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Can a child be considered spoiled and remain well behaved? user banned
1st Aug '13

I'm insanely curious about this. My husband thinks I spoil our 4 daughters but anyone who has met them often make comments on the fact that they're well behaved and polite.



Do you think it's possible to be both?

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49343 posts
1st Aug '13

Yes. You can spoil a child and they can still be thankful for it, take good care of what they're given and be well mannered. Totally possible.

Little Richard's mommie! Due July 12 (boy); 1 child; Seneca, South Carolina 4430 posts
1st Aug '13
Quoting Don't. Blink.:" I'm insanely curious about this. My husband thinks I spoil our 4 daughters but anyone who has met them ... [snip!] ... who has met them often make comments on the fact that they're well behaved and polite. Do you think it's possible to be both?"

Yes! I do believe it is definitely possible. My sister for example and her husband spoil there 5 year old and she is well behaved. They set boundaries for her of how she will behave. If she is well behaved she gets spoiled with love and other rewards :)!

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
1st Aug '13

My children are spoiled, but they are incredibly well-behaved and thankful. I think the issue is when children start to feel entitled.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
1st Aug '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Yes. You can spoil a child and they can still be thankful for it, take good care of what they're given and be well mannered. Totally possible."


Well, you often hear of children being unruly and spoiled. I had to ask. :oops:



I generally give my children nearly anything they ask for (within reason) because they don't ask for things very often. But I also will go grocery shopping and come home with 4 new My Little Ponies for them. :oops: I'm so, so bad about going to the store and not getting something for at least one of them.

user banned Due October 22 (boy); 17 kids; Dildo, 4998 posts
1st Aug '13

Same here. SO thinks I spoil Noah but he's very well behaved, well mannered, polite, respectful and kind. He'll only throw a temper tantrum after splurging on some junk food with daddy that has artificial dyes or HFCS because he's very sensitive to them and they affect his behavior and hurt his head.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49343 posts
1st Aug '13
Quoting Don't. Blink.:" Well, you often hear of children being unruly and spoiled. I had to ask. :oops: I generally give my ... [snip!] ... My Little Ponies for them. :oops: I'm so, so bad about going to the store and not getting something for at least one of them."


I think it's the difference between spoiled and spoiled rotten that's important :)

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
1st Aug '13

And I do tell them no at times. Either because I don't have the money available or because it's just way too expensive. They respond with a defeated sigh but it never breaks into a tantrum.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75035 posts
status 1st Aug '13

When someone calls a child spoiled I always think they're referring to their behavior. I guess you can "spoil" them with things/love/attention and they can still be well behaved.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
1st Aug '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I think it's the difference between spoiled and spoiled rotten that's important :)"


They even know they're spoiled. :x

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
1st Aug '13

They'd also need to be taught appreciation. If they're not appreciating what is making them spoiled, I'd stop spoiling them.

ERMAGHERD BEEDS! 17 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4099 posts
1st Aug '13

I was one of those kids, I had every physical thing I asked for, plus plenty of love and attention, and I was we'll behaved.



Things changed when I was a teenager, but that was not because I was spoiled with stuff and love when I was young. And now I think the way my parents raised me when I was a young child has a lot to do with my high standards for myself and my kids. Which I think is a positive

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
1st Aug '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" They'd also need to be taught appreciation. If they're not appreciating what is making them spoiled, I'd stop spoiling them. "


Oh, appreciation is no issue here at all.



They're thankful for anything and everything they get.

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
1st Aug '13

I think we spoil DS but he is very well behaved especially in public. I think him being spoiled is more because we want to do it not because he's asking for it. He's too young to really understand I guess. But things will probably change depending on how his attitude is as he gets older.

Blair Nealey 2 kids; Darlington, South Carolina 312 posts
1st Aug '13

Yes it is possible. My daddy gave me anything and everything I wanted. I never got in any trouble and made nothing but good grades in school. I did everything I was told. Now there was a time frame of a few months between my junior and senior year of high school I got a wild hair but I think that's a normal part of being a teen.