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Tiffany Knickerbocker 19 kids; Indiana 519 posts
4th Aug

Either he is an idiot, insecure about himself, or controlling. I feel that I should not have to prove myself to my husband and if he thought he was better then me then he could go find another woman who was up to his standard. Honestly my ex said stuff like that to me and it eventually got really bad between us. It took five years and for me to find out he was cheating on me while I was in labor with our daughter for me to open my eyes and see his true colors.

user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
4th Aug
Quoting Sherri + 3:" To be perfectly honest, I do not remember what exactly brought that subject up. I just know I am having a hard time getting past it. "


You shouldn't be expected to just get past it. It's an extremely hurtful thing to say. He's NOT better than you and should never treat you as such.

Sherri + 3 LLC 3 kids; Mesa, Arizona 3758 posts
4th Aug
Quoting Odafin Tutuola:" You shouldn't be expected to just get past it. It's an extremely hurtful thing to say. He's NOT better than you and should never treat you as such."


I had a talk with him this evening about how it made me feel. He just said he was being honest. He really does not understand why I am so upset. He said he wouldn't have been upset if I said something like to him.

C'sMom! 1 child; Minnesota 1263 posts
4th Aug

I do feel that it is mental abuse, are there other reasons why you said in OP why you wanted to know whether or not to leave?

user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
4th Aug
Quoting Sherri + 3:" I had a talk with him this evening about how it made me feel. He just said he was being honest. He really ... [snip!] ... honest. He really does not understand why I am so upset. He said he wouldn't have been upset if I said something like to him. "


He sounds like a f**king moron, I'm sorry. Obviously men would react different. Sometimes DH and I joke about which of us is more attractive, but it ends there..we never get serious and he never makes me feel like I'm not the most beautiful woman that he's ever laid eyes on. And my DH can be a massive jackass, but something like that is like Relationships 101 status.



I would say give him a taste of his own medicine and start treating him like a f**king peasant.

Sherri + 3 LLC 3 kids; Mesa, Arizona 3758 posts
4th Aug
Quoting FunSummer!:" I do feel that it is mental abuse, are there other reasons why you said in OP why you wanted to know whether or not to leave?"


No. This is the only problem between us. I actually didn't even know this was an issue until last night. I just cannot see myself staying with someone who feels that way about me. My self esteem has never been great and this certainly doesn't help. I have been through bad relationships in the past and I refuse to go through it again.

user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
4th Aug
Quoting Sherri + 3:" No. This is the only problem between us. I actually didn't even know this was an issue until last night. ... [snip!] ... great and this certainly doesn't help. I have been through bad relationships in the past and I refuse to go through it again."



Honey I read the other thread you posted before, about how your DH treats you like a product of the ghetto and that he saved you or whatever, and that your family isn't as good as his, etc. That's abuse and he is trying to get power over you by making you feel indebted to him. You don't need to put yourself through this. You don't need any man, especially not one that's going to try and make you feel poorly about yourself. And then when you do find the right one, he will never make you feel like you aren't 100% deserving of 100% of his love, regardless of social status or origin or whatever.

C'sMom! 1 child; Minnesota 1263 posts
4th Aug
Quoting Sherri + 3:" No. This is the only problem between us. I actually didn't even know this was an issue until last night. ... [snip!] ... great and this certainly doesn't help. I have been through bad relationships in the past and I refuse to go through it again."


How long have you been married?

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
4th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Odafin Tutuola:</b>" Honey I read the other thread you posted before, about how your DH treats you like a product of the ... [snip!] ... never make you feel like you aren't 100% deserving of 100% of his love, regardless of social status or origin or whatever. "</blockquote>




I haven't read any other threads, but if all of this is true then you need to get out now. That is not how anyone should treat someone they love. He is NOT better than you. You deserve so much more. I hope that you can find a way to get out because this is not a healthy relationship.



Again, I am so sorry you're going through this. :(

Sugarhiccup LLC ; 5 kids; Lahaina, Hawaii 2825 posts
4th Aug

I did reply in our earlier conversation but after reading this I recant some of what I said. f**k that! He's not better than you so for him to we think of coming out of his mouth I such a way is sickening. You have every right to be angry and I don't know anyone that would be to quick to forget something so heartless said to them like that. Especially by their spouse. Leaving? This is completely up to you. But I do consider you a friend and as a friend I will say if this is a "normal" thing than unless he is willing to change his behavior I'd suggest reviewing your options.

Kelsey1987 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Utah 735 posts
4th Aug

I know my husband is a lot better looking than me, but i would be crushed if he ever said that to me... I dont think i could forgive that and trust me im a very forgiving person

Sherri + 3 LLC 3 kids; Mesa, Arizona 3758 posts
4th Aug
Quoting FunSummer!:" How long have you been married?"


We have been married for almost 6 years and been together for 12 years.

Sherri + 3 LLC 3 kids; Mesa, Arizona 3758 posts
4th Aug
Quoting Odafin Tutuola:" Honey I read the other thread you posted before, about how your DH treats you like a product of the ... [snip!] ... never make you feel like you aren't 100% deserving of 100% of his love, regardless of social status or origin or whatever. "


Yeah that is true. He does act like his family is better and that he saved me from the life I had before him.

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15523 posts
4th Aug

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sherri + 3:</b>" We have been married for almost 6 years and been together for 12 years."</blockquote>




Have you ever had issues like this before? Like someone else said he could be feeling insecure about himself. Maybe its some kind of a mid life crisis. I don't think that what he said was ok at all but there has to be a reason he said it. You don't just wake up after 12 years and all of a sudden think you are better looking than your spouse.

♥Mama Constantine 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Texas 5798 posts
4th Aug
Quoting Sherri + 3:" Yeah that is true. He does act like his family is better and that he saved me from the life I had before him. "

My DH does this... But in all honesty... he did save me. If it wasn't for him I'd probably be a fat stripper dancing for McDoubles or something.