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Over reacting about daycare? 3&Me 3 kids; Australia 976 posts
19th Jul '13

My 2 year old started a new Family Daycare yesterday, today was his 2nd day.
He was booked until 5pm, I got there at 4:45 to pick him up and they were not there...
I stood there, trying to call her, freaking out for half an hour until she got back with my son.
She tried to say I wasn't there at 5 so she waited an extra 5 minutes and had to take my son with her.
I told her I got there at quarter to, she replied ''oh yes! I left at quarter to 5, haha I must have just missed you''
That made me wonder just how long she had actually been out with my son.
We argued over regulations and policies, she tried to tell me she didn't need my permission and that I just haven't used care before and that's ok because she does it ALL the time with all the other kids, her car is checked and safe... yada yada... at that point I was shaking my head, just gathering my sons things.
I told her that by Victorian regulations, she is required to get my written consent for every excursion or outing. She cant just take my kid and leave the premises without me knowing and consenting.
She said she didn't know this :? She started to look very panicked and saying she was just taking her son to practice and that's it...
She tops it off with ''oh he isn't allergic to nuts is he? I fed him chocolate!'' Um.. ok then.



Really, am I over reacting by deciding hes not going back?!
Would you be pissed or would you send your child back?

Sweeney Todd 1 child; ........, .., United States 11545 posts
19th Jul '13

Are you serious? She could and should get in trouble for that. Especially since she said she does it all the time. The daycare I worked at if we did any outings, like we took the school age kids to the park sometimes, we always ALWAYS had to have written consent from the parents and the parents had to know where exactly we were going at what times with what teachers, etc. That is absolutely insane that she would do that. Wow. Yes not only would I not allow my child to go back, but I would report her. That's crazy. What if she had gotten into a wreck!?

The Great Mustachio Suck It, PO, Uzbekistan 9383 posts
19th Jul '13

My daughter is in family care, you have to sign a form to say it's ok for them to take your child out. I signed mine with all the other paper work, but my carer is awesome and always SMS's me before she goes anywhere to double check and to just let me know where my child will be.

3&Me 3 kids; Australia 976 posts
19th Jul '13
Quoting Jillybug's Mommy:" Are you serious? She could and should get in trouble for that. Especially since she said she does it ... [snip!] ... Yes not only would I not allow my child to go back, but I would report her. That's crazy. What if she had gotten into a wreck!?"


Do I make a report to the service shes through or someone else?
I will just call the service on Monday morning and see what they say. There's no way I'm paying the next 2 weeks of booking either because I'm cancelling.



It is crazy, I pulled up and her car was missing. I thought surely her husband had the car or something and knocked really loud, even opened her door and yelled 'hello' a few times then started trying to call her lol I was just freaked... I don't normally just open peoples doors...
But I didn't know if I'm just freaking out over something that isn't actually a big deal... glad its not like that lol

The Great Mustachio Suck It, PO, Uzbekistan 9383 posts
19th Jul '13
Quoting K+2.5:" Do I make a report to the service shes through or someone else? I will just call the service on Monday ... [snip!] ... But I didn't know if I'm just freaking out over something that isn't actually a big deal... glad its not like that lol "


Call the people she works for and tell them what's happened, they'll pick it up from there and find you a new carer.

Momlette of 3 Due December 25 (girl); 3 kids; Ohio 25504 posts
19th Jul '13
Quoting K+2.5:" My 2 year old started a new Family Daycare yesterday, today was his 2nd day. He was booked until 5pm, ... [snip!] ... ok then. Really, am I over reacting by deciding hes not going back?! Would you be pissed or would you send your child back?"

I watc kids from home and that is a BIG NO NO. She should know better. I would not take my child back there!!

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
19th Jul '13

I always had to sign a permission form for family daycare. But it was a sign once to take them for a walk to the shop/ park/ specified place which covers them for the whole year



She should have called and sent you a text. Family daycare is pretty laid back, but I wa very comfortable with the lady looking after my daughter

3&Me 3 kids; Australia 976 posts
19th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Great Mustachio:</b>" Call the people she works for and tell them what's happened, they'll pick it up from there and find you a new carer."</blockquote>




Thanks, ill do that! A new carer would be nice, if there's any around. All the ones through the council are full.

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
19th Jul '13

this is exactly why I'll never use in home child care. I only use care from a child care center. I wouldn't trust someone just out of their home.

3&Me 3 kids; Australia 976 posts
19th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" I always had to sign a permission form for family daycare. But it was a sign once to take them for a ... [snip!] ... and sent you a text. Family daycare is pretty laid back, but I wa very comfortable with the lady looking after my daughter"</blockquote>




I've had both of the kids in with another lady and she would always ask me to sign that morning if she thought she needed to take them out with her, she was great too :) I'm guessing that nsw is different regulations, I double checked Victorian Family Daycare and it says consent is needed for transport type, time, place etc for every outing.

3&Me 3 kids; Australia 976 posts
19th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" this is exactly why I'll never use in home child care. I only use care from a child care center. I wouldn't trust someone just out of their home. "</blockquote>




I felt the same way before the first time we used family daycare and honestly, I never would've tried it if it weren't for my cousin recommending her but we loved her! There's definitely pro's to family daycare but yeah, it might be a little hard to feel comfortable about it now.



I think I'll go look at centres and see if there's any vacancies, probably just a lot less stress and more kids to play with anyway I guess!

Momlette of 3 Due December 25 (girl); 3 kids; Ohio 25504 posts
19th Jul '13
Quoting Devil Duckie:" this is exactly why I'll never use in home child care. I only use care from a child care center. I wouldn't trust someone just out of their home. "


I've worked in daycare centers...they're the reason I decided to do one from home. They suck. Not ALL of them lol but I'd much rather be a personable caregiver from my home.

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
19th Jul '13
Quoting K+2.5:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" this is exactly why I'll never use in home ... [snip!] ... go look at centres and see if there's any vacancies, probably just a lot less stress and more kids to play with anyway I guess!"


I think the little extra cost is worth it. IDK about Australia, but here in the states, centers have to teach a certain curriculum to ensure kids will be ready for school.

The Great Mustachio Suck It, PO, Uzbekistan 9383 posts
19th Jul '13
Quoting ~MOM~ 17 weeks:" I've worked in daycare centers...they're the reason I decided to do one from home. They suck. Not ALL of them lol but I'd much rather be a personable caregiver from my home."


Same here, I've used both and found the care from a family carer to be way above that of the centers for us. Especially those ABC centers >.>

Gone 17 kids; Miami, FL, United States 15414 posts
19th Jul '13

I would be really upset. Although that sometimes kind of comes with family daycares (needing to take a child out with them because of things w/ their own children) they absolutely still need to tell a parent. I mean, even if it was just a family member still babysitting my son, I'd like to at least have a clue where he is! She should have told you first