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living with my mom mom2andrew&carter 18 kids; Leesburg, Florida 2159 posts
28th Jul '13

me and my mom decided to get an apartment together cause that would be easier on both of us financially. well lately shes been acting like were annoying all the time and doesnt want us here anymore. she always acts like im a dissapointment to her. i feel like i cant do anything right anymore. she complains to me about everything. i dont know how much longer i can deal with this. i cant afford a place of my own cause my ex isnt paying the child support that hes suppose to. i just dont know what to do and im tired of crying all the time. i feel like i cant do anything right anymore. anyone else live with their parents? how do you cope with it?

Jenny&Boopy 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 7294 posts
28th Jul '13

I did for about 4 years. It was awful. I ended up paying for everything and couldn't save to leave. She constantly tried to overturn everything I did with DS. Leaving was the only thing that made it better.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8472 posts
28th Jul '13

You have some choices try talking to her about the issues your having. If that doesnt help there is always low income housing to consider or other help from the state that you can use until you can get on your feet. I hope you can work things out though.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
28th Jul '13

Every time she complains or nags, just remind her that it was a mutual decision and why you both made it.



I lived with my mom for the first year after DS1 was born. It was pure hell. I would never do it again.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8472 posts
28th Jul '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Every time she complains or nags, just remind her that it was a mutual decision and why you both made ... [snip!] ... you both made it. I lived with my mom for the first year after DS1 was born. It was pure hell. I would never do it again. "


Been there done that and still going through it. Sometimes talking helps but sometimes moving on is best for all parties involved. I hope OP can work things out with her mom because it sucks fighting with your parents over things that in the end really are trivial even though at the time they seem like these huge issues.

mom2andrew&carter 18 kids; Leesburg, Florida 2159 posts
28th Jul '13
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" You have some choices try talking to her about the issues your having. If that doesnt help there is always ... [snip!] ... consider or other help from the state that you can use until you can get on your feet. I hope you can work things out though."

they dont really have low income housing around where i live. the lowest 2 bedroom place i could find was 500 a month. they have section 8 but its a long waiting list i only make minimum wage right now so im barely making money. i just feel like running away but theres nowhere to run to.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8472 posts
28th Jul '13
Quoting mom2andrew&carter:" they dont really have low income housing around where i live. the lowest 2 bedroom place i could find ... [snip!] ... list i only make minimum wage right now so im barely making money. i just feel like running away but theres nowhere to run to."


Like I said try talking to your mom about these issues if you dont tell her its bothering you how else is she going to know. In the mean time sign up for section 8 if everything works out with your mom you can always take your name off the list later on. My sister was 2 months away from getting a house with section 8 when she took her name off the list so she could continue to live with her mother and gmal to get some kind of help with her kids and to help take care of her gmal. You will never know if things could have been worked out if you dont at least try and you dont want to end up resenting your mother or harboring hard feelings towards her because of not trying to fix something you see wrong KWIM?

Beth~N~Lizzie 1 child; Winter Haven, Florida 2755 posts
28th Jul '13

My dd and I lived with my mom for 7 yrs. We had our ups and downs but we got through, so we had our moments. Have u tried talking to her?

mom2andrew&carter 18 kids; Leesburg, Florida 2159 posts
28th Jul '13
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" Like I said try talking to your mom about these issues if you dont tell her its bothering you how else ... [snip!] ... end up resenting your mother or harboring hard feelings towards her because of not trying to fix something you see wrong KWIM?"


shes not easy to talk to at all cause i know she will just flip it around on me. i can put it for section 8 but it has been on hold since 2008 cause there are way to many people on it right now. the job i have im probably gonna have to quit soon cause i cant find anyone to watch my kids some nights. ive just lost hope in everything right now.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8472 posts
28th Jul '13
Quoting mom2andrew&carter:" shes not easy to talk to at all cause i know she will just flip it around on me. i can put it for section ... [snip!] ... gonna have to quit soon cause i cant find anyone to watch my kids some nights. ive just lost hope in everything right now."


Maybe try coming at her a different way? I get the whole difficult mom/mil thing SOs mom is right there ontop of that list. Sometimes we butt heads really badly about certain issues and sometimes we can calmly talk things out to where everyone is at least somewhat happy with the conclusion. Ive found that the outcome normally depends on how and when topics are brought up.

Lorelei's Mommy ♥ 1 child; Scotts Valley, CA, United States 1463 posts
29th Jul '13
Quoting mom2andrew&carter:" they dont really have low income housing around where i live. the lowest 2 bedroom place i could find ... [snip!] ... list i only make minimum wage right now so im barely making money. i just feel like running away but theres nowhere to run to."

The lowest was 500$ for a two bedroom. :shock:
The lowest 2 bed room where i live is 1600$ :(

A is Me 1 child; South Carolina 3782 posts
30th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mom2andrew&carter:</b>" they dont really have low income housing around where i live. the lowest 2 bedroom place i could find ... [snip!] ... list i only make minimum wage right now so im barely making money. i just feel like running away but theres nowhere to run to."</blockquote>




Go ahead and get on the section 8 waiting list.

mom2andrew&carter 18 kids; Leesburg, Florida 2159 posts
30th Jul '13
Quoting Lorelei's Mommy ♥:" The lowest was 500$ for a two bedroom. :shock: The lowest 2 bed room where i live is 1600$ :("

yea but i also live in florida where everything is cheaper including pay

Beth~N~Lizzie 1 child; Winter Haven, Florida 2755 posts
30th Jul '13
Quoting Lorelei's Mommy ♥:" The lowest was 500$ for a two bedroom. :shock: The lowest 2 bed room where i live is 1600$ :("

Your baby is sooo pretty! I love that pic!