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Need advice BADLY. *Childcare arrangements* Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
30th Jul

I had decided over the weekend to get a part time job so that I could get a new car. Right now I'm a full time student online, stay at home mom.
Yesterday I found out my son's father was laid off and yeah, I doubt what child support he does pay, if any, will be enough to cover LO's needs so I put in applications all day.
Got a call from one of the places today who want an interview tomorrow. They can offer me part time work, but I'll have to work full time for 5 weeks during training. I have 3 friends that I trust with my son and messaged them, offering to pay for baby sitting. All three said no.
I can't afford daycare as I will be going 2 weeks with no pay and have $10 right now. I will not be able to obtain child care assistance in time if hired (Waiting list is 6+ months). My mom works 1st shift, my dad works 3rd and sleeps during the day, so neither of them could. My grandma refuses to retire and my grandpa is in too poor of health to be an option.
What do I do? I need a job, really really really bad, I want a job just as badly but I don't know how this can work.

taking a look at life Palm beach gardens, FL, United States 49009 posts
30th Jul

I know what u mean thank god my dad's watching my kids but my grandmother keeps trying to get me someone i don't know to what them...




I keep asking her with what money and sorry but i can't leave my kids with someone i dont trust



the day care waiting list is the same here.



Humm, what about seeing about care.com?

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
30th Jul

Call the child's father? He's laid off so if he can't provide child support, he should at least help take care of the child while you work.

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
30th Jul

I know this is probably not what you want to hear, but you're probably going to have to cancel that interview. My best advice right now, is to just pause for a bit. FIRST arrange childcare, then start looking for a job. Meaning, find and talk to someone who knows and understands your situation and is willing to work with you. That way once you start looking again, you can be ready with childcare. Is there anything you can sell right now that would give you enough money to cover some/part of child care (even for just a couple of days while you interview?)

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
30th Jul
Quoting Now and Forever:" Call the child's father? He's laid off so if he can't provide child support, he should at least help take care of the child while you work. "

He's seen LO twice in 2 1/2 years and lives abooout an hour and a half away.
I'd be more comfortable letting my soon to be ex husband babysit him, which I considered, but he's working full time.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
30th Jul
Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:" I know this is probably not what you want to hear, but you're probably going to have to cancel that interview. ... [snip!] ... now that would give you enough money to cover some/part of child care (even for just a couple of days while you interview?)"

The only thing of value that I own is my laptop and I need it to do my online classes. I don't have a desk top or any other kind of electronic. I don't even own a cell phone. I had one that I sold last week that I used to have before I had to have my phone cut off but I'm pretty sure that's the last electronic or anything of value I have.

You and me + 4 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4113 posts
30th Jul
Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:" I know this is probably not what you want to hear, but you're probably going to have to cancel that interview. ... [snip!] ... now that would give you enough money to cover some/part of child care (even for just a couple of days while you interview?)"


In this state you have to have a job to even qualify for childcare then you have to be on a waiting list 6+ months to get it. Ive been there.

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
30th Jul
Quoting Vodka Knockers:" The only thing of value that I own is my laptop and I need it to do my online classes. I don't have a ... [snip!] ... used to have before I had to have my phone cut off but I'm pretty sure that's the last electronic or anything of value I have."

Do you have a local FB group for your city? maybe you can get in touch with other moms and trade babysitting (of course getting to know them first and whatnot)? ya know, help each other out? I know this is not a fast solution, but it might help you in the long run.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
30th Jul
Quoting Vodka Knockers:" He's seen LO twice in 2 1/2 years and lives abooout an hour and a half away. I'd be more comfortable letting my soon to be ex husband babysit him, which I considered, but he's working full time."


What about your mom, dad, sister, brother, cousin, nephew, niece, grandmother, aunt, uncle? Any family willing to help out?

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15522 posts
30th Jul

Who do you live with and how are you paying rent?

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
30th Jul
Quoting You and me + 3:" In this state you have to have a job to even qualify for childcare then you have to be on a waiting list 6+ months to get it. Ive been there."


I meant childcare as finding a babysitter, not help from the state since that's not available to her right now.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
30th Jul
Quoting You and me + 3:" In this state you have to have a job to even qualify for childcare then you have to be on a waiting list 6+ months to get it. Ive been there."

Lol, so screwed before I even get there.
I did have childcare assistance for school a few months back cause I was going on campus, but decided to stay at home with him instead so signed up for classes online/pulled him out of daycare.

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
30th Jul
Quoting iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien:" Do you have a local FB group for your city? maybe you can get in touch with other moms and trade babysitting ... [snip!] ... first and whatnot)? ya know, help each other out? I know this is not a fast solution, but it might help you in the long run."

I actually run a fairly popular yard sale page where people do offer babysitting services, but I can't offer a hell of a lot of money til I figure out how much money I'll be paying in taxes (I live in NC, but will be working in VA so I'll be charged double state)
ETA: Should have mentioned my son does have certain special needs and I'd be more comfortable letting someone he's used to keep him.

iLL-Legal Unicorn Alien 3 kids; New York, TX, United States 37137 posts
30th Jul
Quoting Vodka Knockers:" I actually run a fairly popular yard sale page where people do offer babysitting services, but I can't ... [snip!] ... I figure out how much money I'll be paying in taxes (I live in NC, but will be working in VA so I'll be charged double state)"


maybe you can trade hours? like if someone needs a babysitter for different times/days you can watch their kid and then they'll watch yours? it would be a win win for both of you! it's worth a try, you never know. Good luck!

Vodka Knockers 1 child; North Carolina 8063 posts
30th Jul
Quoting Now and Forever:" What about your mom, dad, sister, brother, cousin, nephew, niece, grandmother, aunt, uncle? Any family willing to help out? "

Mom works 1st, she wouldn't be able to cause she'd be at work. Dad works 3rd so he sleeps during the day. Ahh...I have one cousin I may be able to ask who has two children of her own, but my other cousins either work or go to school full time on campus. No nephews or nieces, I'm an only child. Grandma refuses to retire even though she hit the retirement age 5 years ago. My aunt is a coke addict, same for her husband. My other uncle died back in 07. That's really about it.