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... Lisa<3Jacob 1 child; California 4305 posts
27th Jul '13

wow dunno why i ever came back on here.

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 7822 posts
status 27th Jul '13

I honestly do not know very much about custody, child support, or anything related since I haven't been through it. But if he signed over his rights, then you do have full custody, right?

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
27th Jul '13

What would be wrong with him finally wanting custody when he gets his priorities straight?



It's shitty that he's acting this way, but people change. It's rare, but it does happen. Don't deny his future self his son just because his current self is being a shit head.



Get his ass on child support and if he wants to see his son eventually let him.

Lisa<3Jacob 1 child; California 4305 posts
27th Jul '13
Quoting Nicola.:" I honestly do not know very much about custody, child support, or anything related since I haven't been through it. But if he signed over his rights, then you do have full custody, right?"


Im going to talk to a lawyer about the paperwork because it doesnt clearly state it.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
27th Jul '13

There's no miracle ",ake him go away" button. He's in your life forever. If you want financial support, get CS. And FFS stop calling him a Sperm Donor. He's the Father whether or not he lives up to your expectations. He does see his Son, even though it's not often.



He can and should take you to Court for proper visitation and you should in turn ask for CS. The Courts will not take his rights away at all so that's something you shouldn't even try, because it'll waste your time and money.



As far as a recruiter telling him to sign his rights away, that's a temporary thing and it's not shady at all. All unmarried Parents are required to do it for Military.




And lastly, I sincerely hope you don't LIE to your Child and tell him your Boyfriend is his Father. That's a fucked up thing to do.

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 7822 posts
status 27th Jul '13

I will add that I would never keep his real dad a secret or not tell him. Obviously its a tough subject and for when he is old enough to understand. But he would find out someday. And if its when he is much older, he may be very upset.

Lisa<3Jacob 1 child; California 4305 posts
27th Jul '13
Quoting The Andromeda Strain:" What would be wrong with him finally wanting custody when he gets his priorities straight? It's shitty ... [snip!] ... his current self is being a shit head. Get his ass on child support and if he wants to see his son eventually let him. "

Because hes messing with his sons heart by f**king him over. My bay has the softest kindest heart and gets hurt very easily.



I knew i wasnt going to have a problem keeping him away by my choice because apparently he doesnt want to see him or me. Hes rather drink and pop mollies like his whole shitty family.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
27th Jul '13
Quoting Crystal
user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
27th Jul '13
Quoting Lisa♥Jacob:" Because hes messing with his sons heart by f**king him over. My bay has the softest kindest heart and ... [snip!] ... by my choice because apparently he doesnt want to see him or me. Hes rather drink and pop mollies like his whole shitty family."


Okay, I understand that, but if he EVER realizes what shit he's done and how much he's missed out on his son, it would be cruel to keep him away. People do grow up. That is still his child and he deserves EVERY right to be in his life. It's awful and something that we have to bear as mothers, but if the father isn't ready all you can do is wait. You can't terminate his rights in most states without filing abandonment and I don't think they can just sign away their rights in any state by choice. That is a permanent decision that they CANNOT go back on. And doing so for the military is a temporary thing.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
27th Jul '13
Quoting Lisa♥Jacob:" wow dunno why i ever came back on here."


Yeah well sorry no one is supporting your decision to delete his dad from his life. Grow up. You made a baby with him. As long as he's there you're stuck with him.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
27th Jul '13
Quoting The Andromeda Strain:" Yeah well sorry no one is supporting your decision to delete his dad from his life. Grow up. You made a baby with him. As long as he's there you're stuck with him. "

Right.




Besides the fact he's only 2 years old and you've already got another Guy lined up to take the Daddy place. It sounds ridiculous. You haven't even given it much time.

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 7822 posts
status 27th Jul '13
Quoting The Andromeda Strain:" Yeah well sorry no one is supporting your decision to delete his dad from his life. Grow up. You made a baby with him. As long as he's there you're stuck with him. "


I have to agree. Its not to be rude but you have to think about your son long term, too. Its not right to make the choice for him that his father isn't allowed in his life. When he is older, if his dad is a piece of crap, then he can make that choice. But for now, you're basically stuck. Its not fun or easy, but its what you have to deal with.



And please, do not lie to him about it. That is very, very wrong.

Lisa<3Jacob 1 child; California 4305 posts
27th Jul '13
Quoting The Andromeda Strain:" Yeah well sorry no one is supporting your decision to delete his dad from his life. Grow up. You made a baby with him. As long as he's there you're stuck with him. "

Kay. Jump on the b***hes on baby gaga bandwagon instead of asking for facts.
Just because my baby is my number 1 priority and i care about his feelings im a fuckin baby.
hahahahahahahahah.
did i ever say i was going to keep him away? no. i said i want him to GO away.
My son knows who his father is.
But he also knows who hid DAD is.
So f**k off.
Kay.
BYE.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
27th Jul '13
Quoting Crystal
user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
27th Jul '13
Quoting lkjhgfdsaASDFGHJKLKJHGFDS:" Kay. Jump on the b***hes on baby gaga bandwagon instead of asking for facts. Just because my baby is ... [snip!] ... no. i said i want him to GO away. My son knows who his father is. But he also knows who hid DAD is. So f**k off. Kay. BYE."


You're a child. Later.