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Separation anxiety: Traveling without your SO Strangely Stoic 2 kids; Deerfield Beach, Florida 24847 posts
5th Aug '13

So in a week I am going up to my mom& dad's house for 6 days. I am going with the both kids because Travis needs to work. So here is the deal: I just have this huge not in my stomach and throat. Its a super unpleasant feeling, really uncomfortable and always in the back of my mind. I do not like it at all-it makes me feel so on edge.



In a sense I am dreading going up to my family's house just because I rather not be away from home for this long. Its pretty stupid though because I only see my mom and dad about 4-5 times a year. I want to be happy and excited about this trip SO badly but I can't shake this dark and lame feeling off of me.



Maybe a eency weency part of me is worried: no kids, no wifey for days....it just makes me wonder you know?



We are gonna facetime a bit every day but I dunno. :3 I just don't wanna feel like this at all. I wanna have a shit ton of fun with my mom and kids! Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make this easier on me besides self medicating? lmfao



Is this normal? Do you guys ever feel like this? Meh. >_>

Jays*Mama 2 kids; Michigan 5680 posts
5th Aug '13

So you are worried your husband might cheat? If you trust him normally then only 6 days away shouldn't be an issue. Thats not very long at all.

Mooches 16 kids; Japan 2065 posts
5th Aug '13

Try trusting your husband with your feelings and talking to him about your concern.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
5th Aug '13

I was more afraid of us dying while we were gone. I had an awful feeling about the plane ride. I also worried that something would happen to him and I wouldn't be there to help. I feel like I have control when my family is nearby and so out of control when were apart. Like our connection is lost. It scares me.

Strangely Stoic 2 kids; Deerfield Beach, Florida 24847 posts
5th Aug '13

I'm not really worried hes gonna cheat...I mean I guess like 2% of my brain does. He never has and hopefully never will. We are really open and communicate about other people and talk about anything.



I mean even if I wanted to talk to him I am not too sure what I would say because I am definitely NOT thinking



omahgawddd I'm gonna go and hes gonna cheat on me and have crazy parties. I don't feel like that really...so I don't even know what to tell him so he can comfort me :3

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 22281 posts
status 5th Aug '13

LO and I go visit my family out of state at least once a year with out DH, sometimes twice a year. The first time I was a little sad, but after that I don't really care at all. It also gives me a chance to hang out with all my old friends without having to worry about DH being bored. He's coming back with us in Oct and his good friend there has moved out of state and I'm already worrying about him being bored, lol. I actually kind of prefer to go back without him now, haha. Also, I've never once worried about him cheating.

Strangely Stoic 2 kids; Deerfield Beach, Florida 24847 posts
5th Aug '13
Quoting Intrepid Detective Munch:" I was more afraid of us dying while we were gone. I had an awful feeling about the plane ride. I also ... [snip!] ... like I have control when my family is nearby and so out of control when were apart. Like our connection is lost. It scares me."


^^^ pretty much how I feel minus the dying part. I'm taking a train ha.

Strangely Stoic 2 kids; Deerfield Beach, Florida 24847 posts
5th Aug '13
Quoting Colt's mommy:" LO and I go visit my family out of state at least once a year with out DH, sometimes twice a year. The ... [snip!] ... bored, lol. I actually kind of prefer to go back without him now, haha. Also, I've never once worried about him cheating. "



Thats comforting to read! =] Why do you like going without him? Do you thinkyou have a different kind of fun that you wouldn't be able to have with him there ?

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 22281 posts
status 5th Aug '13
Quoting Strangely Stoic:" Thats comforting to read! =] Why do you like going without him? Do you thinkyou have a different kind of fun that you wouldn't be able to have with him there ? "


Yeah, like I said, I try and visit all my friends when I'm back so I'm doing lunch and dinner dates every day. I feel bad bringing DH along when all we talk about it the old times, lol. And he really hates one of my friends so if DH doesn't come, it elliminates that whole issue. When he has come in the past I usually drop him off at his friends house while they throw a party for him, then I go hang out with my friends, lol. Of course anytime we do something with my family he is involved though. The only reason I'm making him come back this time is because we're celebrating my great grandmothers 100th birthday and I want him to be there for that.

Sofie+#2 Due March 18; TTC since Jun 2014; 1 child; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7767 posts
5th Aug '13

DD and I went to the States with my mom and brother for 2 weeks a couple of months ago. SO couldn't come because he has to work and my grandparents are super strict and we're not allowed to be in the same bed etc.
It did suck being away from him, and I did worry about him. The worst part was when his job let him go while we were away and I wasn't there to make him feel better :( We skyped and stuff most days, it was okay other than that. Just try and have fun with the kids!

Strangely Stoic 2 kids; Deerfield Beach, Florida 24847 posts
5th Aug '13
Quoting Colt's mommy:" Yeah, like I said, I try and visit all my friends when I'm back so I'm doing lunch and dinner dates ... [snip!] ... him come back this time is because we're celebrating my great grandmothers 100th birthday and I want him to be there for that. "


I wish I had friends to hang with when goin up there!! Its a city my parents moved to a year ago. Itll just be us and my mom and dad. Hmmmm: time to bring out some imaginary friends of mine. I'll introduce them to Layah and Noah ha

Strangely Stoic 2 kids; Deerfield Beach, Florida 24847 posts
5th Aug '13
Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" DD and I went to the States with my mom and brother for 2 weeks a couple of months ago. SO couldn't come ... [snip!] ... to make him feel better :( We skyped and stuff most days, it was okay other than that. Just try and have fun with the kids!"


So did you have alot of fun? Would you do it again? OMG that sucks: I would have a panic attack if that shit happened to SO and I was in another country!

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 22281 posts
status 5th Aug '13
Quoting Strangely Stoic:" I wish I had friends to hang with when goin up there!! Its a city my parents moved to a year ago. Itll ... [snip!] ... be us and my mom and dad. Hmmmm: time to bring out some imaginary friends of mine. I'll introduce them to Layah and Noah ha"

Aww, lol. Well, if that were the case I would definitely prefer my DH to go with us but either way would be fine.

Strangely Stoic 2 kids; Deerfield Beach, Florida 24847 posts
5th Aug '13
Quoting Colt's mommy:" Aww, lol. Well, if that were the case I would definitely prefer my DH to go with us but either way would be fine. "



Ya. At least I'll have alot of alone time to think I guess? At home I'm always so busy or have options to keep me occupied. There its alot less to do...maybe I am scared with being alone with my head too much without Travis being there to comfort me or distract me.



Damn. An epiphany.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 22281 posts
status 5th Aug '13
Quoting Strangely Stoic:" Ya. At least I'll have alot of alone time to think I guess? At home I'm always so busy or have options ... [snip!] ... am scared with being alone with my head too much without Travis being there to comfort me or distract me. Damn. An epiphany. "


Bring a couple books? Will your parents be working? Maybe you can plan fun things to do in their city each day?