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would this upset you due in december Due December 15 (girl); 49 kids; Standish, Michigan 13 posts
4th Aug '13

My ex husband and sons father just started seeing someone which is cool hope he's happy, I have a bf I have been with for a year and a half and expecting a baby girl with. But my ex only calls my son every couple of months and only sees him once every 3-6 month's for a day or two. I have full custody he gets supervised visits and lives 4 hours away. Well this morning his gf added me on facebook which is fine but she is posting pics of my son that she has never met and this bugs me. Also my ex wants her to meet my son but I don't want her to because I don't want him to get attatchex to someone else that will disappear or rarely see. He is 3 and I want to protect him. Also my ex is supposed to come camping for a few days with us to spend time with my son and wants to bring his gf but if he does all that will matter is her and not spending time with my son that he has not seen in 3 months and I think since he rarely sees him when he is around his main focus should be my son. What would you do or feel about her posting pics of your child or coming camping if you were in my situation?

user banned (boy); 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
4th Aug '13

Get her off your FB. He just started seeing her, no need for her to be in your personal business.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
4th Aug '13

I would not have added her on Facebook and I also wouldn't be going on a camping trip, how awkward.

Adriana's Mami♥ +1 Due December 14 (boy); 33 kids; Ontario 3858 posts
4th Aug '13

I would be weirded out about her adding pictures of your son. I would confront her directly about that since you guys have each other on fb. When it comes to the rest... He has every right to introduce his gf, you introduced your bf right? She should get a chance: once she or he messes up, then you can be more protective.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
4th Aug '13

1. I'd delete her from FB. She has no right to be in your personal business. 2. Hell no, she wouldn't be welcome to come because your ex needs to put forth some effort with your son before he includes other people. & 3. I would mention her posting pictures of a child she's never even met is ridiculous & disrespectful to you. I'd talk to her or the ex to get them removed.

due in december Due December 15 (girl); 49 kids; Standish, Michigan 13 posts
4th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lacTAYtor. ☮:</b>" I would not have added her on Facebook and I also wouldn't be going on a camping trip, how awkward."</blockquote>




My bf will be there too. Everytime he comes to see our son he stays with us that's the only way he sees him and I want my son to know his father. My ex lives off SSI only gets about 700 a month and has no car so takes the bus that costs 80 roundtrip and don't have money for a motel. I just am afraid my son will get attached to her then she will disappear and he will get hurt. He already has abandonment ussues due to his dad.

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 8016 posts
4th Aug '13

I would not be happy.
As far as her posting pictures, I would ask my ex to have them taken down.



I would explain to my ex that in due time, if she is still around, I don't mind them meeting. But he needs to be more active in in son's life before I even consider it. Once he is around more and reliable, I would start to consider if it is possible for them to meet.



But since he isn't even around his son much, it sounds more like he wants to show off being a daddy to his new girl.

due in december Due December 15 (girl); 49 kids; Standish, Michigan 13 posts
4th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Adriana's Mami♥ +1:</b>" I would be weirded out about her adding pictures of your son. I would confront her directly about that ... [snip!] ... his gf, you introduced your bf right? She should get a chance: once she or he messes up, then you can be more protective."</blockquote>




I said something to her about posting pics. I was nice about it and explained to her that I was not comfortable with her posting pics since she has never met him. If he was a constant part of my sons life I would be less hesitant about her meeting my son but when he is around he doesnt do much like once my son asked him to color and he said daddy don't color and wouldn't spend the quality time with him.

due in december Due December 15 (girl); 49 kids; Standish, Michigan 13 posts
4th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola.:</b>" I would not be happy. As far as her posting pictures, I would ask my ex to have them taken down. I would ... [snip!] ... to meet. But since he isn't even around his son much, it sounds more like he wants to show off being a daddy to his new girl."</blockquote>




Yeah I think he wants to look like a good daddy when in reality he hasn't been since my son was a few months old and he chose drugs over his family. Plus she has kids and he said he met hers so he wants her to meet ours. He has seen him 5 times in almost 2 years and once was when I took my son to see him at Christmas time so my son could have a Christmas with his dad too.

Nicola. 2 kids; Huntsville, AL, United States 8016 posts
4th Aug '13
Quoting due in december:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola.:</b>" I would not be happy. As far as her posting pictures, ... [snip!] ... almost 2 years and once was when I took my son to see him at Christmas time so my son could have a Christmas with his dad too."


I have seen it happen a lot. A dad doesn't care and isn't in their child's life until they find a new girlfriend. Then they are scared they will look bad for not taking care of their kid. Pretty sad, because once the girl goes away, the visits with their child do too. Not in all cases but this sounds like it may be his reason for trying all of this.

due in december Due December 15 (girl); 49 kids; Standish, Michigan 13 posts
4th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola.:</b>" I have seen it happen a lot. A dad doesn't care and isn't in their child's life until they find a new ... [snip!] ... away, the visits with their child do too. Not in all cases but this sounds like it may be his reason for trying all of this."</blockquote>




Yup its sad. I just want to protect my son. We lost a son at 27 days old before our 3 year old was born my ex stopped acknowledging him and has not gone to the cemetery in 2 years and he knows I would take him when he's here. He only talks about him when he thinks it will get him attention. And when I first suggested camping so that he could have a little extra time with our son he said no till I told him me and my bf have been taking him and he loves it. He hates that my bf is teaching my son all the stuff a dad should teach a son but even if he was here he wouldn't do it. He would rather be high all the time.

Adriana's Mami♥ +1 Due December 14 (boy); 33 kids; Ontario 3858 posts
4th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting due in december:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Adriana's Mami♥ +1:</b>" I would be weirded out about ... [snip!] ... doesnt do much like once my son asked him to color and he said daddy don't color and wouldn't spend the quality time with him."</blockquote>



I know it's always uncomfortable when a new person comes into the picture but this gf might actually help them get closer, she might show interest in your son and encourage your ex to do the same. It sucks but sometimes men don't get that parenting skill naturally.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27267 posts
5th Aug '13
Quoting Raising Sonshines:" Get her off your FB. He just started seeing her, no need for her to be in your personal business. "


This.