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starting to get scared of labor/birth Mommyto5 boys 5 kids; Arizona 256 posts
20th Jul '13

I am 31 weeks 2 days and planning on having a UC as long as baby keeps cooking...at least until 36 weeks (when a midwife advised me that it was safest)....I'm just getting more scared and nervous...we are all prepared for the UC and ready for any emergency that may astride (were only 5 minutes from the hospital)...with my first 3 children i had vaginal births but had gotten an epidural with each because the dead beat dad i was with wouldn't help me with labor at .all...just watched animal planet and occasionally told me to be quite, so i got the epidural due to no support.....and i know having a UC there is no p pain relief from medication.....the man I'm with now is amazing and anytime i twinge, or groan, or even walk different he's right by my side rubbing my belly and wants to know exactly how i feel.....even getting up at night to go to the bathroom if i accidentally wake him (i have a toon of pillows just for my comfort all over the bed...lol) he jumps right out if bed and starts asking me all kinds of questions and making sure I'm ok and then helps me out of bed (although i don't always need it) and waits outside if the bathroom and waits until I'm done and then walks me back to bed and adjusts all my pillows and covers me, makes sure i don't need a drink or a snack (which i frequently get in the middle of the night) and once I'm situated he'll Getty back I'm bed and everytime he moved asks if I'm ok out if he's laying ok, etc...then he'll rub my belly for awhile and talk to Lo.....he works full time, alot if overtime and since i put myself on bedrest had taken all responsibility of the house and kids ( i get alot of the cleaning done still it just takes all day to just wash dishes and fold laundry)....i think that labor will be easier having him with me and being so supportive and willing to basically do anything for my comfort...he is esthetic about catching his son at the time of birth....I'm just scared and gave expressed this to him and he assures me that everything will be ok and he will do whatever i need him to do....i know that i can labor in any positron (i can't stand being flat on my back like in the hospital) but what is the best position to give birth in? I know there is my back of choose, my hands and knees or squatting.....and in labor i can basically do anything to help ease the pain....uggg....maybey i just need to stop thinking about it....we still have 4 weeks at least....just everytime i look at the calendar the time gets closet and closer

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
20th Jul '13

What is a UC?

Ravey Candyass 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Boston, Massachusetts 104951 posts
20th Jul '13

wit, your midwife sid it was safe for you to start labor at 36 weeks?

Mommyto5 boys 5 kids; Arizona 256 posts
20th Jul '13

I don't have a midwife, but I've been in contract with one, if you read my other posts you'll understand better...



A uc is an unassisted childbirth

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
20th Jul '13
Quoting Mommyto4.5:" I don't have a midwife, but I've been in contract with one, if you read my other posts you'll understand better... A uc is an unassisted childbirth"


I did read it, it says a midwife advised you it's safest at 36 weeks.



That a load of shit, 36 weeks isn't even term.

nursemaya mom to 3! 3 kids; 5 angel babies; Minnesota 16003 posts
20th Jul '13

Sounds like you are very uneducated actually. This is a scary and sad situation. Maybe you should be taking some birthing classes. The Bradley method is excellent.

MotherFalcon+2 2 kids; Fólkvangr, Asgard, YD, Sweden 4670 posts
20th Jul '13
Quoting nursemaya (33weeks):" Sounds like you are very uneducated actually. This is a scary and sad situation. Maybe you should be taking some birthing classes. The Bradley method is excellent."

just curious, why you think shes uneducated?
bc of the 36 week thing?



granted when planning a UC I start preparing from the day I find out I'm pregnant rather than in the last 2months

Mommyto5 boys 5 kids; Arizona 256 posts
20th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MotherFalcon~16weeks!:</b>" just curious, why you think shes uneducated? bc of the 36 week thing? granted when planning a UC I start preparing from the day I find out I'm pregnant rather than in the last 2months"</blockquote>




I'm just nervous and scared about handling the pain because i never had support with my others and was always in a hospital where no matter what i had to stay in bed to labor so although i have 4 children already i don't know techniques while in labor....i just wanted a little support by posting this and a little insite on what has worked for other women in labor (hospital or not)....you have helped me alot and i thank you for that!!!

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
20th Jul '13
Quoting Mommyto4.5:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MotherFalcon~16weeks!:</b>" just curious, why you think shes ... [snip!] ... insite on what has worked for other women in labor (hospital or not)....you have helped me alot and i thank you for that!!!"


how did she help you?

Mommyto5 boys 5 kids; Arizona 256 posts
20th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" how did she help you?"</blockquote>




I told you to read my previous posts....

MotherFalcon+2 2 kids; Fólkvangr, Asgard, YD, Sweden 4670 posts
20th Jul '13
Quoting Mommyto4.5:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MotherFalcon~16weeks!:</b>" just curious, why you think shes ... [snip!] ... insite on what has worked for other women in labor (hospital or not)....you have helped me alot and i thank you for that!!!"

your welcome!!
and i suggest a birthing ball to sit and rotate hips on, deep breathing, hypnobirthing cds, and basically listen to your body. It will tell you which position is helping and which is not

Mommyto5 boys 5 kids; Arizona 256 posts
20th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MotherFalcon~16weeks!:</b>" your welcome!! and i suggest a birthing ball to sit and rotate hips on, deep breathing, hypnobirthing ... [snip!] ... breathing, hypnobirthing cds, and basically listen to your body. It will tell you which position is helping and which is not"</blockquote>




Ok i figured my body would tell me what was working or not, but I've never labored outside of a bed so i wasn't positive....we have everything ready, the bed, supplies, etc....and the cleaning supplies in the bathroom ready for when labor starts SO can sanitize the tub if i choose to use it....we have an exercise ball lol...it's just as large as a birthing ball so that will help then....and we have a couple different types of electronic back massages....i believe i will handle the pain ok because i have alot of support from SO....I'm not scared of the UC....just the pain

Ravey Candyass 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Boston, Massachusetts 104951 posts
20th Jul '13
Quoting Mommyto4.5:" <blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" how did she help you?"</blockquote> I told you to read my previous posts...."


you're a snarky little bitch.



not everyone has the time, nor want to go through every single one of your meaningless little posts. a quick summary isn't too much out of your day, since YOU are the one asking a question.

jazzzzz* 2 kids; Beverly Hills, California 7558 posts
20th Jul '13

My question is, why would you want a premature baby at home? With a midwife, not at a hospital at least with a NICU? Not judging just wondering.

Mommyto5 boys 5 kids; Arizona 256 posts
20th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ravey Candyass:</b>" you're a snarky little bitch. not everyone has the time, nor want to go through every single one of ... [snip!] ... one of your meaningless little posts. a quick summary isn't too much out of your day, since YOU are the one asking a question."</blockquote>




And considering you have time to dog on others posts then you apparently have time to read the so called previous "meaningless posts"and considering you have been posting on my question and yet cannot answer anything what is the point of posting? For your own enjoyment of trying to tear others down? Apparently you have to much time on your hands...