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Cast Your Vote:

    • I don't have my HS diploma or equivalent -- Votes: 2
    • We could not afford child care even with the extra income -- Votes: 28
    • I believe a mother's best place is at home with her children -- Votes: 22
    • I am in college full time -- Votes: 12
    • My husband makes enough for us to live comfortably -- Votes: 29
    • I have a medical condition that prevents me from working -- Votes: 4
    • I am simply not cut out for the working world -- Votes: 5
    • My husband/significant other does not want me to work -- Votes: 10
    • I'm not a stay at home mom! -- Votes: 21
TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 22813 posts
5th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting draven:</b>" To be fair, three of them are school age. But childcare for the 2 youngest would be $900 a month. That ... [snip!] ... would make at a part time job. Maybe I should open a daycare people around here have to go way out of their way for childcare. "</blockquote>




Even with 3 in school, the amount of running around you would have to pay someone else to do OR paying for after school care on top of care for the little ones would be hard to justify.

draven 5 kids; Florida 724 posts
5th Aug
Quoting TheNuge:" <blockquote><b>Quoting draven:</b>" To be fair, three of them are school age. But childcare ... [snip!] ... That may be a good idea. Go on care.com and see what's going on in your area. There MAY be an opportunity for you."


I'm registered on Care.com. All of the childcare jobs are 45 minutes away. I do live close to a prison and when school starts I will be posting there at the HE department for over night and day care. I just started watching a friend's daughter for $15 a night.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
5th Aug
Quoting TheNuge:" <blockquote><b>Quoting draven:</b>" Yeah, there is no way we would be able to pay ... [snip!] ... work."</blockquote> Lol. You have 5 kids! Most families wouldn't be able justify paid childcare for a tribe of 5."

Yah, I made good money before deciding to stay home and if I had to pay $15-20 per hour (which is what 5 would run you here at a center) PLUS my commute & gas, etc, we could do it, but I wouldn't want to. I would personally look at my job duties, plus the hours, & look at pay AFTER the cost of childcare is deducted per week & NO WAY would I have been willing to do THAT job for that level of take home profit pre-kids, so I am not willing to do it for that amount now. I'd rather just be home.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
6th Aug

My childcare is expensive but doable. I pay per semester out of my student loans.



It comes down to 4k per semester for 2 kids. I know some parents pay that in a month for one kid.



But this is the first time in my 7.5 years of parenting that I've had to utilize daycare 40+ hours a week. It's a bit scary and mindboggling.

Rivera Ancient Due November 30; 5 kids; Japan 215 posts
6th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dovahkiin:</b>" I just found it sad that 24% of families on here could not afford childcare if the mom wanted to go back to work. "</blockquote>



Majority of this site are 24 or younger without a college degree though. You can't make much without a degree these days.

Interrobang!? 6 kids; Ontario 1176 posts
6th Aug
Quoting Rivera Ancient:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dovahkiin:</b>" I just found it sad that 24% of families on ... [snip!] ... Majority of this site are 24 or younger without a college degree though. You can't make much without a degree these days."

Has anyone ever done a topic in D&D or elsewhere to try and figure out why BG has such a different audience from other mommy forums? It's always kind of baffled me. Seems like this site attracts all the wildlife of the internet. It's the Yahoo of parenting sites.



I've thought about leaving for another site many times because I simply can't relate to the hot topics here and have views that are deeply ridiculed by the BG demographic, but would be celebrated (or at worst, accepted) on other parenting sites. :?: I don't get it.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
6th Aug
Quoting Interrobang!?:" Has anyone ever done a topic in D&D or elsewhere to try and figure out why BG has such a different ... [snip!] ... views that are deeply ridiculed by the BG demographic, but would be celebrated on other parenting sites. :?: I don't get it."


Like what views?



However, I think that groupings tend to stay together. So if you have people who have a specific set of principles, the odds of others who are like-minded also joining is high. People who don't agree on or see eye to eye with the majority of people here are unlikely to stay here. They'll seek out people who are more in line with their views.



It's how it works.

Rivera Ancient Due November 30; 5 kids; Japan 215 posts
6th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Interrobang!?:</b>" Has anyone ever done a topic in D&D or elsewhere to try and figure out why BG has such a different ... [snip!] ... ridiculed by the BG demographic, but would be celebrated (or at worst, accepted) on other parenting sites. :?: I don't get it."</blockquote>



Young people tend to always believe they are right and have everything figured out, which is probably why the BG demographic has such intense parenting opinions when the majority of them have not parented a child over three.

