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Why do people say.. [Trigger Warning] user banned
28th Jul

...that men can't get raped?



I have a case of sexual assault in my past, and without going into too many details, I would definitely say it was not just the pain or the fact that I was in that situation that made it so hard. It was definitely the emotional toil, and the fact of who it was, etc.



I've only really heard recently that people believe that women can't rape men and I don't understand that at all... and that women actually get offended when men come forward and claim to be rape victims. I mean, certainly men can rape other men, but it's not a far stretch of the imagination to believe that women could do the same in my mind.



So what is your opinion on it? Can someone PLEASE explain to me how it's possible to have that opinion?

AwkwardTurtle 34 kids; Syracuse, NY, United States 2085 posts
28th Jul

It seems physically unrealistic for many reasons.

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
28th Jul

Well I never understood how it happened physically - to me a guy couldn't be aroused if he didn't "want it". Of course now I'm a lot less ignorant and know betterbut I think there's quite a few people who think this way I

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
28th Jul
Quoting BryarWoods:" It seems physically unrealistic for many reasons."


Name a few?

LA REINA™ Chicago, IL, United States 15863 posts
28th Jul

I think a man can be raped, especially with the use of drugs.

Hathor + A Due December 23; 16 kids; Spring, Texas 12834 posts
28th Jul

SO has a friend who believe men couldn't get raped and that if a man was ever anally raped that he deserved it for not fighting then off.




Sick sick mindset.

Naturally Alternative 34 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 5640 posts
28th Jul

Perhaps they think all men are "horn dogs" and never don't want it. Or like *Mayhem* said, that they don't think men can get aroused unless they actually want it... which is sadly not true. Just like women can orgasm while being raped which I can imagine just makes it worse on them. :(

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
28th Jul
Quoting *Mayhem*:" Well I never understood how it happened physically - to me a guy couldn't be aroused if he didn't "want ... [snip!] ... "want it". Of course now I'm a lot less ignorant and know betterbut I think there's quite a few people who think this way I"


Really? I mean, I've heard lots of jokes throughout the years of how guys can't help it if they get aroused or not. And some women even have orgasms from their attackers...

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
28th Jul
Quoting Naturally Alternative~40w:" Perhaps they think all men are "horn dogs" and never don't want it. Or like *Mayhem* said, that they ... [snip!] ... it... which is sadly not true. Just like women can orgasm while being raped which I can imagine just makes it worse on them. :("


Yes exactly! I'd hoped I wasn't the only person that heard that.

The Time Police TTC since Apr 2014; 1 angel baby; Cold Lake, AB, Canada 33337 posts
status 28th Jul

People think men only get a b***r when they want it, which is NOT true at all.

Naturally Alternative 34 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 5640 posts
28th Jul
Quoting The Andromeda Strain:" Yes exactly! I'd hoped I wasn't the only person that heard that. "

Yup, which is sad... of course not all men are. Hell, I have more of a sex drive than my husband haha.

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
28th Jul
Quoting Naturally Alternative~40w:" Perhaps they think all men are "horn dogs" and never don't want it. Or like *Mayhem* said, that they ... [snip!] ... it... which is sadly not true. Just like women can orgasm while being raped which I can imagine just makes it worse on them. :("

That would be awful. I mean, being raped is tragic enough....

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
28th Jul
Quoting A&H's mommy {TKO}:" That would be awful. I mean, being raped is tragic enough.... "


That's enough to drive someone crazy. I mean, the whole situation is already loss of control. Then thinking you can't even control your own body? I'm glad I never experienced that. =[

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
28th Jul
Quoting Hathor + A:" SO has a friend who believe men couldn't get raped and that if a man was ever anally raped that he deserved it for not fighting then off. Sick sick mindset."


That is absolutely disgusting. =[

*Queen Bitch* (Expecting! Due December 20; TTC since Aug 2013; Georgia 1627 posts
28th Jul

People who say that men can't be raped tend to be idiots.