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Is it tacky.... Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
1st Aug '13

...to hold your own baby shower and have a registry? My cousin is expecting next month, and just a week or so ago, she hosted her own baby shower, had the registry and everything. I couldn't go, but I do go back and forth about buying her something because.....



This is the same girl who held a "Jack and Jill" party ....but she never got married (or even picked a date), and she and the guy (BD) are separated. They used all the money to get air condition. I'd hate to give her money or whatever and for her to use it for something besides the baby.



(No poll, want to hear answers).

la_mas_hermosa Due July 22; 17 kids; Minneapolis, Minnesota 6095 posts
1st Aug '13

Arent you suppose to create your own registry? I wouldnt want someone else to

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
1st Aug '13

Yes, I think it's tacky to throw your own baby shower/birthday party/whatever.

Rette Mich 1 child; Texas 27604 posts
1st Aug '13

I don't think so. Sometimes you just don't have someone there for you to do it so you got to do it yourself!



As for the money don't get money just buy something small like a blanket or small pack of diapers and wipes!

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 16588 posts
status 1st Aug '13

I think it is kind of tacky and not something I would ever do. But there are way tackier things I guess.

Monsters² Mom 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Middle o' nowhere, __, Guam 5176 posts
status 1st Aug '13

*shrug* I help plan my own parties only because I'm a control freak and like to know whats happening. Do I throw them, no. But I do help with a lot of the planning.



Honestly just wait till the baby is born and buy them diapers/wipes/onesies if you're still feeling the urge to get them something.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
1st Aug '13

It may be tacky, but I guess I understand it too. Some people don't have friends, or anyone close who would throw a party. If my sister hadn't offered I wouldn't have been close enough to anyone who would have been willing to. That is a sucky place to be in, to miss out on that celebration. So, it may be "tacky" or against the normal rules, but I honestly really don't care.

*Mary Moon* 1 child; New York 3606 posts
1st Aug '13

I think it's tacky if you don't need it (having a girl but still have lots of girl stuff from baby #1 or vs versa if it were boys). But if its the first baby, I don't think so.



What's a Jack and Jill party?

Chef Sarah ♥ Due May 11 (boy); 1 child; Hollywood, FL, United States 10611 posts
1st Aug '13

I don't think it's tacky to hold your own baby shower because some people don't have someone to do it for them.



It is tacky, however, to accept money and spend it on something other than what people thought you'd be spending it on.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
1st Aug '13
Quoting *Mary Moon*:" I think it's tacky if you don't need it (having a girl but still have lots of girl stuff from baby #1 ... [snip!] ... stuff from baby #1 or vs versa if it were boys). But if its the first baby, I don't think so. What's a Jack and Jill party?"


It is kind of like a bridal shower where you give the bride and groom a bunch of gifts and money for the marriage/wedding.

Elle&Cole⛄️ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 25932 posts
status 1st Aug '13

Just don't give them money. Buy them diapers lol

user banned SAN FRANCISCO, CA, United States 24574 posts
1st Aug '13

Yes. Throwing your own shower...tacky. But, creating a registry...no. We didn't have a shower and I still created a registry to keep track of the stuff we needed and had already bought.

GrumpsMama 1 child; Whiskey d**k Mountain, WA, United States 16134 posts
1st Aug '13

I don't find having your own baby shower tacky. I wouldn't do it, but I see nothing wrong with it. People look too far into things like this.



Who cares?

Carter&Violet♥ She Gone! 2 kids; Virginia 14177 posts
1st Aug '13

If its her first and no one was going to throw her one- I don't find it tacky. I find it very sad that she had no one to make her feel special. I would just buy her diapers or an outfit- solve the problem

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
1st Aug '13
Quoting Carter&Violet♥:" If its her first and no one was going to throw her one- I don't find it tacky. I find it very sad that ... [snip!] ... I find it very sad that she had no one to make her feel special. I would just buy her diapers or an outfit- solve the problem"


Yeah, it is her first. I would have held her one, but I live Ohio and she lives in Massachusetts. :(