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Spitting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8436 posts
2nd Aug

So my 5 yo niece has started this new thing where she thinks its funny to walk up to someone and just spit in their face. She has done it to me a number of times and every time I just have to get up and walk away because the first thought that pops into my head is to smack her. So instead I walk away until I can calm down enough to tell her mother what happened and let her deal with it. As of now her mom is getting mad because I wont deal with her after she does this because I know Im too angry to deal with her then. Ive talked to my sisters mom who also livea,with my niece and all she keeps telling me to do is smack her in her mouth. For me thats not an option because she is 5. My sister keeps telling me just to go a head and spit right back in her face. That to is not an option as far as Im concerned for a number of reasons but mainly because its beyond disrespectful. My question is have any of yal had to deal with the whole spitting issue and what did you do to stop your child from spitting on people?

lolajessup Due July 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
2nd Aug

Yeah ok doing the inappropriate behavior will teach her not to do it how?!?! Lol yeah don't do that :D



Tell her "that is disrespectful and rude and that is not how we treat people. It spreads germs and makes people sick. If you want to spit you do it I. The toilet, grass, sink, trash can (whatever you choose is appropriate to do the behavior in). You can't spit on people but you can spit in there". And everytime after that repeat that last line to redirect her. She get sick of it eventually. Kudos for walking away and not smacking her. You did the right thing. Good luck.

Gold 2 kids; "Coastal Virginia", VA, United States 31574 posts
status 2nd Aug

You don't even say anything to her after she does it? I'd tell her that's gross and rude and she needs to knock it off. She wouldn't like it if someone spit in her face, she shouldn't do it to others.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 20544 posts
2nd Aug

Dude, you need to suck it up and tell her straight up how rude it is. Calm your temper when it happens and just tell her right after she does it.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8436 posts
2nd Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Black Dynamite:</b>" You don't even say anything to her after she does it? I'd tell her that's gross and rude and she needs ... [snip!] ... gross and rude and she needs to knock it off. She wouldn't like it if someone spit in her face, she shouldn't do it to others."</blockquote>




I dont say anything to her I have her mom/gmal do so.

Gold 2 kids; "Coastal Virginia", VA, United States 31574 posts
status 2nd Aug
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Black Dynamite:</b>" You don't even say anything to her after ... [snip!] ... spit in her face, she shouldn't do it to others."</blockquote> I dont say anything to her I have her mom/gmal do so."


I'd say something yourself. That's really gross.

Miss-Maia's Mommy 2 kids; Ohio 1833 posts
2nd Aug

I think its a good thing you walk away from her. Shes probably looking for a reaction / bad attention. I would just ignore it completely or if she has a bedroom there, dont start yelling or anything just calmly put her in the room and close the door. Tell her behind closed doors that she will go in there every time she spits at someone. Also give her attention for positive things and try giving her something to do, bored kids are bad kids.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8436 posts
2nd Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Colt's mommy:</b>" Dude, you need to suck it up and tell her straight up how rude it is. Calm your temper when it happens and just tell her right after she does it. "</blockquote>




I wont discipline anyones child when Im angry. I myself am the product of a highly abusive childhood. Because of that I refuse to discipline any child when Im angry or upset. I rather have someone else do it or come back and address the issue when I am calm. I know it is best to address issues right when they happen but I do things the way I do because I do not want to continue the circle of violence I was raised into.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8436 posts
2nd Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Miss-Maia's Mommy:</b>" I think its a good thing you walk away from her. Shes probably looking for a reaction / bad attention. ... [snip!] ... she spits at someone. Also give her attention for positive things and try giving her something to do, bored kids are bad kids."</blockquote>




Ive been doing this with her when she has been having her temper tantrums and other then her screaming fits that she is afraid to be alone it seems to work to curb her fits when I have her. I never thought of trying that when she is spitting thanks I will have to see if this works for her.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
2nd Aug

I HATE spitting. I have to count to 10 before I discipline the kids when they do it because I lose my cool. It is an immediate time out.

lolajessup Due July 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
2nd Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Colt's mommy:</b>" Dude, you need to suck it up and tell her ... [snip!] ... right when they happen but I do things the way I do because I do not want to continue the circle of violence I was raised into."</blockquote>




Maybe say "that was rude and hurtful" when you walk away so you're at least showing her that she hurt you. I think it's good to show children that we dislike something as long as we handle it in an appropriate manner.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8436 posts
2nd Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... she hurt you. I think it's good to show children that we dislike something as long as we handle it in an appropriate manner."</blockquote>




Me walking away is something that wont change but next time it happens I will try to remember to say something to her before I go to take my time out.

Gold 2 kids; "Coastal Virginia", VA, United States 31574 posts
status 2nd Aug
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Caydence's ... [snip!] ... that wont change but next time it happens I will try to remember to say something to her before I go to take my time out."


I don't agree with hitting, and I would NEVER smack her in the mouth for doing it. But I would still make a point to say something before walking away. Even if it's just to let her know that was rude or hurtful and you don't like it.

Oncemore Suq Madiq, SH, Turkey 1454 posts
2nd Aug

My daughter tried this with me when she turned 4. I plucked the mess out of her. She sucked her spit back in so quick. Never tried it again. You have to let her know that spitting on people is just disrespectful and wrong. Once you know she understands this, if she even thinks about doing it she knows there will be consequences.

Vindictive 50 kids; Switzerland 30545 posts
2nd Aug
Quoting Oncemore:" My daughter tried this with me when she turned 4. I plucked the mess out of her. She sucked her spit ... [snip!] ... and wrong. Once you know she understands this, if she even thinks about doing it she knows there will be consequences."


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