experience third abortion in less than a year Drwordsspecialed 49 kids; Long Beach, California 22 posts
16th Jul '13

I have been in a two yr relationship with my boyfriend. I am 33 divorcee with an eight yr old. I discovered I was pregnant back in November 2012 and after discussing with my bf we mutually agreed the timing was not right and decided to terminate. I discovered I was pregnant again in December 2012 due to the condom breaking. We had vowed to be careful and only had sex once after the termination and I was pregnant again, after almost thinking to keep the child I decided on termination because if I wasn't ready 4 weeks ago, then I wasn't ready now. Fast forward to now July 2013 and once again I am pregnant and before you judge, we had been strict users of condoms but there was a miscommunication during sex this last time and protection was not used. Now I told myself I would not terminate again, I would suck it up and have the child considering I want to have more children but then reality set in, I just accepted a new position, started graduate school, and got pre-approved for a house. Im in down payment saving mode and I have a goal of opening my own school in 5 yrs and having a baby would derail those plans. Plus my bf and I are not married and he is not ready at all. He is willing to accept me terminating and terminating the relationship. He has said he is not ready but he has said he would co-parent. I'm not aborting for him, bc he doesn't want me to abort and leave instead he wants me to stay. I don't want to force anyone into a family but I am concerned about the safety of aborting for the 3rd in less than a yr. I make 67, 000 a yr and I'm doing okay with my son and I. I want to be in a better financial situation to raise two kids though. I'm sad that I'm experiencing this again, I want the child but not the financial strain. I think I'm superwoman so raising two kids would be a task but I would make it work. I just feel I should be married first etc. I am prepared to practice celibacy and prepared for the possibility that I may not have children again but I just don't want to bring another child into a broken home. I feel so irresponsible and I feel that I'm hurting my body. Each termination as been through using the abortion pill. I also feel like I, shortening my life by doing this. I on the fence and I have the termination appt on Thursday.

user banned Due December 20; Georgia 1823 posts
16th Jul '13

I'm not going to judge you. Your body, your choice. I'm very sorry that you have to go through it again though. I haven't had one but my close friend did and it was a very hard decision. Just know that you're doing it because you're not at a place to have a child right now. It doesn't make you a bad person. Try to find a more reliable form of birth control in the meantime because apparently it can be bad for you to have many. I don't know if that is true or not though.

** A.J's Mommy** 1 child; New Paltz, New York 805 posts
16th Jul '13

I'm sorry to hear you are going through this. I have had 2 abortions myself in less than a years time. One was in Feb 2012 and the other was Dec 2012. My bf and I have been together for 6 1/2 years and we have a 4 year old together. We decided the timing was not right for us. We like to be able to provide anything and everything for our son and we could not do that bringing another child into the world. I used the pill for both of my abortions. I wish you the best and hope that you become at peace with whatever decision you make.

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
16th Jul '13

If it's any comfort one of my really good friends has had 4 abortions. The last 2 were about a month apart. And she was able to successfully conceive and is in her 37th week now, so I know it is possible to have children later.
Honestly, you just have to do whatever you feel is best for your current situation and circumstances. You have no idea what the future may hold 9 months from now in regards to your financial situation or with your relationship so it is better to plan for what is going on now, then what may or may not happen. It is never an easy decision to make, but sometimes it is the best option. Good luck!

Drwordsspecialed 49 kids; Long Beach, California 22 posts
16th Jul '13

I appreciate the support.

Liena Griffith 1 child; 1 angel baby; Montana 31 posts
19th Jul '13

use birth control or get fixed! i personally dont think ita right to have that many abortions or an abortion without a VERRY good reason. quit your bitching and stop being a slut. at least consider adoption. jeez

Drwordsspecialed 49 kids; Long Beach, California 22 posts
19th Jul '13

Liena Griffith - f**k YOU

Belle De Jour Due October 8 (boy); 2 kids; Kentucky 18758 posts
status 19th Jul '13
Quoting Liena Griffith:"


Shut the f**k up you c**t. Learn the f**king rules or GTFO.

Liena Griffith 1 child; 1 angel baby; Montana 31 posts
19th Jul '13

just my opinion. it should be considerd murderd. you werent raped or anything of that nature your not ready for a kid still after u aborted the first one. DONT try for another one. its just wrong. its # 3 in a few months apperantly abortion isnt the answer like i said at least consider adoption if you and your spouse arent "ready" your 33 years old grow up.

Belle De Jour Due October 8 (boy); 2 kids; Kentucky 18758 posts
status 19th Jul '13
Quoting Drwordsspecialed:" Liena Griffith - f**k YOU"


Don't worry about her hun, she was modded out and wont be allowed to judge you.




Back to your OP.
I don't judge you. Do what YOU feel is right for you and your son. If you aren't ready then don't have the baby.
Good luck hun. I hope you make the right decision for you <3

Drwordsspecialed 49 kids; Long Beach, California 22 posts
19th Jul '13

Opinions are like a*****es, everyone has one. I'm done thank you .

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
19th Jul '13
Quoting Liena Griffith:" "


This is a protected forum. You can't say things like that in here. Your opinion is not welcome here. GTFO :arrow::arrow:

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 15816 posts
19th Jul '13
Quoting Liena Griffith:""


It may be just your opinion but it is not welcome here.

Liena Griffith 1 child; 1 angel baby; Montana 31 posts
19th Jul '13

if you dont want peoples opinion dont post your life drama were people HAVE the RIGHT to state there own opinion. thanks:D

Belle De Jour Due October 8 (boy); 2 kids; Kentucky 18758 posts
status 19th Jul '13
Quoting Drwordsspecialed:" Opinions are like a*****es, everyone has one. I'm done thank you ."


I'm so sorry for her hun. Just ignore her. Everyone else is here for you and supports what ever you decide.