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Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
30th Jul '13
Quoting sass. ෆ:" After being together how long is it "okay" for your spouse to call your child their stepchild? Just a random thought after hearing what SO's ex has to say about a few things related to it."


When they are married, they are immediately a stepparent. Before the marriage....never.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
30th Jul '13

A lot of people tend to disagree with me but I don't even think your new SO should be around your kids till after you guys have been together for about, six months, a year or a year and a half. So maybe, two - three years.

lise ♡ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cold, Ol, Canada 64836 posts
status 30th Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LayLu:</b>" My mom and stepdad were together for 11 years before they got married and I've pretty much always called ... [snip!] ... dating when I was seven and my brother was five). To each their own, they didn't tell me to call him my stepdad, I just did.."</blockquote>



My stepdad was around for years before him and my mom married and I knew no different. I was 6 and still had my bio dad in the picture, just not often.

lise ♡ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cold, Ol, Canada 64836 posts
status 30th Jul '13

It's interesting to see others' opinions.



SO calls DD his stepdaughter. We've been together near a year. Her father is still in the picture, every other weekend and when showing off for a new girl, he's around the odd day or so in between.
SO, myself and my daughter plus his roommate prior to meeting me, all live together.



His son lives in a different province with his mother, I've only met him once, so therefor I don't refer to him as a stepson, where I'm not involved in his life due to SO's ex refusing visits because she doesn't like me.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
31st Jul '13
Quoting sass. ෆ:" It's interesting to see others' opinions. SO calls DD his stepdaughter. We've been together near a ... [snip!] ... don't refer to him as a stepson, where I'm not involved in his life due to SO's ex refusing visits because she doesn't like me."


I hate when women make excuses for their so's being dead beat dads. They all start singing a different tune when they shoes is on the other foot.
She can not refuse visits because she doesn't like you. End of store. If they don't have a custody agreement then he is still a dead beat dad for not going out and getting one so she can't pull that crap. Don't make excuses for him.

C.K.I Due September 10 (girl); 2 kids; Texas 13314 posts
31st Jul '13

IIt depends. My sister and her fiance recently got engaged, but they've been living together for over a year and his 13 and 9 yr old daughters call her mom. So it just depends on the situation.

lise ♡ 1 child; 1 angel baby; Cold, Ol, Canada 64836 posts
status 31st Jul '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" I hate when women make excuses for their so's being dead beat dads. They all start singing a different ... [snip!] ... then he is still a dead beat dad for not going out and getting one so she can't pull that crap. Don't make excuses for him."</blockquote>



Just because I'm not in his sons life, doesn't mean he isn't. We drive the 4 hours for him to see him, his ex refuses for me to be around and SO stands his ground to make compromise. I usually have to sit in the truck while him and his son do something until his ex comes back to pick up said son.



The custody thing is in progress.