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Do you think it's harder? Akira423 Due February 13 (boy); 66 kids; Tennessee 200 posts
18th Jul '13

To have 3 kids back to back or have the years apart? From my point of view I think it will be harder to have them years apart.



When you have kids back to back you are already accustomed to all that comes with a newborn. Because you are in a sense doing it with the 1st/2nd kids. You are already going through the no nos and don't do that's.



When your kids are spaced out, they are so independent by the time the next one comes along, it's almost like a shock to the system. You are accustomed to sleeping at night and kids wiping their own asses.



I am so excited to have a third baby and scared to death of all the WORK that comes with a newborn. The diapers, feedings at night, teething. OMG, I know I've done this before but I've seen the other side. Lol I have a ten year old! She makes dinner for me! She does dished and laundry and any chore I put on her list! I have a six year old who will be seven before baby arrives. She wipes her own ass, she reads me bedtime stories and sets the dinner table. I am terrified that it will all fall apart with a newborn. I guess what I'm saying is, my girls are so independent and I am used to them helping out and "doing their part" in our home. And then soo there will be a little baby so helpless and completely dependent upon me. I don't know where I will find the energy! I've gotten lazy!

**Blessed_Insanity** 7 kids; Wyoming 18956 posts
18th Jul '13

I cant say, I have never had my kids years apart, only back to back, but from my personal experience, I enjoy having them close together.

user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
18th Jul '13

I think it depends on the family. Some people are better equipped to have a bunch of kids and get the newborn stage over with asap instead of repeating it every so many years, and others need the break to recoup. Personally? I'm happy there will be a 4 year difference between DD and DS, but I want 1 more kid and plan to TTC as soon as I have this one to get it out of the way while I'm young so they can all grow the hell up and get out of my house.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17766 posts
18th Jul '13

When it comes to having to help them go to work, cars, and being put through college, I would say back to back pregnancies would be harder. I would also imagine myself carrying a toddler and a baby carrier in everywhere and the hassle with that would suck...

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
18th Jul '13

I didn't have any kids back to back really but I prefer the longer space between my first two ,4 years 1 month, to the 2years 4 months between number 2 and 3.
When my second was born my first was old enough that I didn't have to deal with any jealousy, he was super helpful, he was potty trained, sleeping through the night and sleeping in his own bed, he was just easy. I had my third baby 11 weeks ago and my second was only 2 years 4 months, she's jealous of him, she is going through terrible twos, still breast feeding, not potty trained, still cosleeping, etc.



IMO and from personal experience, having a toddler and a newborn is infinitely harder than having a newborn and an older child.

Akira423 Due February 13 (boy); 66 kids; Tennessee 200 posts
18th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Pregnancy Addiction:</b>" I cant say, I have never had my kids years apart, only back to back, but from my personal experience, I enjoy having them close together. "</blockquote>



Its like I'm starting all over. I have nothing left from my oldest two. Well except a few keepsakes that are tucked into the closet. I feel like I am a new mom all over again. I know I've done this before and it will all come in time but I have to admit how scared I am. It's been 7 years since I had my youngest . I've kept my niece quite a bit since her birth but I can always send her home.

Akira423 Due February 13 (boy); 66 kids; Tennessee 200 posts
18th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bob Loblaw _tko_:</b>" I think it depends on the family. Some people are better equipped to have a bunch of kids and get the ... [snip!] ... as soon as I have this one to get it out of the way while I'm young so they can all grow the hell up and get out of my house."</blockquote>



Hahah!

user banned 1 child; California 4565 posts
18th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Akira423:</b>" To have 3 kids back to back or have the years apart? From my point of view I think it will be harder ... [snip!] ... be a little baby so helpless and completely dependent upon me. I don't know where I will find the energy! I've gotten lazy!"</blockquote>




You are one lucky mamma to have such cool kids!(:

Naturally Alternative 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 6294 posts
18th Jul '13
Quoting Bob Loblaw _tko_:" I think it depends on the family. Some people are better equipped to have a bunch of kids and get the ... [snip!] ... as soon as I have this one to get it out of the way while I'm young so they can all grow the hell up and get out of my house."

This. I used to want my kids close, like 2yrs apart. I'm so glad I waited. This baby's due any day now and my daughter'll be 4 end of October. I can't imagine having a toddler and a newborn. I couldn't handle it personally. I couldn't have handled this pregnancy if she was still younger and needy.



It'll be a bit of an adjustment to get used to the newborn thing again, but it'll be easier IMO since she's independent; she can take care of herself a lot more than a younger kid.



I saved everything almost since we knew we'd have another eventually though so we're not out much money either.

Akira423 Due February 13 (boy); 66 kids; Tennessee 200 posts
18th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting SavageDarling:</b>" I didn't have any kids back to back really but I prefer the longer space between my first two ,4 years ... [snip!] ... IMO and from personal experience, having a toddler and a newborn is infinitely harder than having a newborn and an older child."</blockquote>




My oldest daughter was the same way with my second. But now both of my children are so independent and don't require so much attention . I'm sure they will be plenty of help but my concern is all the work that goes with caring for a newborn. I will be the first to admit how lazy I've gotten over the years. I am spoiled my handing out house chores to my girls and my load is super light compared to the moms who have 2/3 kids 18 mos apart In Age. I mean they have the kids all I. Schedules and the kids all have near the same interests. I have a hunch this is gonna be a huge adjustment for us.