All around the Rosie Due November 30; Japan 15 posts
23rd Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Faye's Mama-25 Weeks:</b>" You need to be in counseling and place your child in the care of someone who does love him. A child cannot thrive in a loveless environment. "</blockquote>




He is thriving just fine. He's very smart. This is just my little secret. It doesn't show. I was just wondering if anyone else had similar feelings.

GirlsHaveCOOTIES 3 kids; Minsk, Belarus 15331 posts
23rd Jul '13
Quoting All around the Rosie:" <blockquote><b>Quoting GirlsHaveCOOTIES:</b>" I don't think that's 'normal' at all.. ... [snip!] ... care of, he has everything he needs and more. He isn't being mistreated at all. A psychologist can't force me to love someone."


A child needs love to thrive, would a family member be willing to raise him? Someone that actually loves him?

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
23rd Jul '13
Quoting All around the Rosie:" <blockquote><b>Quoting GirlsHaveCOOTIES:</b>" I don't think that's 'normal' at all.. ... [snip!] ... care of, he has everything he needs and more. He isn't being mistreated at all. A psychologist can't force me to love someone."


Children NEED love. He does not have EVERYTHING he NEEDS, if you, as his mother, do not LOVE him. If all else is well with you, why don't you consider allowing someone to adopt him, someone who WILL love him? Send him to me.

Jenny&Boopy TTC since Jul 2014; 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7356 posts
23rd Jul '13

No, it isn't normal at all. I have a 7 year old who has issues with severe ADHD and some type of autism. He can drive me nuts but I love him. Even the days where he would have meltdowns pretty much all day long. I couldn't imagine not loving my children, ever. You need to talk to your doctor about it. It does sound like depression.

All around the Rosie Due November 30; Japan 15 posts
23rd Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting xXkarriyXx:</b>" U need to give that child up Sirs how can u not love your son ... im scared for the child safty is that ... [snip!] ... personality or how much kids drive u up the wall u should still love them more then your own life .. u need help Lots of it "</blockquote>




Why are you calling me sir? I'm a woman. And don't worry... I'm not going to kill him.

user banned Due March 16; 18 kids; Springfield, Georgia 8473 posts
23rd Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting All around the Rosie:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Faye's Mama-25 Weeks:</b>" You need to be in counseling and ... [snip!] ... He's very smart. This is just my little secret. It doesn't show. I was just wondering if anyone else had similar feelings."</blockquote>



The only time I've heard of a mother having these feelings was with Ppd. Did something prevent you from bonding with him during the pregnancy or birth? There has to be an underlying jssue for you to just just love your child.



Are you sure you just don't like him?

laurenmik 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 7222 posts
23rd Jul '13

I don't think it's normal, but you're right, you can force yourself to love someone. That being said, even if you don't love him back, you should tell him you do, or you're a gigantic douchebag.

jazzzzz* 2 kids; Beverly Hills, California 7558 posts
23rd Jul '13

I think this is a troll.

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
23rd Jul '13
Quoting Kacti:" Children NEED love. He does not have EVERYTHING he NEEDS, if you, as his mother, do not LOVE him. If ... [snip!] ... If all else is well with you, why don't you consider allowing someone to adopt him, someone who WILL love him? Send him to me."


that's creepy, and I'm pretty sure that's not the first time I've seen you say something like that to someone on here. :?



As for the OP, I don't think it's normal not to love your 5yo. I do know how obnoxious they can be at that age, though. I think maybe just take some time. Send him to visit with his grandparents, aunt and uncle, etc., while you sort yourself out. It may juts be that you're at wit's end, and need a mental vacation. If you still feel that way afterward, then I think a more permanent solution should be sought out.

Kylees Mama 1 child; Faribault, Minnesota 4193 posts
23rd Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting All around the Rosie:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting GirlsHaveCOOTIES:</b>" I don't think that's 'normal' at all.. ... [snip!] ... care of, he has everything he needs and more. He isn't being mistreated at all. A psychologist can't force me to love someone."</blockquote>



He can't force you no, but it will get down to the root of your problem and trying to understand why. As hard as it would be on the child who loves you unconditionally.. Maybe giving him up for adoption would be overall the best thing for him.



I know it takes more than love alone to raise a child, but love is require to grow a truly happy and healthy child. You may think he doesn't see that you don't love him, but you'd be very surprise on how much a child actually knows. He's probably obnoxious because he is trying to get your attention and to feel something from you.

All around the Rosie Due November 30; Japan 15 posts
23rd Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting GirlsHaveCOOTIES:</b>" A child needs love to thrive, would a family member be willing to raise him? Someone that actually loves him?"</blockquote>




Um no. I don't want to give him up, he's my child, my responsibility. I take good care of him. There's no need to give him up. He is just fine and thinks the world of me.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
23rd Jul '13
Quoting xXkarriyXx:" U need to give that child up Sirs how can u not love your son ... im scared for the child safty is that ... [snip!] ... personality or how much kids drive u up the wall u should still love them more then your own life .. u need help Lots of it "

No, that's not how all "crazy killer Moms" start out. The "crazy" ones start out with a mental illness that leads to harming themselves or others, not because they don't love their Child.



OP you really need to get him into a better environment. Whether you tell him you love him or not, he's going to feel it's not there behind your words. Is there any Family, his Father, an Aunt or Uncle that would be willing to take him in? He needs to be in a loving home, it isn't his fault that you don't love him.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
23rd Jul '13

There are times when I don't LIKE my 4 year old but I always love him. Is that what you mean?



If you feel nothing for him at all, that' your issue, not his, and it will come through sooner or later. Children catch on faster than you think.

ღCeceღ 2 kids; Somewhere in, GA, United States 12595 posts
23rd Jul '13

Nope I don't understand that. I love my child with all my being...he annoys me sometimes but there's never a moment I don't love him. I know some moms who suffer from PPD might have those feelings but I don't think that's the case with you. Idk I just feel bad for your son :( I hope he never catches on to your feelings for him.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
23rd Jul '13
Quoting ♀NoBoysAllowed:" that's creepy, and I'm pretty sure that's not the first time I've seen you say something like that to ... [snip!] ... and need a mental vacation. If you still feel that way afterward, then I think a more permanent solution should be sought out."


How is that creepy?