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lilleth Ashleigh Morse Due August 28; Manchester, New Hampshire 1 posts
25th Jul '13

so 3.5 years ago i was convinced that for the best for me and my life i should get an abortion. Now after all that time i am 35 weeks pregnant and i think about my little girl every day and the fact that if i had just stood up for myself once in my life that i would have a little girl right now who would about to be a big sister to my now son who will be here, when ever he decides to come, and the pain of it is getting pretty heavy. i know now that it may have helped me get where i am but it just hurts so much thinking about how my beautiful baby girl isn't here and i just dont know what to do. it hurts and i dont know what to do. well i know i cant really do anything about it what is in the past is in the past and i tell all my friends and family to leave the past in the past, it's called the past for a reason. but i just cant let it go. the pain hurts so much and i look at my friends little girl who is around the same age as my little lilleth would be and it hurts so much. can anyone give me some words of advice? is anyone else going through this too?

Mom2HMT Due January 1 (boy); 1 child; 4 angel babies; Iowa 870 posts
25th Jul '13

Sorry, maybe I am naive, but If you had an abortion how do you know your first baby was a girl? Aren't abortions usually performed within the first few weeks before it's too early to even determine the sex of the baby? Either way, I'm sorry about what you're going through, it doesn't sound easy.

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 22168 posts
25th Jul '13
Quoting Mom2HMT:" Sorry, maybe I am naive, but If you had an abortion how do you know your first baby was a girl? Aren't ... [snip!] ... too early to even determine the sex of the baby? Either way, I'm sorry about what you're going through, it doesn't sound easy."


In some places they can be done up to 24wks.



I'm sorry you're going though this OP. Is there maybe an abortion support group in your area you could go to?

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
25th Jul '13

Sorry or your loss, OP. Mine was a long time ago, and I still wonder about what might have been, sometimes. I'm here if you need to talk. Feel free to PM me. <3

user banned Due September 18 (boy); 1 child; California 21617 posts
25th Jul '13
Quoting Mom2HMT:" Sorry, maybe I am naive, but If you had an abortion how do you know your first baby was a girl? Aren't ... [snip!] ... too early to even determine the sex of the baby? Either way, I'm sorry about what you're going through, it doesn't sound easy."


Maybe she just felt that it was a girl?



I'm sorry that you are going through this OP.

Photo Assassin 67 kids; Louisville, Kentucky 1666 posts
25th Jul '13
Quoting Mom2HMT:" Sorry, maybe I am naive, but If you had an abortion how do you know your first baby was a girl? Aren't ... [snip!] ... too early to even determine the sex of the baby? Either way, I'm sorry about what you're going through, it doesn't sound easy."


At first I started to think the same, but I knew DD was a girl the moment I knew I was pregnant, so I just dismissed this.



OP--I never had an abortion, but miscarriages, which I feel as an involuntary abortion, as what I am gathering you were forced into. So I can somewhat relate to the pain you feel. I hope with the coming of your son, that you will soon find peace.