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LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
30th Jul

My mom and stepdad were together for 11 years before they got married and I've pretty much always called him my stepdad (and they started dating when I was seven and my brother was five). To each their own, they didn't tell me to call him my stepdad, I just did..

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
30th Jul
Quoting sass. ෆ:" After being together how long is it "okay" for your spouse to call your child their stepchild? Just a random thought after hearing what SO's ex has to say about a few things related to it."


When they are married, they are immediately a stepparent. Before the marriage....never.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
30th Jul

A lot of people tend to disagree with me but I don't even think your new SO should be around your kids till after you guys have been together for about, six months, a year or a year and a half. So maybe, two - three years.

lise. ෆ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cold, Ol, Canada 59104 posts
status 30th Jul

<blockquote><b>Quoting LayLu:</b>" My mom and stepdad were together for 11 years before they got married and I've pretty much always called ... [snip!] ... dating when I was seven and my brother was five). To each their own, they didn't tell me to call him my stepdad, I just did.."</blockquote>



My stepdad was around for years before him and my mom married and I knew no different. I was 6 and still had my bio dad in the picture, just not often.

lise. ෆ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cold, Ol, Canada 59104 posts
status 30th Jul

It's interesting to see others' opinions.



SO calls DD his stepdaughter. We've been together near a year. Her father is still in the picture, every other weekend and when showing off for a new girl, he's around the odd day or so in between.
SO, myself and my daughter plus his roommate prior to meeting me, all live together.



His son lives in a different province with his mother, I've only met him once, so therefor I don't refer to him as a stepson, where I'm not involved in his life due to SO's ex refusing visits because she doesn't like me.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11952 posts
31st Jul
Quoting sass. ෆ:" It's interesting to see others' opinions. SO calls DD his stepdaughter. We've been together near a ... [snip!] ... don't refer to him as a stepson, where I'm not involved in his life due to SO's ex refusing visits because she doesn't like me."


I hate when women make excuses for their so's being dead beat dads. They all start singing a different tune when they shoes is on the other foot.
She can not refuse visits because she doesn't like you. End of store. If they don't have a custody agreement then he is still a dead beat dad for not going out and getting one so she can't pull that crap. Don't make excuses for him.

C.K.I Due September 10 (girl); 2 kids; Texas 13314 posts
31st Jul

IIt depends. My sister and her fiance recently got engaged, but they've been living together for over a year and his 13 and 9 yr old daughters call her mom. So it just depends on the situation.

lise. ෆ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cold, Ol, Canada 59104 posts
status 31st Jul

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" I hate when women make excuses for their so's being dead beat dads. They all start singing a different ... [snip!] ... then he is still a dead beat dad for not going out and getting one so she can't pull that crap. Don't make excuses for him."</blockquote>



Just because I'm not in his sons life, doesn't mean he isn't. We drive the 4 hours for him to see him, his ex refuses for me to be around and SO stands his ground to make compromise. I usually have to sit in the truck while him and his son do something until his ex comes back to pick up said son.



The custody thing is in progress.