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_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
1st Aug '13
Quoting Carter&Violet♥:" If its her first and no one was going to throw her one- I don't find it tacky. I find it very sad that ... [snip!] ... I find it very sad that she had no one to make her feel special. I would just buy her diapers or an outfit- solve the problem"


This.



It just seems so heartless.



"Hey, you don't have family or friends who are close enough or care enough to throw you a baby shower? Well, guess you're out of luck. Enjoy missing out on that and being shown even MORE just how little everyone cares about you."



I mean, come on? At the end of the day why does it even matter who throws the thing?

Carter&Violet♥ She Gone! 2 kids; Virginia 14177 posts
1st Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Back to Noob Status:</b>" Yeah, it is her first. I would have held her one, but I live Ohio and she lives in Massachusetts. :("</blockquote>




Just get her something she can use-- she's gonna need a lot for her baby.

Carter&Violet♥ She Gone! 2 kids; Virginia 14177 posts
1st Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Back to Noob Status:</b>" Yeah, it is her first. I would have held her one, but I live Ohio and she lives in Massachusetts. :("</blockquote>




Just get her something she can use-- she's gonna need a lot for her baby.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
1st Aug '13
Quoting Carter&Violet♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Back to Noob Status:</b>" Yeah, it is her first. I would have ... [snip!] ... lives in Massachusetts. :("</blockquote> Just get her something she can use-- she's gonna need a lot for her baby."


Oh yeah! Her ex quit his job, and now she is living back home with her mother while having to help him out with rent. I'll definitely see if I can get her a gift card for babies r' us.

♥ LA 1 child; ..., KY, United States 612 posts
1st Aug '13

I don't think that it is.. I didn't have a baby shower but if I had, I still wouldn't have let anyone throw it for me. I honestly see no big deal in it, some people don't have friends or family members who offer or can afford to throw it for them.

sanders mommy Due November 13 (boy); Japan 2 posts
1st Aug '13

his is my first baby and no one I grew up with or know is no where near me. my friends now are my husbands friends and one of the couples we go out with is throwing us a co ed shower everyone thinks its a great idea and I do to since I don't have my own set of "girlfriends" if I didn't have them hell id have my hubby and I throw our own co ed one just cause you don't have anyoneclose to you dosnt mean you should miss out on the baby shower or people helping out with girfts for the baby...you would probably need them more since your own friends arnt there why in the world is it tacky if you want on and deserve it for carrying a baby 9 months. people should worry more about themselves instead of judging someone as tacky since they want a baby shower like everyone else. I think your tacky for judging your friend on it instead just being a friend obviously shes not faking being preggo

Carter&Violet♥ She Gone! 2 kids; Virginia 14177 posts
2nd Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting sanders mommy:</b>" his is my first baby and no one I grew up with or know is no where near me. my friends now are my husbands ... [snip!] ... else. I think your tacky for judging your friend on it instead just being a friend obviously shes not faking being preggo"</blockquote>




Uhhh what? A little dramatic. She was asking-- she didn't say she thought she was tacky. Pipe down killer.

user banned 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4666 posts
2nd Aug '13
Quoting she nan igans:" It may be tacky, but I guess I understand it too. Some people don't have friends, or anyone close who ... [snip!] ... to be in, to miss out on that celebration. So, it may be "tacky" or against the normal rules, but I honestly really don't care."


This.



I was supposed to throw my own for this exact reason. No real friends and family lives kinda far.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26978 posts
2nd Aug '13
Quoting sanders mommy:" his is my first baby and no one I grew up with or know is no where near me. my friends now are my husbands ... [snip!] ... else. I think your tacky for judging your friend on it instead just being a friend obviously shes not faking being preggo"


Well honestly, no one really "deserves" gifts from people just because they are carrying a baby for 9 months. You are being quite dramatic though.... time to take a deep breath and chill

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31405 posts
status 3rd Aug '13
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" ...to hold your own baby shower and have a registry? My cousin is expecting next month, and just a week ... [snip!] ... I'd hate to give her money or whatever and for her to use it for something besides the baby. (No poll, want to hear answers)."


Very tacky, IMO.