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I'm loving it Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8472 posts
6th Aug '13

So I'm at my sister's house helping her with a few things and I've been coming here a lot recently. And recently there have been issues with her 5 yo daughter not wanting to listen to adults and just being rude and disrespectful all ways around. So this time I'm over and her daughter got right in my space and started screaming at me because she wasn't getting her way. Her mother dealt with that issue then again today her daughter had a fit and was beyond rude to me because she didn't want what her mother made for lunch. I explained to her that her behavior was not ok and the things she said where mean. So after lunch I made her go lay down and rest without the tv on again she didn't like that and tbought she could get around doing what I told her to do by whining to her mom. This time it didn't work for her her mother backed me up fully and Sarah had to do what she was told. For a long time now my sister and I have had our issues a lot of them about her kids and a lot of them about other things. I'm just loving the fact that now we are at a point where we communicate well with each other and as a result we are working together to make it clear to her children that when they are in my care(even if she is home at the time) they need to listen to what I tell them and they need to be respectful. I'm also loving the fact that we are finally seeing eye to eye when it comes to her children and are working together as a team. And finally I'm so proud of my sister for not backing down or giving into my niece and her fits.

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
6th Aug '13

You're an aunt, not a mother and she doesn't need to co-parent with you.

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15526 posts
6th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:</b>" You're an aunt, not a mother and she doesn't need to co-parent with you."</blockquote>




I agree with this. She is the parent and should do the disciplining not you.

Sugarhiccup LLC ; 5 kids; Lahaina, Hawaii 2825 posts
6th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:</b>" You're an aunt, not a mother and she doesn't need to co-parent with you."</blockquote>




:!:

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8472 posts
6th Aug '13
Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" You're an aunt, not a mother and she doesn't need to co-parent with you."



I'm not saying that she does because by no means are they my children. But it is nice that we are finally working together since I am with her children so much. It's nice to be able to discuss things like this with her as two adults and work together to provide a united front to her children.

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
6th Aug '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:</b>" I'm not saying that she does because by no means are they my children. But it is nice that we are ... [snip!] ... nice to be able to discuss things like this with her as two adults and work together to provide a united front to her children."</blockquote>




When her mothers home you are not in charge. If my sister or even my mother tried telling my child to go lay down with out the TV on I would put them in there place ASAP. It's the parents place to dicipline the child(ren) and no one else's.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8472 posts
6th Aug '13
Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:</b>" I'm not saying that she does ... [snip!] ... with out the TV on I would put them in there place ASAP. It's the parents place to dicipline the child(ren) and no one else's."



When she asks me to watch her children while she gets some stuff done and her daughter goes to her for something and she flat out tells her auntie is watching you because mommy is busy it is my place. And when she is asking me to help her with her children because she is a single parent and needs the help she is the one who has made it my place. She's been working with her daughter on certain issues and is telling me that when Sarah behaves in that manner towards me she wants me to handle the situation because she isn't ok with the way her daughter is talking to adults. If she wasn't ok with me handling I wouldn't be doing it because believe me I much rather just be a fun auntie that comes over to play and doesn't have to deal with the parenting side of things.

tinana+2 TTC since Nov 2013; 2 kids; Staten Island, NY, United States 29537 posts
6th Aug '13
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" When she asks me to watch her children while she gets some stuff done and her daughter goes to her ... [snip!] ... me I much rather just be a fun auntie that comes over to play and doesn't have to deal with the parenting side of things."


Something tells me this wouldn't work either.

mommy2s&b 2 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 62 posts
6th Aug '13

Soo I am new to the site actually my siter just finally got me to sign up My sister is the one who stated this post First let me explain my situation I am a single mom of 2 kids my 5 year old girl Sarah and my 3 year old Bentley Bentley was born with medical issues that we are still trying to have determined he has mutiple therapists and doctors in general its just a hard situation to deal with My sister and i havent always had the best relationship but we are currently in a really great place and i am lucky enough to have a sister who is willing to be so involved If I died tommorow she is the one that would have my children

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8472 posts
6th Aug '13
Quoting tinana+2:" Something tells me this wouldn't work either."



That's how things used to be before she started asking for help. I used to come over spend a few nights hanging out with her and the kids just doing fun things with the kids. Since everything has been going on in her life she has no one else there to help her raise her kids I'm the only family she has that is willing to help her with her children. I don't like having to deal with any type of parenting with her children because they are not my children I've had these convos with her and she is the one who has told me that this is what she needs from me and I'm going to help her because it's what she wants. Another reason behind it is because since she has no other family who are involved with her children she wants to make sure I'm in her kids life like that so if something happens to her her children will let already see me as something like a parent so it will be easier on them if one day she is sick or gone and they then have to come stay with me.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8472 posts
6th Aug '13
Quoting tinana+2:" Something tells me this wouldn't work either."



That's how things used to be before she started asking for help. I used to come over spend a few nights hanging out with her and the kids just doing fun things with the kids. Since everything has been going on in her life she has no one else there to help her raise her kids I'm the only family she has that is willing to help her with her children. I don't like having to deal with any type of parenting with her children because they are not my children I've had these convos with her and she is the one who has told me that this is what she needs from me and I'm going to help her because it's what she wants. Another reason behind it is because since she has no other family who are involved with her children she wants to make sure I'm in her kids life like that so if something happens to her her children will let already see me as something like a parent so it will be easier on them if one day she is sick or gone and they then have to come stay with me.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8472 posts
6th Aug '13
Quoting mommy2s&b:" Soo I am new to the site actually my siter just finally got me to sign up My sister is the one who stated ... [snip!] ... lucky enough to have a sister who is willing to be so involved If I died tommorow she is the one that would have my children "


I love you Jess!

Melissa♥ 1 child; Massachusetts 37472 posts
6th Aug '13

Can I just say this is the way I grew up... If my aunt or uncle disciplined me you bet your ass that I better do what they say whether my parents were there or not..

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8472 posts
6th Aug '13
Quoting Melissa♥:" Can I just say this is the way I grew up... If my aunt or uncle disciplined me you bet your ass that I better do what they say whether my parents were there or not.."


That's exactly how I was raised. I loved having all the extra family members around but when I fucked up that just meant I had all those extra people to whoop my ass. And mind you it wasn't uncommon in my family to get your ads whooped by everyone for whatever it was you did. My sister and I are not doing it like that if an issue comes up whoever had the kids at the time deals with the issue right then unless it's something major then we talk first and either she deals with it or we talk about it and she will tell me to deal with it. That being said she knows how I handle her kids and I don't do anything with her children that she doesn't agree with( except maybe get the sugared out from time to time lol but that's what aunties are for). It's not necessarily a co-parenting relationship but there are co-parenting aspects to the situation.