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Vindictive 50 kids; Switzerland 30545 posts
19th Jul

Yes. I think your feelings are justified. I don't know if you saw my post a few months ago, but I kind of went through the same thing. I was in the process of losing baby weight (from two back to back babies) feeling gross and sad and upset, and DH is looking at porn and The Chive girls on a daily basis. I told him how it bothered me, and I pretty much got the same flip response that you have. It took a few days of explaining it, a big giant fight, me breaking down, etc.. for him to "get" it.



I know a lot of girls try to pull the "it's just porn" card, like we have no right to be bothered by it. And a lot of the time I try to tell myself the same thing. But when you don't feel good about yourself, and your dude isn't paying you as much attention as you feel you need, it sucks to know he's getting his rocks off watching some other chicks. It just does.

Vindictive 50 kids; Switzerland 30545 posts
19th Jul
Quoting jen black:" IMO I couldn't care less about porn. Pretty much the way I see it is if your gonna give him ass every ... [snip!] ... at night. f**k it. That's just my opinion tho. I wouldn't personally ever be upset over something like what you just explained."


Sooo.. if he was screwing around on the side, but came home to you at night, you'd say "f**k it"?



I know it isn't the same as porn, but that analogy or mind set or whatever, sucks. And whether or not YOU see a problem with it isn't the point. OP did, and feels crappy, and her SO isn't trying to make it better.

P E N I S Due February 27; 34 kids; Washington 13746 posts
19th Jul

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vindictive:</b>" Yes. I think your feelings are justified. I don't know if you saw my post a few months ago, but I kind ... [snip!] ... as much attention as you feel you need, it sucks to know he's getting his rocks off watching some other chicks. It just does. "</blockquote>




I did see it. I feel the same way deep down. While im already feeling unattractive and getting less attention, it just makes me feel worse and the fact that he just didnt seem to care pissed me off more. Now hes actually apologized and said he would be mad if it were reversed but still. Im mad. Ive gained weight in the last few months and just feel like hed rather look at other women.

Vindictive 50 kids; Switzerland 30545 posts
19th Jul
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Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15205 posts
19th Jul

<blockquote><b>Quoting P E N I S

P E N I S Due February 27; 34 kids; Washington 13746 posts
19th Jul

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vindictive:</b>" I 110% understand. I wish I had advice. I know my dude still looks at porn, he just hides it better ... [snip!] ... "out of sight, out of mind" thing helps. It still sucks, and if I let myself think too much about it, it still gets to me."</blockquote>




I brought that up too. I dont want to feel like hes hiding things from me, kwim? I want things to be on even ground. If I cant do something then he cant either. He said he wouldn't look again but lets get real, he probably will.

Vindictive 50 kids; Switzerland 30545 posts
19th Jul
Quoting P E N I S
Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15205 posts
19th Jul

<blockquote><b>Quoting P E N I S

P E N I S Due February 27; 34 kids; Washington 13746 posts
19th Jul

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vindictive:</b>" You know he will. Daniel is the same way. It's a very double-standard relationship. He can do XYZ, ... [snip!] ... honestly feels secure knowing their dude is whacking off to size 2 b****s while you're out grocery shopping for the family? "</blockquote>




God I totally agree with that. I just dont want him to grt bored with me. I feel like ive gotten more needy since what happened between my last SO qnd I. That was so extreme and it just fucked me up bad

P E N I S Due February 27; 34 kids; Washington 13746 posts
19th Jul

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting P E N I S

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15205 posts
20th Jul

<blockquote><b>Quoting P E N I S

P E N I S Due February 27; 34 kids; Washington 13746 posts
20th Jul

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting P E N I S

Vindictive 50 kids; Switzerland 30545 posts
20th Jul
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P E N I S
P E N I S Due February 27; 34 kids; Washington 13746 posts
20th Jul

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vindictive:</b>" That's an ignorant statement."</blockquote>




Hah she just doesnt get it, which is understandable, but fairly annoying when assuming everyone trusts the same.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15205 posts
20th Jul

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vindictive:</b>" That's an ignorant statement."</blockquote>




It's not. Everyone has gone through something. Trustworthy people are easy to trust. People who make you feel insignificant, don't respect your feelings, and hold double standards over your relationship, are not.