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Girlfriend?! Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
29th Jul '13

I have a really dumb question.....what constitutes the title of Girlfriend and Boyfriend? A little history: Ex husband and I seperated last October, divorce was final in May. I was not looking for a relationship but started casually dating a family friend a little over a month ago. Well now everyone I know is asking if we are "official" and asking how my boyfriend is. HE'S NOT MY BOYFRIEND....is he??? I don't know how I feel about that title......



Please help my brain clarify what that means.



TIA

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
29th Jul '13

ask him if he's your boyfriend?



to me, it's someone you are exclusively seeing, sleeping with, no intentions of dating anyone else. is it "facebook official"? LOL

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
29th Jul '13

Um...usually one person asks the other if they want to exclusive...and then if the other says yes...well ta-da!



lol idk how else to put that.

LaLaLuvsAugust Due March 5; 2 kids; Bremerton, Washington 510 posts
29th Jul '13

Call it what you want. Y'all could be "special friends" or call yourselves whatever. A rose by any other name would smell just as sweet.

Jacob'sKeeper 2 kids; Damn near Canada, MT, United States 9358 posts
status 29th Jul '13
Quoting Totally in love with her:" I have a really dumb question.....what constitutes the title of Girlfriend and Boyfriend? A little history: ... [snip!] ... NOT MY BOYFRIEND....is he??? I don't know how I feel about that title...... Please help my brain clarify what that means. TIA"


I'd just plain old ask him "so is this exclusive or what" or something along that lines. Just so you're not saying one thing and he's thinking/saying another. Get on the same page with him :D.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
29th Jul '13

if you were introducing him to someone, or he introducing you, would he say "this is my girlfriend ____"?

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
29th Jul '13

We had that conversation the other night actually. I asked him how he introduces me to other people and he says, just as I do, "the girl/guy I'm dating". Nothing more specific then that. Although, he said the other day someone asked him how his girlfriend was and he realized after the fact he didn't correct them whereas I always correct to say not my boyfriend, dating.



But we are exclusive, and sleeping together now. He knows pretty intimate details about my divorce and I know intimate details about his past as well. Helps that we've known each other for several years now on a friendly level.

Jacob'sKeeper 2 kids; Damn near Canada, MT, United States 9358 posts
status 29th Jul '13

Or you could just respond "He's just my sex slave"

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
29th Jul '13
Quoting Jacob'sKeeper:" Or you could just respond "He's just my sex slave""


HAHAHAHAHAHAHA Best.Answer.EVER!

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
29th Jul '13
Quoting Totally in love with her:" We had that conversation the other night actually. I asked him how he introduces me to other people and ... [snip!] ... I know intimate details about his past as well. Helps that we've known each other for several years now on a friendly level."

Dating and being exclusive about it implies boyfriend to me. Or SO if you're like me and totally hate the terms "boyfriend/girlfriend" for adult relationships. Lol.

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
29th Jul '13
Quoting ρiηkie ρie:" Dating and being exclusive about it implies boyfriend to me. Or SO if you're like me and totally hate the terms "boyfriend/girlfriend" for adult relationships. Lol."


oooooooohhhhhh boy *sigh of scared anxiety*........looks like I have a title and am trying my damnedest to avoid the obvious.

Totally in love with her 2 kids; Houston, Texas 535 posts
29th Jul '13
Quoting LaLaLuvsAugust:" Call it what you want. Y'all could be "special friends" or call yourselves whatever. A rose by any other name would smell just as sweet."


True. Shakespeare can definitely help clarify situations. Thanks!