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AF123 3 kids; Georgia 361 posts
3rd Aug
Quoting mαkαnαni:" They shouldn't have to anything if they don't want to. YOU chose to have kids. YOU take care of them. They raised their own. Yeah, it might suck, but so what. Quit acting like a self-entitled t**t."

I do raise my own f**king kids you know it all b***h. I am with my babies 24/7 and would like to go to a movie or just rest before I pop this one out. Guess you never got to do that though, huh?????? My granny watched me a lot so that my mom could have breaks. It's not like my parents are 60 years old. She is less than 40 so she has plenty of energy.



So strange how all of you are able to jump to the attack over someones rant but if there is a question about pregnancy then no one want so reply. f**k this website. It is not how it was at this time last year. With the exception of a very few most people on here have one kid and think they know everything about everything. No need to keep going. I am done arguing.

. Way, MA, United States 73777 posts
3rd Aug
Quoting AshleyDF:" I do raise my own f**king kids you know it all b***h. I am with my babies 24/7 and would like to go to ... [snip!] ... few most people on here have one kid and think they know everything about everything. No need to keep going. I am done arguing."

o.O

AF123 3 kids; Georgia 361 posts
3rd Aug
Quoting Akira423:" I have a different issue. My family would live to keep my girls overnight.. But my girls can not stay ... [snip!] ... they miss. I stayed at my grandmothers with them one night and all I heard they whole time was .. When are we going home lol."


My son is like that. He cried the whole time I was gone in March ( 1 1/2 days). My daughter loves to go play at other people's houses. They have more room to explore. lol

Ivana, VBA2C success! 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 6834 posts
3rd Aug

care.com and sittercity.com, even craigslist. I do babysitting for extra money and have found TONS of jobs on craigslist. I know it's hard to trust just anyone, but there are good people out there who will care for your kids.
And I am sorry but I have to agree with the rest of the commenters, spending time as a family all together is different than them babysitting and if they aren't willing to spend time with your kids, why do you expect them to offer to babysit??
It sucks, but they don't owe you or your kids anything, sadly.

speaktruth2powr 2 kids; Ontario 45005 posts
3rd Aug
Quoting AshleyDF:" My son is like that. He cried the whole time I was gone in March ( 1 1/2 days). My daughter loves to go play at other people's houses. They have more room to explore. lol"


Maybe that is why they don't want to watch them? If they are difficult when you go away, they probably don't want to deal with it.

AF123 3 kids; Georgia 361 posts
3rd Aug
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Have you tried Care.com?"


I have actually never heard of them. DO you know how they are? Are they a good provider? Will definitely look into tho. Thanks!

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 15782 posts
3rd Aug

They should offer to take your kids so you can relax with your husband? :/



Yeah, not really.



They came out of your body, not theirs. Their baby-watching days are over. I wouldnt expect anybody to offer to take my son for the day. It isnt their responsibility or obligation to do.

мɑkɑnɑni ~*~, FL, United States 62941 posts
3rd Aug
Quoting AshleyDF:" I do raise my own f**king kids you know it all b***h. I am with my babies 24/7 and would like to go to ... [snip!] ... few most people on here have one kid and think they know everything about everything. No need to keep going. I am done arguing."


Pull the stick out of your ass. I'm calling it like I see it. There are established members on care.com and sitter city.com who have reviews and background checks. Have you tried that?



See ya!

Ivana, VBA2C success! 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 6834 posts
3rd Aug
Quoting AshleyDF:" I have actually never heard of them. DO you know how they are? Are they a good provider? Will definitely look into tho. Thanks!"


it's a website full of babysitters, you go through and find one that you think will work for you. You can ask for references, background checks, etc.

graysensmom2010 TTC since Nov 2013; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Terre Haute, Indiana 173 posts
3rd Aug

I understand your frustration with having no time to yourself. I think that some of these people are being rude about your post. I wouldn't expect the grandparents to just watch them whenever, but every parent is entitled to time to themselves. According to Dr. Phil, parents are supposed to spend at least one evening a week and go out with their significant other..or with friends. I am lucky to have a mother that is willing to keep my son for me. I only have her keep him about once a month, but it is a big help to just be able to go somewhere and not have to worry about him for a while...or even just sit at home and watch T.V. Maybe if you need time to yourself, you could hire baby sitter, like some of the other people said, or set the kids up in daycare like once a week, if they are not at school age. I know it's uncomfortable leaving kids with people you don't know. I wont even do it and I am dreading my son going to preschool next month. It's a shame that the grandparents don't want more time with your kids. If anything, that would bug me the most is just their lack in interest in them. You'd think that if they don't like to take them places and do things with them, that maybe they would stop by and see them once in a while.

мɑkɑnɑni ~*~, FL, United States 62941 posts
3rd Aug
Quoting graysensmom2010:" I understand your frustration with having no time to yourself. I think that some of these people are ... [snip!] ... if they don't like to take them places and do things with them, that maybe they would stop by and see them once in a while."


Parents may be entitled to their own time, but it's on them to find help.

Akira423 Due February 13; 66 kids; Tennessee 200 posts
3rd Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting AshleyDF:</b>" My son is like that. He cried the whole time I was gone in March ( 1 1/2 days). My daughter loves to go play at other people's houses. They have more room to explore. lol"</blockquote>




I don't mind, after all they're only going to prefer home for a while. They're growing up so fast I try not to complain. Lol. My girls are older though, 6&10. So they're more help than anything. But when they were smaller I would cry sometimes because I just needed like 1 day to get some things done and they would not even entertain the idea of leaving home.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 15782 posts
3rd Aug

What about the other set of grandparents? Are they available?



Have you asked them, or are you just expecting them to offer?

AF123 3 kids; Georgia 361 posts
3rd Aug
Quoting The Blissful Six:" While it would be "ideal" for Grandparents to be involved, sometimes they just aren't so much. Sometimes ... [snip!] ... watch my kids until they were older. Sorry you feel so stretched. Hopefully you can hire a sitter to watch them for you."


Thanks. I put in another post that my parents are actually pretty young. My dad works all the time so no biggie there. I actually try to just go to my moms with my kids to spend time and she starts complaining so much that I have to just leave. She didn't raise us all by herself so she doesn't really know how to deal with it I guess. Who knew arguing with these people would make me feel better. Got some anger out! lol

graysensmom2010 TTC since Nov 2013; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Terre Haute, Indiana 173 posts
3rd Aug

I don't disagree with that. I prefer my son to be with me all the time anyway. I am not saying anything bad about the grandparents not wanting to baby sit, but when I grew up, my grandparents were a big part of my life. I think it's a shame that grandparents wouldn't want that opportunity. I'm not a grandparent, but I've seen that grandparent glow and I don't see why they would want things any other way.