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Do I let him go? Lame!!!! Italy 159 posts
20th Jul

My children

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55073 posts
status 20th Jul

He is 3



No he doesn't get to make a choice like that. Sorry. He is much to young to know the consequences of his choice

Lame!!!! Italy 159 posts
20th Jul
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" He is 3 No he doesn't get to make a choice like that. Sorry. He is much to young to know the consequences of his choice"

I'm hoping a visit to see his dad will help him change his mind

[yo.] 1 child; Gayville, South Dakota 13371 posts
20th Jul

Nope, I was given the option at 13, and I chose my dads. I'm glad I stayed at my moms. 3 is way too young.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55073 posts
status 20th Jul
Quoting Jayden&Talia's mummy:" I'm hoping a visit to see his dad will help him change his mind"



Of course let him visit. And let the fther come visit you guys when he can.

But to move permanently? No. I wouldn't let a kid under the age of 10ish pick where they get to live

Lame!!!! Italy 159 posts
20th Jul
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" Of course let him visit. And let the fther come visit you guys when he can. But to move permanently? No. I wouldn't let a kid under the age of 10ish pick where they get to live"

Thats what we originally said was the age they could chose who they wanted to live with

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
20th Jul
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" He is 3 No he doesn't get to make a choice like that. Sorry. He is much to young to know the consequences of his choice"

Yeah, most definitely not old enough to make a decision like that. I would let him visit though.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, New York 55073 posts
status 20th Jul
Quoting Jayden&Talia's mummy:" Thats what we originally said was the age they could chose who they wanted to live with"


Could you seriously send your 3 year old to another country to live with his dad? I couldn't even fathom letting my daughter with her dad and he only lives 2 miles away lol.



Lame!!!! Italy 159 posts
20th Jul
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" Could you seriously send your 3 year old to another country to live with his dad? I couldn't even fathom letting my daughter with her dad and he only lives 2 miles away lol. "

Its not even that my son gets to choose its that his dad gets to win if that makes sense
Honestly no I just wanted some advice its hard enough when I leave them for 2 weeks with their dad but I think I have a bad conscious for just upping and leaving when he

weefee 1 child; Paris, France 401 posts
20th Jul
Quoting Jayden&Talia's mummy:" My children
Lame!!!! Italy 159 posts
20th Jul
Quoting weefee:" I think 3 is too young to decide. It's only natural that he wants to see his dad but I think it would ... [snip!] ... bad patch with SO and seriously considered returning to Scotland with our son, although for the moment the situation is better."


I feel like 3 is too young but when you have people going on at you it starts to grate
Money isn't a probably (I'm sorry if that makes me sound really big headed) we're flying out in 5 days to see him and I'm leaving them not that I want to for 10 days they always see there dad on birthdays and Christmas and other times inbetween we have family in the UK still so even if their dad has to work they've got somewhere to stay

weefee 1 child; Paris, France 401 posts
20th Jul
Quoting Jayden&Talia's mummy:" I feel like 3 is too young but when you have people going on at you it starts to grate Money isn't ... [snip!] ... and other times inbetween we have family in the UK still so even if their dad has to work they've got somewhere to stay"


I think that's all you can do. It's probably normal 3 year old behaviour and if he lived with his dad he'd probably say that he wanted to live with you. It must be hard seeing him sad but I think you are doing all that you can do and it's really good that you make such an effort as some people don't.



Haha you didn't sound big headed. I hope that your son feels less sad after his visit.

Lame!!!! Italy 159 posts
20th Jul
Quoting weefee:" I think that's all you can do. It's probably normal 3 year old behaviour and if he lived with his dad ... [snip!] ... such an effort as some people don't. Haha you didn't sound big headed. I hope that your son feels less sad after his visit."


So do I :) Thanks for your advice



I forgot to say I'm glad you and your SO are okay now :)

Lame!! United Kingdom 123 posts
20th Jul

NO you mad bro as much as id love Jay Jay to come back forever Kyle well he isn't the best person in the world a good dad but still a bit of an ass