Interrobang!? 6 kids; Ontario 1176 posts
6th Aug
Quoting she nan igans:" Like what views? However, I think that groupings tend to stay together. So if you have people who have ... [snip!] ... of people here are unlikely to stay here. They'll seek out people who are more in line with their views. It's how it works."


But what is it specifically about BG that attracts the charming demographic that dominates around here?



I guess I just don't get how, with a billion people on the internet, this site in particular attracts such a disproportionate number of young, uneducated, "mainstream" parenting mothers. Is there a neon sign that I can't see?



Maybe most people who aren't simply get disgusted with the site and leave, idk.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
6th Aug
Quoting Interrobang!?:" But what is it specifically about BG that attracts the charming demographic that dominates around here? ... [snip!] ... Is there a neon sign that I can't see? Maybe most people who aren't simply get disgusted with the site and leave, idk."


I guess I don't see the majority as uneducated, mainstream parents, so I can't really comment to that. I've been around here a while, and there is diversity in some areas, but I don't find the majority I see being uneducated or even "mainstream."



As far as "charming demographic" I am going to guess that is sarcasm? The fact is that most places on the internet have less then friendly people around. This site I don't think is much different than others at the end of the day.

Interrobang!? 6 kids; Ontario 1176 posts
6th Aug
Quoting she nan igans:" I guess I don't see the majority as uneducated, mainstream parents, so I can't really comment to that. ... [snip!] ... internet have less then friendly people around. This site I don't think is much different than others at the end of the day. "


Hm, I lurk on a few other sites (don't participate, but Ive been considering it) and the demographic and behaviour here is MUCH different. Not that there aren't people like this on other sites, but they're disproportionate here for sure.



Not sure how it could be argued that this site isn't overall very young, un/undereducated and mainstream. Sure there are a few vocal posters who don't fit that bill, but a majority of BG seem to fit 2 or more of those categories.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
6th Aug
Quoting Interrobang!?:" Has anyone ever done a topic in D&D or elsewhere to try and figure out why BG has such a different ... [snip!] ... ridiculed by the BG demographic, but would be celebrated (or at worst, accepted) on other parenting sites. :?: I don't get it."


Essentially?
The lack of rules on this board in regards to what is acceptable to post appeal to a younger crowd, I think.

Interrobang!? 6 kids; Ontario 1176 posts
6th Aug
Quoting Don't. Blink.:" Essentially? The lack of rules on this board in regards to what is acceptable to post appeal to a younger crowd, I think."

Hmm, didn't think of that. Probably a good guess. Though I didn't realise this site was any less moderated than others, but I also don't spend enough time on others to see what happens to shit-stirrers, so that's probably why.



Here it does seem like shit-stirring and bashing is celebrated and encouraged, maybe it's not so much on other sites?

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
6th Aug
Quoting Interrobang!?:" Hmm, didn't think of that. Probably a good guess. Though I didn't realise this site was any less moderated ... [snip!] ... why. Here it does seem like shit-stirring and bashing is celebrated and encouraged, maybe it's not so much on other sites?"


It isn't. I was a member on the iVillage boards from 2004 until 2008. Every subboard had 2-3 moderators who were active board posters. It was closely monitored and anything drama-like was usually intercepted and deleted. It's still like that.



Becoming a moderator was like getting a job too. :?



I had "e-culture" shock when I came here by accident. I've stayed because of the friends but I can take or leave this site. The mentality and maturity of most of this board bothers me. I'm abrasive but I don't typically go out of my way to be needlessly cruel.

ღ Diana ღ Michigan 15726 posts
6th Aug

I am no longer a SAHM but when I was I became one because an opportunity to stay home with my oldest (baby at the time) fell into my lap. I had potential to make more then I was making when I was working full time. It was a stupid choice in the end that ended after three months. I did get a job a few months later but I was "fired" after telling my boss I was pregnant, I was going into my 9th month of pregnancy. (I found out I was pregnant when I was 5 months along and was in shock for a while so I didn't say anything). I was unable to find work after that for two years, I became severely depressed and had a hard time just managing to walking outside.




I am in a much better place now though :)