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user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
4th Aug '13
Quoting LaurenD1993:" Shawn has had drug addictions in the past not my father. I have gotten back in school and i have been ... [snip!] ... i made were the mistakes. My child is nothing less than a blessing to me and that is how i have looked at it from day one."



Adoption isn't punishing a child. Adoption is giving the child a better life than you can provide.



Do you think that you can provide a good life for your child?

*~*Sara&Ben+1.5*~* Due April 22; 1 child; Murray, Kentucky 1210 posts
4th Aug '13
lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
4th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting *~*Sara&Ben+1*~*:</b>" :!: I just died laughing reading this! LOL"</blockquote>




It's sad.

Amber + 2♡ 2 kids; Kansas 19276 posts
status 4th Aug '13
Quoting lacTAYtor. ☮:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *~*Sara&Ben+1*~*:</b>" :!: I just died laughing reading this! LOL"</blockquote> It's sad."


It is sad. I don't know what there is to laugh about :?

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
4th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MJ's Mommy♥:</b>" It is sad. I don't know what there is to laugh about :?"</blockquote>




I'm not finding the humor in it either. :(

*~*Sara&Ben+1.5*~* Due April 22; 1 child; Murray, Kentucky 1210 posts
4th Aug '13
LaurenD1993 Due January 18 (girl); Augusta, Kansas 8 posts
4th Aug '13

I believe i can provide a good life or my child as long ad i stay away from Shaw, we were very toxic for each other. My family and friends are helping me alot when it comes to staying away from him, i just need encourgement because its hard for me to give up on anything, especially this situatiom. I know its best for my child and me and i'm working so hard on getting ny strangth back so i can leave him out of our lives completely and never look back. I just have to look at the things i dont want my child to see, hear or go thru and i know if i stay with him my child would have a horrible life and i dont want that

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 16133 posts
status 4th Aug '13
Quoting LaurenD1993:" I believe i can provide a good life or my child as long ad i stay away from Shaw, we were very toxic ... [snip!] ... want my child to see, hear or go thru and i know if i stay with him my child would have a horrible life and i dont want that"


I strongly urge you to look into counseling.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
4th Aug '13
Quoting LaurenD1993:" I believe i can provide a good life or my child as long ad i stay away from Shaw, we were very toxic ... [snip!] ... want my child to see, hear or go thru and i know if i stay with him my child would have a horrible life and i dont want that"


What would you tell your daughter if she was pregnant with this guy's baby and wanted to make things work with him?

LaurenD1993 Due January 18 (girl); Augusta, Kansas 8 posts
4th Aug '13

Since i have moved back in with my mom i have been going to counseling and it has helped me think through alot of things. To the woman who things my situation "funny": i am very offended, my life and the life of my child not to keep u entertained and if u dont have anything better to say than u think its funny please remove urself from commenting on my post because u seem very rude

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
4th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LaurenD1993:</b>" I believe i can provide a good life or my child as long ad i stay away from Shaw, we were very toxic ... [snip!] ... want my child to see, hear or go thru and i know if i stay with him my child would have a horrible life and i dont want that"</blockquote>




I agree with a previous poster -- I think you should look into counseling.




That baby deserves way more than all of this.

Kae♥ Michigan 2 posts
4th Aug '13
Quoting LaurenD1993:" I believe i can provide a good life or my child as long ad i stay away from Shaw, we were very toxic ... [snip!] ... want my child to see, hear or go thru and i know if i stay with him my child would have a horrible life and i dont want that"


I BELIEVE YOU CAN DO IT TOO!:D I definitely understand on that stubborn/difficult to give up when it may be time, type thing. But you'll see beautiful results once you get that bad influence out of your life. You're right, you can provide him a good life..WITHOUT that guy. You seem to have friends and family who will help you and support you! :) and seeking counseling sounds like a good idea also.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
4th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LaurenD1993:</b>" Since i have moved back in with my mom i have been going to counseling and it has helped me think through ... [snip!] ... have anything better to say than u think its funny please remove urself from commenting on my post because u seem very rude"</blockquote>




I'm glad you've been going to counseling. How long have you been living with your mother?

LaurenD1993 Due January 18 (girl); Augusta, Kansas 8 posts
4th Aug '13

I have been with my mom since early june,i cant remember the exact date but i do remember the first apointmemt she went to with me for the baby and it was june 20th and i had been with her for probably 2 weeks or so before that.

Sunnythree Due January 12; 3 kids; Ontario 17 posts
5th Aug '13

I am so sorry dear, for what you have been through. It sounds like you got caught up in all this mess. However, I am thankful you and your baby are not in that environment anymore. You need to stay strong and protect your baby from this life style. Unfortunately he is not a father nor has he ever been. He maybe through DNA, but it takes a real man to raise a child. You are going to need a lot of support take the time for you and your baby to become a family. When the time is right you will find a good man, but be patient and demand the best for you and your baby because you guys deserve it. You can do it, I have seen single mothers do wonders for their child, so focus on your health and your baby. What's done is done, and I am not saying you can turn off a switch so you can stop loving him. However, you have already done so much for your baby to notice he is not a going to be a person that is good your baby. Right now you are most likely wanting that family unit but I feel your baby will do so much better without him in her/his life. You deserved to be treated with respect, with love and don't settle for anything less. Right now that baby loves you unconditionally, and you have proved your self to be a great mom that loves her baby to stay away from a man that poses a dangerous environment for your baby. so kudos to you, stay strong!